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chatterbox24 -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 10:58:53 AM)
decorate a pedestal with flowers and ribbons, place rose petals to it in secret ( or have a woman do it) lol. Take her to dinner bring her home lead her there , place her there, and say Although I am your Master, Let this be a forever reminder of the place in my heart you hold to me for eternity. Then get ready to catch her, because she is going to faint cause she knows she will never see that again from you.[sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif]

OsideGirl -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 11:12:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: petitespot My fantasy proposal... spooning in bed after a long fun day together and as I'm falling asleep he whispers in my ear "marry me". That's pretty close to how the big guy proposed to me. It was a Monday morning, we were snuggling in bed and I was about to get up to go home and then go to work. He told me he didn't want me to leave....and then proposed.

LittleGirlHeart -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 11:13:05 AM)
I am glad Carol liked it. I would hate a public showy request. I want that kind of thing very intimate, just us two. :) quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC I got down on one knee in a restaurant in front of the stage and proposed while the band paused. Everyone clapped and cheered. It is one of Carol's fondest memories. Giving the woman I love life-long memories is very wellaligned with my own values and I'm damned glad I chose to go the theatrics route. That's actually a core value for me so it worked out well all around. In general, we have no role-based D/s so stuff like kneeling is a non-issue.

hlen5 -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 3:37:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt various people did readings. We started out with Himself and I doing a very humorous reading -- in unison-- from the Princess Bride. That sounds lovely!! Did you you do the bishop's monologue? Ma-wadge??

littlewonder -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 3:44:08 PM)
I'm traditional. I still want a man to get down on one knee and surprise me with a ring. My husband did it. We were on a group outing with a bunch of other navy guys after his bootcamp graduation. He had all of them gather together in a circle, pulled me in the middle and he got down on one knee and proposed. I was totally shocked and thought it was the sweetest thing ever. It's something that will last forever in my memory.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 4:00:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ARIES83 Besides, how many other cultures kneel to ask the question anyway, I'm pretty sure it's a mainly western thing... And I find that idea a bit troubling... That made me laugh out loud. NO. It is NOT just a western thing. In Asia, the whole one knee is the tiniest fraction of what they do. A REAL kneeling is on both knees, hands over the head on the floor, head on the fingers prostrate. There are actually special clothes and food, serving tea to the parents while kneeling, and the couple both participate with the begging of the parents. There is all manner of ritual around it.

littlewonder -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 4:05:02 PM)
That reminds me that after my husband proposed, the next day he called my dad and asked his permission. I found that just as sweet. Like I said, I'm old fashioned.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 4:14:21 PM)
I like the idea of a man going to the parents. It's not a "permission" thing in my head so much as a... I-honor-your-role-in-creating-this-magnificent-person. There is a moment in My Big Fat Greek Wedding in which John Corbett's character kisses the hand of her father. That moment touches me because it is such a humble and grateful gesture. There is some sort of creating an equality, "I'm a man who will take care of your precious daughter," which makes me tear up at the thought of it. By the same token, I as a woman would want to do that with a man's family. I would want them to know that their son is safe with me, that I will protect him and care for him. When I met my ex-lover's mother, I told her how much I appreciated the man he was and that was due in no small part to her. I think there is something just plain right about recognizing that (if it's appropriate and real). Your post, little wonder, reminded me of this video. It kind of speaks to what I've written - a father letting the young man know what he's getting. You can see the man tearing up. I think they probably have a good man-to-man relationship. I'm feeling very happy now. Thanks (was having a rough-ish morning).

Sheela22 -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 4:27:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss quote: ORIGINAL: ARIES83 Besides, how many other cultures kneel to ask the question anyway, I'm pretty sure it's a mainly western thing... And I find that idea a bit troubling... That made me laugh out loud. NO. It is NOT just a western thing. In Asia, the whole one knee is the tiniest fraction of what they do. A REAL kneeling is on both knees, hands over the head on the floor, head on the fingers prostrate. There are actually special clothes and food, serving tea to the parents while kneeling, and the couple both participate with the begging of the parents. There is all manner of ritual around it. Funny thing is my mom is Asian yet my parents' proposal story is the LEAST romantic and non-traditional story EVER! LOL..

hlen5 -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 4:28:46 PM)
Sunny thanks SO MUCH for that video!!

littlewonder -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 4:29:58 PM)
thank you for that sunshine. It made me cry and in a good way. It actually helped me as much as mine helped you. I've been kinda lost some faith lately and that has reminded me of that fact. So thank you. [:)]

Politesub53 -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 5:12:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ARIES83 I've always thought the idea of literally getting down on one knee to not be a very appealing way of proposing... It's not who I am, It's not a reflection of my values, and it's not an indication of how I would like to have a relationship. It's tradition, and I understand how important that stuff is for some people, and I think that women tend to have very specific fantasies about their wedding day... And that I guess is what I would like to know... From women who identify as subs and slaves, what would your ideal method of proposal be? Aries, Look at it this way. Most women would, I suspect, see a conventional marriage proposal, from someone in the lifestyle, as very romantic. The fact you have gone against the grain (Regards your dominance) and gone down on one knee would be thrilling. Its shows a commitment of equals, even though it is a given you will be in control. Dont worry too much, I think in tangents. [;)]

Politesub53 -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 5:15:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt A tat or branding, if you are into those things. One needs to be sure it`s forever when getting a tat, infact one needs to be sure the other person thinks it`s forever as well. Just a heads up, or in my case, arse up.

NuevaVida -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 6:02:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: petitespot My fantasy proposal... spooning in bed after a long fun day together and as I'm falling asleep he whispers in my ear "marry me". Jeezus. Made my entire body one big goosebump. I remember a time early on with him & I. One of our shared favorite songs was playing and I just dropped to my knees - couldn't help myself. To my surprise, he dropped to his knees, too, and we just kneeled together, holding each other, kissing....that would be a cool proposal moment, too, come to think of it. Wayyy too early back then, though. Private and intimate for me. No gestures of grandeur - please oh please nothing public.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 6:44:48 PM)
We did, we lisped all the way through it in unison. Broke the ice great and set the tone for the entire ceremony. Not only are we both Princess Bride fans, but also (don't tell anyone) we talk in lisp speak sometimes with each other. I don't know why, it's one of our 'things.' Ma-wadge, that bwessed awwangement . . .

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 7:06:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ARIES83 I've always thought the idea of literally getting down on one knee to not be a very appealing way of proposing... It's not who I am, It's not a reflection of my values, and it's not an indication of how I would like to have a relationship. It's tradition, and I understand how important that stuff is for some people, and I think that women tend to have very specific fantasies about their wedding day... And that I guess is what I would like to know... From women who identify as subs and slaves, what would your ideal method of proposal be? Being swept up and carried over the threshold is one tradition I do like, what traditions around marriage do you like or think go well with the idea of D/s and which in your mind don't? Can't respond....I'm not a chic.

littlewonder -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/30/2013 10:25:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Politesub53 quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt A tat or branding, if you are into those things. One needs to be sure it`s forever when getting a tat, infact one needs to be sure the other person thinks it`s forever as well. Just a heads up, or in my case, arse up. Imo, people should be thinking that before they even pop the question. This imo is what is wrong with marriage. People DON'T think about it the same way one would think of a tat or branding where imo, that should be thought of even MORESO than a tat or branding. Again, I'm old fashioned. I believe marriage to be forever unless under extreme circumstances and not something I would take lightly. I would rather get a tat or branding before I ever get married and I'm one of those people who would love to get remarried.

hlen5 -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/31/2013 1:40:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt We did, we lisped all the way through it in unison. Broke the ice great and set the tone for the entire ceremony. Not only are we both Princess Bride fans, but also (don't tell anyone) we talk in lisp speak sometimes with each other. I don't know why, it's one of our 'things.' Ma-wadge, that bwessed awwangement . . . That dweem wivvin a dweem.... Looooooove it!! I'm a huge P Bride fan too. That would have been great to see!! It used to be pirate talk between me and another. We still wish each other a Happy "Talk Like a Pirate Day" (Sep 19th for those who care to know!)!!

ShaharThorne -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/31/2013 3:57:28 AM)
ACK! No marriage proposal for me! I don't want to be shackled for the 3rd time! I love being free!

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s (8/31/2013 4:51:57 AM)
That's what I told Himself when we first started getting serious: 'don't ever expect marriage, b/c it's not in the cards.' And I proposed to him -- basically I told him I'd change my mind about the whole marriage idea. Six months later we did the deed.

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