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Evanesce -> RE: how do you deal with a jealous and bitchy sister slave or sub who lies (7/4/2006 8:54:04 AM)

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If it were me,I would be secreting a hidden camera in areas neither girl knew about-then watching the resulting footage.

The troublemaker would be out the door.


I'd probably be doing the same thing.  I'm pretty good at reading through bullshit, but when it's right there where they cannot deny what they've done, it makes the job much easier.  I have neither the time nor the patience for petty, vindictive subordinates.




Caretakr -> RE: how do you deal with a jealous and bitchy sister slave or sub who lies (7/4/2006 10:30:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Evanesce

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If it were me,I would be secreting a hidden camera in areas neither girl knew about-then watching the resulting footage.

The troublemaker would be out the door.


I'd probably be doing the same thing.  I'm pretty good at reading through bullshit, but when it's right there where they cannot deny what they've done, it makes the job much easier.  I have neither the time nor the patience for petty, vindictive subordinates.


I tend to be a bit on the harsh side with crap like this. Drama and lying will get one bounced, faster than anything else.




sleazybutterfly -> RE: how do you deal with a jealous and bitchy sister slave or sub who lies (7/4/2006 9:26:22 PM)

People want to know why I am not fond of poly..and this is it..that and I am not fond of sharing (my Sir).
 
I agree with what many said.. why can't she just verify with him what her instructions are..and if she is a grown woman..she should learn to stand up for herself a bit..being a slave does not mean she has to be walked on.. by her Master...but more so..not by her "sister". 
 
I am not a Domme..but I know myself I couldn't put up with this petty crap very long.  The one causing the problem would be out the door..and hell..possibly the one whining about it instead of doing something about it.  I am not there though..so it's hard to say what is going on between the two.  Is one the alpha..and one the second (however that works)?  If one has more power in the house and she is abusing that power, I think the Master should step in and take care of it.  If she is just being a bully..then let her have it back.  If you can't get him to listen..then get out and find someone that can value you. 
 
I feel for her in any case..it's not going to be easy to do anything she decides.  If she says more..she risks him getting mad.. if she doesn't.. he will get mad.. if she leaves.. maybe she doesn't have any place to go.. and when you are a slave...you aren't crazy about any of those options. 
 
                                ~andrea




Caretakr -> RE: how do you deal with a jealous and bitchy sister slave or sub who lies (7/4/2006 9:37:36 PM)

I've done poly in the past, and it was a mess-not because I wasn't up to sharing-but because I made poor choices in material.

Lesson I learned? There is no such thing as a "first girl", if you want things to run smoothly. Screw assigning a slave hierarchal power. Keep it equal with the two, and this crap won't happen-the egos stay flattened amoung them.

But I WILL assign the punishment routine to the one who did NOT screw up. It's very karmic-when the one you sin against-is the one who does the pay back.[;)]




Passion357 -> RE: how do you deal with a jealous and bitchy sister slave or sub who lies (7/6/2006 5:04:38 AM)

The beginning of the post does say it all to me. "for a friend because she would get in trouble if she did". Uh uh- no way. No matter the reason she thinks she will get in trouble, that is a very wrong situation to be in.
I have seen it work several ways:
Maybe the "bitchy lying slave" is really just being mean. If so the Master, and here I use the term loosely, is letting her get away with it.
Maybe the "victim" slave is really the poor lost soul who has no one left to turn to. If so, she needs to get da hell outta dodge.
Maybe the "bitchy lying" slave is being lied on.
Maybe the "victim" slave is the "bitchy lying" slave.

My personal opinion. I think the victim really is the victim. I have seen such happen. She needs to, first off, make a stand for herself - and mean it. She needs to tell the other girl that she simply will not listen to her any longer. Not until she can be trusted. She needs to go to her Owner and tell Him, in d-e-t-a-i-l, what's really going on, in her eyes. He needs to stop administering punishment and start showing justice. This situation could really harm the girl who is being lied on. (I think it already has)
I just don't know how to make it clear that this is completely wrong. The whole relationship is a whirl wind of trauma. Where is the M/s here? Where is the Poly? All I see is two People being weakened and ruled by a girl who really needs to be bent over a knee and introduced to Mr. Punishment Belt.
                                                                                            Well Wishes,
                                                                                               ~Mate'~




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