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Dont be "that" girl - 8/31/2013 10:44:50 PM

purplelobster

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//edit// I realized this applies equally to men as well. So women, please forgive me as this was originally written in response to profiles I saw that belonged to women.

//edit// This was done in humor and not meant to be a troll post :D

Here's a list of things that you shouldn't do:

1. Rely solely on a picture as bait.

You wonder why you get penis pictures. You wonder why guys message you saying "oh you need a spanking." Well duh, all you are doing is catering to the most basic of instincts. I don't even know if it touches on physical attraction but you really aren't offering much. A face pic with no written autobiography is about as effective as a boob pic. What kind of fish do you expect with that kind of paint?

2. Write one or two sentences in your profile. If you write "oh I'm looking for my soulmate," that tells potential matches nothing about who you are or what you have to offer. Also, there's no specificity about what you are looking for. Potential matches will skip the chore of taking a shot in the dark as more descriptive profiles will appear to be better options. Think of this as your resume. Use action verbs! Be specific about who you are and what you want!

3. Cop out and say "I never know what to put in these things.

"Lame. No one wants to be with someone who cant advocate for themselves. Thats like showing up for a job interview and saying "well, I'm really bad these things so I won't able to tell you about myself but you should hire me anyway."

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RE: Dont be "that" girl - 9/1/2013 2:59:04 AM

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All of us who frequent the profiles, who have been here for years, thank you for your post intended for newbies who do not frequent the forums.

Seriously, it's your first post. You're giving us all advice?

Saying that women get dick pics and HNGs telling them they should be spanked that it's THEIR fault for not filling out their profiles? Your basic premise is that, if a man gets no guidance from a profile, he'll show his baser nature, but if a profile shows him how to approach a woman, he'll do it politely. That runs counter to several million women's posted experiences.

If you just said that you prefer filled-out profiles, it'd go over better. Although if I see a pic and no profile, I think of a scammer. That first cartoon may be accurate.

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RE: Dont be "that" girl - 9/1/2013 3:40:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

All of us who frequent the profiles, who have been here for years, thank you for your post intended for newbies who do not frequent the forums.

Seriously, it's your first post. You're giving us all advice?

Saying that women get dick pics and HNGs telling them they should be spanked that it's THEIR fault for not filling out their profiles? Your basic premise is that, if a man gets no guidance from a profile, he'll show his baser nature, but if a profile shows him how to approach a woman, he'll do it politely. That runs counter to several million women's posted experiences.

If you just said that you prefer filled-out profiles, it'd go over better. Although if I see a pic and no profile, I think of a scammer. That first cartoon may be accurate.

Welcome to the forums.

This. If a person's logic is 'hey, this person's profile is blank, so the most logical course of action is to send a dick picture and a comment about her tits' then I'd rather he show me that side of himself up front.

For the record, I'm a big advocate of people filling out their profiles - why bother making a person ad and then putting no effort into it? But it doesn't prevent the horny clueless folks sending pointless messages. My profile explicitly states that I'm owned and that I don't play with others. And I still get several requests a week for cam sex, nude photos, or to dominate them by cam. Some of them even start with 'I know you are owned, I would just like to talk and learn' followed by a series of the most wanktastic questions you could imagine. Frankly I would prefer those folks just sent me a cock shot so I know to delete them right away.

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RE: Dont be "that" girl - 9/1/2013 4:27:11 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Seriously, it's your first post. You're giving us all advice?

Hey Steven,

The post is made mostly in jest :P. Whether or not it holds anything of value to newbies/vets, is up to the beholder!

Hey, if I'm going to make my first post on the boards, I want it to be memorable'ish? Look at all of those "how to" videos on youtube :P

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

If you just said that you prefer filled-out profiles, it'd go over better. Although if I see a pic and no profile, I think of a scammer. That first cartoon may be accurate.

But that would be too straight-forward. Whats the fun in that?

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Thanks for the reply!

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RE: Dont be "that" girl - 9/1/2013 5:50:52 AM

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Ok, since you're just teasing, and not trolling, welcome to the forums. Have fun!

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RE: Dont be "that" girl - 9/1/2013 7:19:21 AM

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The same thing applies to men. Filling out the profile won't guarantee anything but it gives better odds.

But the shark cartoon is cute.

However, op, what you aren't realizing is that any woman here gets unsolicited mail. They don't have to actively search to find a guy interested in them.

If a new member, several hundred emails a day is quite possible.

In fact, one of the reasons they don't fill out their profiles is that they're trying hard to get people not to write them. Because if I wrote that I love Golden Retrievers and pistachio ice cream, I guarantee you that I would shortly get an email claiming those are his two favorite things and therefore I should abandon my family to move to BFE, AR to be his slave.

I've been taken from before I first came on the site and I still get mail from guys wanting me to be their dommes, wanting me to serve him and his wife, and so on. I have no pictures of anything except cookies and I still get heavy breathing emails about the pics of my breasts which I don't have up.

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RE: Dont be "that" girl - 9/1/2013 7:46:44 AM

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Actually, I filled out my profile and all I seem to get is messages from women in one of five west African countries claiming to be American but are stuck in the country because their boyfriend got arrested for drugs or murder, or was killed and need money to come back to the states after paying a hotel bill (hotel holding the sender's passport) and all kinds of other terrible things....

Or messages from women who still in contact long enough to discover I am bipolar and then vanish.

which led to my present profile incarnation.

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RE: Dont be "that" girl - 9/1/2013 8:03:51 AM

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Oh and Jeff, about #17. If you take Bambi the meat will be much more tender and he won't grow up to sire any more deer. That's a win/win in my book.

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RE: Dont be "that" girl - 9/1/2013 8:38:30 AM

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If certain types of guys smell out a poster is a woman, they will send them obnoxious posts. Among other things, I think this type of person doesn't even read the profiles. It doesn't mean fill them out, if you are looking for someone seriously it is a good start, hopefully someone serious will read it and decide if you might be for them..but the ones sending dick pictures and such don't read then I am pretty sure. I get messages all the time from people who haven't bothered to read my profile, I get guys telling me they want to do rape scenes with me, guys telling me I am their perfect slave and submit, all kinds of weird shit (and my profile pretty much says I am social on here, not really looking for anyone, looking at most for chat) and they totally ignore it *shrug*.

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RE: Dont be "that" girl - 9/1/2013 8:39:33 AM

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I do and don't agree with you.

I agree that being vague isn't in a woman's best interest, especially vague in the sense that the reader can see she has an unrealistic idea of what she's looking for, or assumes that there is some rating system out there that everyone uses and therefore only wants the "real" Doms to contact her. Whatever. Yes, throwing out a general stereotype as a partner request is about as useful as saying you need to eat and sleep to stay alive. It's also generally true that if you put out nude pictures, you get people answering that are interested in sex. As a general rule, your theory is true.

You're being unrealistic however if you think that anything on a woman's profile holds back the flood of clueless idiot replies from men who want to get laid, they don't read profiles anyway. All they care about is if she's female. Read the journals sometime, there have been lots of women and men trying this theory out over the years I've been here. Someone will start an obviously fake profile, ex: StupidProfile, and still get scores of men writing to meet Ms. StupidProfile.

I have found, and it seems that scores of other women have found as well that it doesn't matter what the hell is in your profile to a certain point, you'll get the penis pictures and idiot responses anyway. Sure, I agree that what you put out there is generally indicative of what you get back. In the situation where you have something that many people want (mouth, vagina, ass), it really doesn't matter to a great degree what you say. However, if you're looking for good partner material, hell yes, you should write your profile with some care and post pictures that will work to that end.

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RE: Dont be "that" girl - 9/1/2013 9:00:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: purplelobster
Here's a list of things that you shouldn't do:

1. Rely solely on a picture as bait...You wonder why guys message you saying "oh you need a spanking." Well duh, all you are doing is catering to the most basic of instincts...

2. Write one or two sentences in your profile. If you write "oh I'm looking for my soulmate," that tells potential matches nothing about who you are or what you have to offer...