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plutaro -> does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 3:22:32 PM)
my eyebags are my feature i am most proud of i think its tells alot about who i am to everyone, i dont know anyone else that likes them but i think their cute. I wish i had pale, white ghostly skin like a milk bottle it just looks so innocent and fragile. But i just want to know why do i get so many doms that are old guys looking at my profile be honest tellme why i get so many looking at me. I get a few dom girls looking at me but they never say anything. Tell it to me straight

Rasciallymisty -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 4:29:38 PM)
The female Dom's are called Domme's or Mistresses. You most likely get a lot of older man looking at your profile because they have hopes of a young sweet thing like yourself as being theirs. Many never say hi if they do not think you will be a match. Since your profile is mainly negative they will keep passing you by till you make an up beat profile. With so many male sub's on here they sure do not want someone who is so down on life and themselves. You are also new or what is known as fresh meat, in time it will quiet down some. [:D]

plutaro -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 4:35:28 PM)
really, i thought it would be attractive to a mistress..... i thought you were supposed to be awe inspired by your master/mistress and look up to them. I did so much research on bdsm i thought i really had it figured out.

Rasciallymisty -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 4:36:08 PM)
I forgot to say welcome to CM and the forums, this side is where discussions take place the other side is where you will find that in which seek. Here is some advice I usually give new male sub's....I think you can really use it. 1- Your profile is lacking big time. Make your profile one that the Domme's will want to read. Tell them more on what your likes are in the vanilla world your enjoyments other than sex. But do not make an all about me profile or all about your D/s likes and dislikes. Maybe read a few other subs profiles and see how they have wrote theirs and maybe take some ideas to use in yours. 2- Head down to the Mistress, Master and sub/slave thread's and maybe join in some of the discussions. The only ones I might say beware of is Politics and Religion unless you like getting into some debates. 3- Use the search on this side ( little button up there on top ^^^^ on the right hand side) if you have some questions as they may have already been asked...or ask away. Please just watch the dates on the threads and do not respond to anything that is more than three months old....as the Mod's are not fond of us doing so. You can always start a new one with your question. 4- Your pictures are okay but maybe clean them up some. Never post nude pics.....women tend to dislike them. They like action pics of you doing things like maybe boating, skiing, things along those lines. Things you are into not related to D/s. 5- Check out ResidentSadist book list, its a great list and can help you get info on WIITWD or go to general BDSM thread and there is a good book list there as well. Its nice to have you join us here on the forums and hopefully you will stick around and join in on some of the discussions. Do beware some peeps are super kewl on this side and some not so kewl. Have a thick skin and you will do fine. Hope you enjoy your time here.

plutaro -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 4:51:31 PM)
my photos are done with a webcam so i have to press print screen with one hand and its not really meant to be a webcam so it doesnt have any software which lets take photos with a timer. Do they really want to hear about me?! , what do dommes want to hear, most i read want money. I just figured we would learn about each other together through our journey together. I thought bdsm was the truest expression of getting to know ones self.

DarkSteven -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 5:15:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: plutaro my photos are done with a webcam so i have to press print screen with one hand and its not really meant to be a webcam so it doesnt have any software which lets take photos with a timer. Do they really want to hear about me?! , what do dommes want to hear, most i read want money. I just figured we would learn about each other together through our journey together. I thought bdsm was the truest expression of getting to know ones self. Hi, fella. Looking at a profile is not a commitment. In my case, I viewed yours from curiosity. Just because I'm a straight male Dom doesn't mean I only look at straight femsub profiles. Quit reading porn and watching video clips. If you want to learn about the lifestyle, just read the forums. Hint - almost all of us live in the real world. We hold jobs, make payments, mow the grass, and cook dinner. FinDommes want money, and lifestyle Dommes want relationships. Some do both. Some, like MistressAvarice, are sub in lifestyle relationships and Domme professionally. Welcome to the forums.

angelikaJ -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 5:26:54 PM)
I am [my] Master's slave. I am His property and also His prized possession. Slaves are not worthless. You say you don't have any skills. Why not? Learn. Find a simple recipe and follow it. Donate your time somewhere.

plutaro -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 5:27:14 PM)
I dont watch video clips or read porn!!! i looked up all the definitions i thought bdsmtrainingacademy was a good source so i tried to teach myself. I read from other places to where a sub would talk about her point of view and dom would talk about his point of view in a session they had together. I did try you must seriously believe me i didnt try to half ass it. I never said it was a commitment im just saying i am getting alot of messages from older dom guys that want to try me out

angelikaJ -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 5:38:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: plutaro my eyebags are my feature i am most proud of i think its tells alot about who i am to everyone, i dont know anyone else that likes them but i think their cute. I wish i had pale, white ghostly skin like a milk bottle it just looks so innocent and fragile. But i just want to know why do i get so many doms that are old guys looking at my profile be honest tellme why i get so many looking at me. I get a few dom girls looking at me but they never say anything. Tell it to me straight Men are more likely to engage in sex for the sake of sex. Sometimes they look because they think you might be easy. If you want to be easy, then fine (and practice safer sex). If you want a committed relationship then hold out for that.

plutaro -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 5:43:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ I am [my] Master's slave. I am His property and also His prized possession. Slaves are not worthless. You say you don't have any skills. Why not? Learn. Find a simple recipe and follow it. Donate your time somewhere. I never said slaves are worthless i ....... said i am, you guys are turning everything i say and you keep assuming things. I try to learn, honest i do its not the learning its the memorizing that's hard to me. The only skill i have is being able to negotiate and bargain, i can cook a little and i guess some people like my writing, i can role play really good if i feel in sync with the other person. I have donated my time plenty of times at a old persons home, a terminally ill children's hospital all i did was carry things and fetch things.

VideoAdminChi -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 5:50:49 PM)
FR, This thread is now in Ask a Mistress.

plutaro -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 5:52:09 PM)
thankyou for the advise i will try to follow it forgive me for being so clueless

deliriuminabox -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 5:59:45 PM)
You're probably getting lots of views from male doms because you're listed as being bisexual. And you're kinda pretty. ^^ You may view yourself as worthless and I suppose you're entitled to whatever self image you wish to cultivate but most women aren't going to be interested in a guy who's given up on himself at the ripe old age of 22. You're young enough to LEARN a few skills and DEVELOP your individual worth. Trust me, that will go a lot farther than simply hoping someone will come along and decide to "train you as a slave" ... I think you need to realize that there are lots of male submissives out there. You're competing with a plethora of other guys. You wanna be attractive to a dominant, male or female? Show some initiative, sweetie. No one wants a lazy lover.

angelikaJ -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 6:13:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: plutaro quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ I am [my] Master's slave. I am His property and also His prized possession. Slaves are not worthless. You say you don't have any skills. Why not? Learn. Find a simple recipe and follow it. Donate your time somewhere. I never said slaves are worthless i ....... said i am, you guys are turning everything i say and you keep assuming things. I try to learn, honest i do its not the learning its the memorizing that's hard to me. The only skill i have is being able to negotiate and bargain, i can cook a little and i guess some people like my writing, i can role play really good if i feel in sync with the other person. I have donated my time plenty of times at a old persons home, a terminally ill children's hospital all i did was carry things and fetch things. Practice, practice, practice! That is how one learns and remembers what one learns. Don't be afraid of making mistakes: that is a part of learning. And if you want to be a good slave, making mistakes gracefully will come in handy. [8D] I never said you said slaves were worthless. I was inferring that there are very few people who will want a worthless slave.

plutaro -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 6:19:24 PM)
But don't you need a passion for the skills you are learning, i have been trying to teach myself how to massage i think a lot of people would like that i guess i didn't really think out my profile. I never saw it the ways you guys saw it i just thought..in my eyes that i was eager to learn and excited about it but i guess..my eyebags and description gives of the impression i am depressed. I will try to make it more ..upbeat and descriptive about myself and my skills i haven't really read up much on competition but most seemed to be like a couple of lines so i thought i did pretty good.

plutaro -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 6:25:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ quote: ORIGINAL: plutaro quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ I am [my] Master's slave. I am His property and also His prized possession. Slaves are not worthless. You say you don't have any skills. Why not? Learn. Find a simple recipe and follow it. Donate your time somewhere. I never said slaves are worthless i ....... said i am, you guys are turning everything i say and you keep assuming things. I try to learn, honest i do its not the learning its the memorizing that's hard to me. The only skill i have is being able to negotiate and bargain, i can cook a little and i guess some people like my writing, i can role play really good if i feel in sync with the other person. I have donated my time plenty of times at a old persons home, a terminally ill children's hospital all i did was carry things and fetch things. Practice, practice, practice! That is how one learns and remembers what one learns. Don't be afraid of making mistakes: that is a part of learning. And if you want to be a good slave, making mistakes gracefully will come in handy. [8D] I never said you said slaves were worthless. I was inferring that there are very few people who will want a worthless slave. i never thought about it that way, i thought the mistresses/masters were ..like doing a act of kindness towards a slave by spending time with them so they would consider almost anybody. I am so stupid i never thought you had to prove your worth if you were willing and eager to learn..so i'll have to help pique their interest in me. Thank you that has really helped me understand alot more.

MissToYouRedux -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 7:50:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: plutaro ... i thought the mistresses/masters were ..like doing a act of kindness towards a slave by spending time with them... A common misperception. I can't even count the number of times I've had to tell subs I'm not Mother Teresa. [:D]

JeffBC -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 9:28:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: plutaro my eyebags are my feature i am most proud of i think its tells alot about who i am to everyone, I have generally dark circles under my eyes and perhaps some "eye bags" and no, I'm not particularly proud of them and wish it wasn't so. That all being said women don't seem to find an issue with my horrendously disfigured eye bags. I suspect it's the giant beak nose they can't get past :)

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 10:43:40 PM)
Fast Reply Your problem is, you are trying to learn about human interaction based on something you read online. While there are some good non-fiction books out there about BDSM and D/s, human relationships are much, much more complicated than can adequately be described in a few pages. You read something on line, and now people who are actually living this lifestyle are telling you it isn't quite right. You need to read and take it all in. There is no one simple answer to any question about D/s. You seem to be the type of person who likes black and white, clear distinctions, and things behaving as they are supposed to. But real life isn't like a physics lab, and people act according to their own desires and concerns, not a set of rules on a website. I understand you want a reference point because you don't have much experience with people who do BDSM or D/s. But you know people who have relationships, right? Some people in your family and social circle must be married, dating, or having lots of casual sex? And I bet every one of those relationships is different. You can't just split up the couples and shuffle people around, because they are more complicated that their roles. When you say 'subs are supposed to be in awe of the dom' it's a bit like saying 'wives should make all the interior decorating decisions'. It comes off as a bit naive. I'm not in awe of my husband. I love him, respect him, trust him... but he's a human being who makes mistakes and sometimes gets grumpy or needs a bath etc. If I lived in a perpetual state of awe, the relationship wouldn't be sustainable. I have a realistic view of who he is, flaws and all, and I decide that he is worthy of my love and I submit to him. You're buying in to the romance of D/s. Any time you hear words like 'deeper', 'truer' or 'more intense' be sceptical. It's just a relationship between two people who happen to prefer that one of them takes more power than the other. It's not inherently better than any other type of relationship. The whole thing about it being the best way to get to know yourself is bollocks. Of course you will learn about yourself; I think you do in any relationship. But you shouldn't be relying on another person to show you who you are. You should be working towards that yourself. At 22 you should be moving past the awkward 'newly formed adult' phase and have some idea of who you are as a man and what you have to offer. And there's your next problem. Yes of course you will spend time getting to know each other. But use your common sense - why would she take the time to get to know you without some spark of interest? If you are picking a book to read you look at the cover and read the blurb. You don't stumble in to Barnes and Noble with your eyes closed and purchase the first thing you touch and expect to enjoy it. If I'm looking for a sub, I'm not going to spend hours and hours talking to random people just on the off chance that they might be looking for the same thing and be interesting - I'm going to give myself a head start and contact someone who shows me they are interesting. You need to figure out who you are and what you have to offer. Contrary to popular belief dominants don't generally want a blank canvas, they want someone awesome. Wouldn't you, if you had your pick of the world? PS. Your journal entry about being tricked just advertises that you are easy to trick, especially the part about needing a friend to check things out for you. Makes you come across very childlike.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: does anyone like eyebags (8/29/2013 10:53:27 PM)
Seriously? You're all about your eyebags b/c you have pale skin? Well golly gee welcome to the wonderful world of the discussion board. You can learn a lot here, but we can't give you self esteem you don't have. The only people interested in those with no self esteem are predators. Got that? Stop making yourself the victim. You're 22 years old, and you don't appear to have much joy in life or in yourself. Go to the library and find some self help books and start fixing that. Being an emotionally whole person capable of finding joy is your best bet for finding someone who will treat you well. (BTW Athena you finally have cmail.)

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