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kyraofMists -> What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 4:43:47 PM)
Here is a fun question for the holiday weekend... What is the goal when you give or receive oral sex; is it the orgasm or is it having fun? Most of the times when I give a blowjob, my focus is not on getting them to orgasm. I prefer to play and draw out the experience and focus on the sensations. The orgasm is more like the dessert at the end of a five course meal. The longer I can keep him from orgasm the more intense the experience. Knight's kyra

missturbation -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 4:48:35 PM)
I agree totally oral is something i do not like to rush in any way although there are those times like in the car park, when Hes on the phone to someone important, on a train etc that i just want to blow his mind quickly.

juliaoceania -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 4:49:01 PM)
It honestly depends on him. If he is wanting to use me this way quickly then that is my objective, if he wants to spend time then I am usually in the mood to do so. I have an oral sex fixation and generally I enjoy this for long periods of time, but there is something primitive about being used this way quickly too. Actually this is my favorite thing to do[:D]

KnightofMists -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 4:53:06 PM)
um aah yeah I um like it when my meal is enjoyed and not rushed. But, I admit.... that quickie is rather enticing at rare times.

SweetSarijane -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 4:56:38 PM)
kyra, Love the new pic. You look great. Ok...on topic lol. In giving oral, I like to take my time, play and explore, find things that bring a definite reaction, and just have fun with it. Make it something we both enjoy. I will work straight for his orgasm if that is his desire however, but it's generally more fun to play. Of course there's also seeing him lose control and cum fast, knowing I gave him that too. It's all good <grin>

hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 5:01:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists What is the goal when you give or receive oral sex; is it the orgasm or is it having fun? Um... well.... If I'm on the recieving end, it's all about enjoying the sensations. If I'm on the giving end, it becomes a control issue. Controling HIS sensations, and drawing things out as long as possible to tease, torture, and torment - preferably until he finally gets frustrated enough with being ALMOST there often enough that he TAKES control and gives me no choice about whether things are "finished" or not. (What can I say... it's a very primal thing for me, to be capable of pushing a man to the point that he grabs my hair and "forces" me to do things his way for that moment in time. But at least I'm HONEST about it being a control issue!! LoL)

michaelGA2 -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 5:01:56 PM)
personally, i just love to draw it out as long as the other party can stand it. i never go straight for the "kill" as it were. more fun that way.

mnottertail -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 5:06:17 PM)
Ummmmmmmmmm, I am not sure that 'The Goal' is always a shared vision, but in this case, for me, the ends are justified by the means.

truesub4u -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 5:15:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists Here is a fun question for the holiday weekend... What is the goal when you give or receive oral sex; is it the orgasm or is it having fun? Most of the times when I give a blowjob, my focus is not on getting them to orgasm. I prefer to play and draw out the experience and focus on the sensations. The orgasm is more like the dessert at the end of a five course meal. The longer I can keep him from orgasm the more intense the experience. Knight's kyra Exactly. I do not even try to make him achieve orgasm. I love to savor.. be able to go at own pace...and let both enjoy. Before.. during.... after... mmmmmmmmmmmmmm

JessieMe -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 5:26:05 PM)
My goal is always to be pleasing to Master. If He wants it slow and easy.. then that is what I try for. If He wants it fast and hard.. well.. again.. thats what I attempt. It is not about what I am looking for.. HOWEVER, if I am on my knees and performing oral on Him.. well...lets just say its very difficult not to get my own pleasure out of it as well... (I have been known to get in trouble for this as well LOL)

PiggyPuta -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 5:34:06 PM)
[:D] mmmmmmmmmm...to draw it out as long as possible...to do new things that have not been tried before...to work my mouth, my tongue, my teeth in a hole new way....oh yes...giving oral to Him and to draw it out and then to reach the ultimate desitnation and receive "just dessert." this is what i abolutely love to do, but not stop there...after He cums continue on drawing out the sensation of His orgasm until He possibly can not stand it any longer then i know i have given Him was He so much wanted.

mnottertail -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 5:35:30 PM)
Can I call your communicator, Captain Kirk? I believe I could tumble for that.

Littlepita -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 5:47:48 PM)
My goal is to please him in anyway he wishes. I have learned that with my Dom, orgasm is not always his focus. This was something new for me to learn in dealing with him opposed to the men I had been used to dealing with. Now, I take my time and just enjoy myself and try to give him as much pleasure and sensation as I can. If he wants something different he tells me.

kyraofMists -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 6:18:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetSarijane Love the new pic. You look great. Thank you!

kyraofMists -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 6:24:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists um aah yeah I um like it when my meal is enjoyed and not rushed. But, I admit.... that quickie is rather enticing at rare times. Now what to have for a "meal" next week.... Thursday - fast food Friday - Fine dining Saturday - I'm thinking something down and dirty where we can dig in with our fingers Hope we have time to actually eat in there my Lord eg

SweetSarijane -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 6:30:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists Thank you! [sm=smile.gif] You are very welcome.

desertdancer -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 6:30:41 PM)
Sometimes He wants is hard and fast and fucks my throat, and sometimes he wants it slow and sweet.. I love both what what I really enjoy is when I get to nuzzle, oh yes, nuzzling, just getting to lay with my head tucked between his thighs, and mmm randomly nip and brush his hairs with my lips, take in long slow breaths of his scent, mmm. I adore rubbing my cheeks over his balls untill i feel my cheeks as warm as his flesh and mmm getting to bury my nose at the base of him and just lap my tongue there, getting to lick up his sweat onto it, and then my taste buds get all tingly and prickled. Love to savor, oh yes, I do, I could spend hours there while he watches Tv, just nuzzling and licking and drifting in and out of sleep, oh heaven, pure bliss for me. ~dancer

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 6:47:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists What is the goal when you give or receive oral sex; is it the orgasm or is it having fun? It's about half and half for me on the giving. On the receiving - if I request it, it's always about the orgasm. If the other person wants, then it totally depends on them.

MsKatHouston -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 7:08:30 PM)
It depends on my mood. I often like to draw it out to intensify the pleasure and if I am on the giving end I am not always concerned about an orgasm. In fact, it is often the purpose....to get him or her to such a state then NOT allow orgasm. But for me, whether I'm in the mood for a quickie or an intensely stimulating time, I would be frustrated if I didn't ultimately end up at the orgasm.

CrappyDom -> RE: What's the Goal? (6/30/2006 7:29:55 PM)
I love it when I have learned a woman's body enough to keep her right on the edge and can surf that for a bit. I also use oral as a way to associate anal sex with pleasure by pleasuring them conventionally and using the fingers for the latter. Nothing more enjoyable on a warm summer afternoon than hearing an approaching orgasm cut short by a sweet wince of pain as teeth bear down on the hood. As for oral, I love taking a woman out of the equation as much as possible. As in restricting her hands behind her back, holding her hair and choosing exactly the pace and depth of motion. If I could figure out how to control the lips and tongue I would try and do that to. Ain't sex fun!

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