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Orgasm control/denial - 11/16/2004 3:26:09 PM

willing2serve

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As a new submissive, one of the very first things that I gave to him was orgasm control. This was very difficult for me because let's just say I would masturbate daily, cumming serveral times a day. In the beginning of orgasm control and denial, I felt like I was hitting the gas then the brake, certainly not a smooth ride.....Now, with only being able to orgasm at certain times, I am finding it more difficult to climax because of all the "holding back", not the free and easy spirit that it use to be. Are these things normal in the beginning of orgasm control and denial? I certainly see the intimate side of orgasm control, but physically I want to be able to explore the explosions and certainly dont want to have a difficult time being brought to orgasm, since I never had a problem with this in the past. Will I eventually have huge built up releases? Please share your wisdom with me

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RE: Orgasm control/denial - 11/16/2004 11:17:09 PM

Estring

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Now that you belong to him, your orgasms are for him now, not you. And once you accept this, and realize that your cumming pleases him (as well as you), then you should be able to cum as you did before.

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RE: Orgasm control/denial - 11/17/2004 12:42:09 AM

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It's hard to answer these questions because a lot depends on what his plans are--and whether he knows what he's doing. It's clear that if he has specific plans, he hasn't shared them with you. So you're just going to have to see how things develop. Toying with orgasm control can have longer-lasting consequences than most people realize, so let's hope he's aware of the power he is taking from you.

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RE: Orgasm control/denial - 11/17/2004 6:40:40 AM

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I had the same problem. I found it was really hard to orgasm finally when I could. It wasn't that I didn't want to please him I really really did. I think it was just that I was trying to control something that had never been controlled before. It's slowly getting easier and quicker. It takes a long time to feel as if you're getting anywhere, but eventually it begains to click and your body follows along.

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