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tommonymous -> RE: Is he the real deal as far as you can tell? (9/6/2013 8:14:37 PM)
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
I've been around long enough where I'm familiar with most of the lists.
But, I will give you my perspective from when I was single. There was no way I was doing chores for a guy I was dating. I worked full time, had my own place, and I had maid service. I wasn't about to take my free time and clean the house of someone else when we could be spending that time actually interacting.
Yeah, and I'm sure it was loaded with kinky sex questions as well as a few more mundane ones. But none of us had any idea which list was used, whether the guy had downloaded it or made up himself. My point was just to give the guy a little benefit of doubt. (Even though we all know the kink questions are the only ones that matter. [:D])
I totally agree with this. I wouldn't consider a good house cleaning a first-date activity. Wait, I guess if she really, really, wanted to, I'd let her. But just because I'm such a good guy...
Seriously, though, those of us who are looking for a relationship on the internets (And I guess I somewhat reluctantly count myself in this group--I'm too old-fashioned to be happy about that, but here we are...) are essentially shopping for a mate. So, I don't think a "here's what I like/ dislike/ will do/ won't do/ want to try/ won't try" checklist can be a kind of handy way to cut to the chase.
If a girl's going to expect me to earn income for two, care for the cars, run and maintain the house, mow the lawn, and cook and clean up after both of us, I'd sure like to know in advance. If we live a few hundred miles apart, I don't exactly get to spend a lot of time at her house, getting a sense for how she normally lives and what her expectations are in a relationship. So, the checklist becomes a bit more handy. Again, the assumption is that everyone's at least somewhat self-aware and being honest about things. And I guess it's ultimately quicker to weed out with a checklist than with a couple of weeks' worth of emails. Pretty damn romantic, eh? [;)]
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