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hi all,
I have met a dominant couple online and also met them for a coffee. We got on well and next weekend i will be serving them for the first time at their home.
Be sure what you are getting yourself into. Have you discussed what is off limits to you? Have you agreed about the use of safe words? Do you have any health problems that they should be aware of which might put you in a dangerous situation if not communicated? Have they discussed with you what they are going to do with you? If you answer any of these questions with a response that indicates that you have not discussed these things, then you should rethink getting together with them until things are made absolutely clear.
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As part of my servitude i will be required to serve the Dom orally. I am a hetro sub but have agreed to this as i believe the act can be carried out in a D/s context as a act of submission.
You indicate that you are nervous about performing the act itself. Why are you nervous? If you are nervous about it, why did you agree to do it? I am a straight male, I cannot imagine a scenario where another man has his penis in my mouth that would be acceptable to me even if I was a submissive. Is this where your nervousness stems from or is it something deeper?
Do you trust these people enough to be sure that once they have you restrained that they will not change their requirements and force you to service the man anally? It is not as outlandish as it may sound. Trust is essential in BDSM, I would venture a guess that everyone on these boards would tell you the exact same thing. Do you trust these people? Of course there is no way to be 100% certain, but you met face to face once. How long have you been talking with them? During that time have they, in any way, changed or contradicted things that they have said to you? Have they remained consistent in how they conduct themselves when doing a "scene"? I ask again, do you trust them? Even if you hesitate just a little in your answer then you need to get that trust established and that takes time.
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I am a bit nervous about it, but would welcome feeback from any other sub/slaves who have been in a similar situation or indeed Doms/Dommes on how to calm my nerves for when the moment arrives and also any hints/tips for performing the act itself. Thanks in advance :)
If you are willing to go through with the act itself, my only advice here would be to remember the fact that you are submitting to them in order to please them. If you keep your focus there then you should be in the right state of mind to do whatever it takes to please them, and this is what they require of you. So, if you do this, just relax and do what Level said which is to imagine that it is you getting the blowjob and then do the things that you find pleasing... chances are that he will find them pleasing too. If you tell them that you are nervous maybe ask if they could be encouraging to you and help and guide you. This will give them a chance to make the act feel more submissive because they are telling you what to do and how to do it.
The adage "Look before you leap" applies here. Be sure you know what you are getting yourself into and be reasonably sure that you can trust them not to put you into something that you do not want to do. Other than that, I wish you luck! Let us know how things go.
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