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Where to begin, what to ask Humiliation - 8/24/2013 9:20:14 AM

Futurecuckold

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With no real time experience my only knowledge of humiliation is from websites, and blogs. I have the good fortune of meeting a Domme who enjoys humiliation and have been told to come up with a list of questions. She is not into scat, blood play, kids nor am I. Am looking for baaic question to ask Help please

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RE: Where to begin, what to ask Humiliation - 8/24/2013 9:30:15 AM

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Still way to general. What are you thinking of in terms of questions? Why humilation is exciting to you? Get a fuckin shrink for about 40 years, or figure it just is....

What will you do to humilate me? You want wanking questions to ask?

What?

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RE: Where to begin, what to ask Humiliation - 8/24/2013 9:56:58 AM

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Questions on humiliation or questions to ask a new play partner?

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RE: Where to begin, what to ask Humiliation - 8/24/2013 12:41:27 PM

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Both actually I am new she is experienced

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RE: Where to begin, what to ask Humiliation - 8/24/2013 1:57:29 PM

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Well for play you could have questions on limits, likes, aftercare, service, honorifics

I'd bear in mind that the Domme probably doesn't only want to be asked kinky questions though (unless that was what you were specifically asked for)

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RE: Where to begin, what to ask Humiliation - 8/24/2013 2:40:38 PM

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I'm still confused. If she wants to play with you with humiliation as the goal, it's really her that needs to be asking the questions. Either that, or she needs for you to provide the material subjects that actually work for you as an individual.

To Me, humiliation is an area similar to punishment. It's all case by case stuff. What is humiliating to one individual might not even phase somebody else. This says to Me that the information is going the wrong way if you are the one asking questions and she is providing the answers. It should be the other way around.

The just for play part, I agree with SoulAlloy. It's My personal belief that everybody should know how to properly negotiate a scene, however, I generally take charge of that when I play.

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RE: Where to begin, what to ask Humiliation - 8/24/2013 6:13:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

To Me, humiliation is an area similar to punishment. It's all case by case stuff...

So true. Because of my affinity for objectification a lot (most? lol) of what I enjoy gets processed by the sub as humiliating. But that's simply a happy byproduct. On the other hand, a lot of what I'm approached with by subs as "humiliating" just bores me.

If she wants to know what you find humiliating, she should ask. If she has areas of humiliation she prefers, she should tell you.

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