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TigressLily -> RE: HOW TO TELL A GIRL ABOUT YOUR SUBMISSIVE NESS WITHOUT HER GETTING HORRIFIED.??? (8/21/2013 10:07:28 PM)
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Thank you for the warm welcome, MistressDarkArt. Since I am new to this, I don't know whether I'm allowed to reply to my own reply! But here goes--Part B. This is such a HUGE issue. I would say complex, but I don't believe it has to be as complicated as some of you male subs have made it. First of all, many of you who claim to be subs aren't genuine submissives. You just want the convenience of being Topped whenever it suits your particular mood (i.e. horniness). You may not be an actual slave or have a slave mentality per se, however, you have become enslaved by your desire nature to gratifying certain kinks and/or fetishes. Then you whine about how your vanilla Significant Other wouldn't understand, or will no longer respect you, so you have to seek your gratification elsewhere. Believe me, that is the least of your concerns. She's already losing or lost respect for you due to your sneaky behavior and lack of integrity she's detected.
I have one male sub friend who complained his wife wasn't interested in having kinky sex. Once she got upset that after a week straight of using a dildo on him, he didn't get sore like she expected him to. Her plan for him to get this kink out of his system had backfired on her, she later admitted. I told him he was lucky he had a wife who would even agree to do this for him to begin with. Some of you males are so fixated by one aspect of the sexual spectrum that you have tunnel vision which ends up ruining any type of intimate relationship you enter into. For example, I was once married to a man who had an unhealthy fixation on cuckolding. I didn't know what the hell was wrong with him until much later in life. Long after I had divorced him, for a number of different reasons. He had no business hooking up with and then marrying a woman who was totally monogamous, who was so possessive herself that she once tattooed over the name of a former girlfriend he had been idiotic enough to tattoo on his body because he kept dragging his feet on having it covered over professionally. (We were really young and wasted at the time, if that's a viable excuse to do something foolish that could have risked blood poisoning.) I wish he would have kept this cuckolding fixation to himself because his relentless hounding drove an irreparable wedge between us. It was as if he wanted to pimp me out to other men. Deal breaker. And I am by no means prudish or sexually inhibited but I am a one-man woman, so I can see both sides of the equation.
Let me leave you angst-ridden men with a word of advice. Besides the usual giving of plenty of foot & full-body massages and NSA offers to perform oral sex, OTK spanking is the vanilla gateway. There isn't a man alive who doesn't do something thoughtless, inconsiderate or just downright stupid that pisses off his SO on a fairly regular basis. Better for you to contritely offer to be disciplined than to endure the silent treatment or withholding of intimate relations. No wife/girlfriend wants to have sex with or give access of her body to a man she's upset with! Give her a way to teach you a lesson. Even little old church-going ladies want to employ this device on men of all ages, the workman who tracks dirt onto her freshly waxed floor or dirties up her guest towels, etc. Get a wide oval wooden hairbrush and keep it on hand. This is also an incredibly physically intimate activity, many men will get an erection or even ejaculate from it, and at some point this will also arouse your partner. She may want to make it a weekly routine. Offer to show her your appreciation afterward and then take it from there. Bon chance!
P.S. I didn't see the other posts until just now. DarkStephen, you make some good points.
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