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stormiKnightBEAR -> Opinions please...How would you... (11/16/2004 11:16:51 AM)
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How would you answer to the following if you were describing your Master/Dom/Mistress?
Does your feelings count or have they often been dismissed.
Sirs and Ma'ams, does any of this make you stop and think "do I do that?".
stormi was merely wondering. These days there is alot going on in the email from
various clubs that stormi belongs to addressing the topic of the following poem. Please
remember this is merely a question. Not looking to bash anyone or hurt anyone.
There is from a sub/bottom/slave stand point these days about emotional abuse. Someone
felt they were in a situation that emotional abuse was the case. When actually what really needed
to be done was COMMUNICATION
This was written from a slave to his/her Master. But as you can see in some of the
questions it could come from either end.
Listen
When I ask you to listen to me, and you start to give advice you have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me, and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen, All I asked was that you listen, not talk or do - just hear me.
Advice is cheap, two cents will get you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same newspaper.
And I can do for myself, I'm not helpless.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and weakness.
But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and can get about the business of understanding whats behind the irrational feeling.
And when that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when we understand whats behind them Perhaps that's why prayer works, sometimes, for some people because God is mute and he doesn't give advice or try to fix things - God just listens and lets you work it out for yourself.
So Please - Listen and just hear me. And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn and I listen to you.
by Annonymous
Be well,
stormi
property of Master Bear ([email protected])
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