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New Daddy Dom here - 8/27/2013 11:27:55 PM

Hillman77

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Luv the site and looking for a lil help or ideas on safety and how to enjoy a 'rape scenario' with a sub I have. It's her fantasy and I want us to enjoy but not have it go wrong. If your experienced in this sort of fetish/fantasy please contact me.

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Mr. Robert

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RE: New Daddy Dom here - 8/28/2013 5:05:01 AM

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Hello and welcome to the forums, I am sure there are a few that will have some advice once your post gets moved. You posted this in the intro instead of down in general BDSM, so I am sure the Mod's will be along soon to move it. Best of luck in getting some answers to your question.

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RE: New Daddy Dom here - 8/28/2013 4:02:45 PM

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Very interesting question.

My girlfriend and I play around with this quite a bit but it isn't anything incredibly deep. It isn't even remotely dangerous for us because she doesn't have any issues. There might be a different dynamic in your relationship that makes it more difficult. Also, maybe you are thinking of a more hard core level scenario.

Personally, I have fantasies of rape. Before I found bdsm, it is possible that I could have ended up as a rapist but I have enough self control. Luckily, one lady introduced me to bdsm. I had a look at what I was really seeking and learnt to love, rather than hate myself. I embraced my desire for power and control, rather than suppressing it. Now love is my fetish as opposed to hate. I meet my needs that way.

I was in jail recently and can help, if you are interested in how rapists think. I made good friends with a number of rapists. Not because I agreed with their crime but because I could empathise with them; I hated their crime but loved them.

About 50% were sorry for what they had done and the other 50% were proud. That is not to say that the 50% that were sorry for what they had done, will not reoffend. On the whole, I am glad that they are kept away.

The main thing about rapists is that they lack an ability to relate to women and communicate what they want. This coupled with selfishness. I think if one can address these issues before conducting the fantasy and make sure that you are on good terms with your demons then it should be ok.

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RE: New Daddy Dom here - 8/28/2013 9:32:31 PM

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Two things come to mind, which may or may not apply to you:

Be careful with abduction scenes that start in public. An eye witness you didn't expect on what you thought was a deserted highway, and the police have ended up called before. They are not very understanding about such games.

Maybe you could get a hotel room, have her go first and leave instructions with the clerk to give you the second key when you come in, then go to bed without the night latch on the door. You come in with the key the clerk gave you. In the little hallway that most hotel rooms have where the bathroom and closet space is, before entering the bedroom area (but behind a locked door out of the way of prying eyes) slip on a ski mask and take off your shoes. Then proceed into the bed chamber to carry out the scene.

Second point, just incase you trip a trigger, this would be an excellent game for a safeword/safe signal to be set up for, don't you think?

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RE: New Daddy Dom here - 8/29/2013 2:17:23 PM

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I asked my girlfriend about your question and she said, 'it is an honour for a woman to be raped by the man that she loves because it means that he aches for her. However, if it was someone that she didn't love then she would kill him'.

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RE: New Daddy Dom here - 8/29/2013 4:51:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Hillman77

Luv the site and looking for a lil help or ideas on safety and how to enjoy a 'rape scenario' with a sub I have. It's her fantasy and I want us to enjoy but not have it go wrong. If your experienced in this sort of fetish/fantasy please contact me.

Thanks,

Mr. Robert

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