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RE: Two Tops colliding? - 6/30/2006 11:28:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: TheShadows

We're a happily married Dom/Domme couple, so in our experience, yes it can, and does work....FOR US. We're "Partners in Crime" as well as partners in life, companions, lovers, confidants, etc etc.

We believe there are two important things that enable our relationship work:

1. Mutual Respect - As IB said, we respect each other as people, each others' expertise in certain areas, and trust one another and their judgment completely.
2. Like-Mindedness - As LH touched on, we're both on the same page as far as expectations, likes, dislikes, rules, protocols, discipline, responsibilities, etc.

We feel like if we don't have AT LEAST these two things, our relationship couldn't possibly be peaceful and mutually gratifying for all parties involved. If the two Dominants are butting heads on every front, it can be very difficult to find the common ground and move forward. Too much in-fighting and jockeying for position doesn't bode well, in our opinion.

We would advise a serious, sit-down, lengthy negotiation between the two of you in order to find that common ground before someone gets hurt.

Hope this provides some insight,
TheShadows

Great post, and totally agreed. I've found one dynamic where this works for Me, but the helpful element is that we both seem to identify as sadomasochists at heart. A give-and-take isn't difficult when there is mutual respect, open communication, and empathy acting as a foundation to guide similar interests and the shared desire to explore same together.

That said, I've only found this once.

If the chemistry is right and you both want it enough, why can't it work? ;)

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RE: Two Tops colliding? - 7/1/2006 3:14:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressDiane

We're a Dom Domme Couple. It works.

MsDiane,

Having carefully reviewed your picture, I feel it is incumbant upon me to let you know, you're the only woman I ever truly loved.

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RE: Two Tops colliding? - 7/1/2006 3:26:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: skaterboy

I think I can pull this off? Thank you all for the responses, maybe we can make this work?
Still, I worry as this is one hard headed Domme who hates to relinquish power.
However, she is loving.....butts head agianst the wall....I am sooooo confused! As usual.

Must be keeping track of all those profiles doing it.

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RE: Two Tops colliding? - 7/3/2006 9:18:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: Level

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ORIGINAL: skaterboy

I think I can pull this off? Thank you all for the responses, maybe we can make this work?
Still, I worry as this is one hard headed Domme who hates to relinquish power.
However, she is loving.....butts head agianst the wall....I am sooooo confused! As usual.

Must be keeping track of all those profiles doing it.

I'm confused too!! What happened to kickinchick, Kevin/Fastlane/slowlane/SirMise? Are youyouyouyou no longer considering her? Or was/is she...oh, crap, forget it...this is making my head spin. It is amusing in a trivial, reality-tv kinda way, though.

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RE: Two Tops colliding? - 7/5/2006 12:54:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: Level

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ORIGINAL: skaterboy

I think I can pull this off? Thank you all for the responses, maybe we can make this work?
Still, I worry as this is one hard headed Domme who hates to relinquish power.
However, she is loving.....butts head agianst the wall....I am sooooo confused! As usual.

Must be keeping track of all those profiles doing it.

i think you surmise the situation rather well, Level. fast or slow or even in the skating lane, it's just not kickin' much but dust in the wind, is it?

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RE: Two Tops colliding? - 7/5/2006 6:43:23 AM

MissDiandSirHugh

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It works well for us in all ways and we have been together for 30 years not in the life style for any where near that time but over those years we have got to know each others quirks and kinks rather well.
In times with a Sub each of us has our own specialitys and are able to begin some form of paly while the other is able to help and take part in it but always leting the stater keep the main focus on their special way of bringing to an end,or if so desired change the direction so we can both be completly involved in ecvery way useing our own tallents to reach the final goal.
From it as well one of us is able to sit and just enjoy the other in action and still get the pleasure of seeing it finish to its end glory.
From being able to do things this way we both are able to talk after and make sugestions on what may have happend if such and such was done other than what ever was so that idea may be used at some other time also.

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