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Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 9:39:36 AM   
TotalMastery


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Status: offline 		Hi, I am a Master - the Dom thread is locked so I have located to your site:

how can I help a young EMO girl who is confused by having bad bf experiences. I am a Daddy/Master and want to help her regain her confidence.
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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 9:52:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, first you would get a BA in psychology and then you would get a secondary degree focusing on family and relationship counseling.

Otherwise, you're not qualified.

If she's having issues the best course is to speak to a counselor and deal with her issues head on.

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 9:56:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Welcome to the discussion boards TotalMastery. Most posters read many sections - please do not post your question in more than one place.

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 9:57:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		How old is young? What do you mean emo? If that means dramaqueen, or bi-polar or other mental challenge.........then it's not worth it if the former, and you are not qualified for the latter. If it is an affectation, tell her to lose the fuck out of it.

Catch her doing something right, comment. Notice. Explain. Patience. Reinforce the good, have patience with the bad...pick up a book on puppy training.

I dunno. The vagarity defies usefulness. The uniqueness of each person defies advice. Perhaps take up drinking.



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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 10:55:22 AM   
JeffBC


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Status: offline 		Aside from what OsideGirl said, I'd add:

Be her friend, not her master/daddy/dom/whatever.

Depending on how bad the scarring is then OsideGirl's comment may be overkill but still, I wouldn't mix into something like this and also try to have any sort of relationship beyond "friends".

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 11:07:47 AM   
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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 11:10:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: JeffBC
Depending on how bad the scarring is then OsideGirl's comment may be overkill but still, I wouldn't mix into something like this and also try to have any sort of relationship beyond "friends".


Actually, going to a counselor doesn't mean that it's an epic problem. It just helps you face your issues head on and learn how to deal with them. He cannot fix her. She needs to fix herself....and he's not qualified to get her into that position. He may attempt to prove himself over time, but even that may not work. People with relationship issues tend to self sabotage.

Considering that he's mid-40s, offering to be a sugar Daddy and from the EMO description, I'm guessing she's late teens/early 20's...I think there may not be the staying power needed. Plus, either he's not already in a relationship with this woman or he hasn't changed his profile to say that he's in a relationship.




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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 11:12:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
Actually, going to a counselor doesn't mean that it's an epic problem.

Of course not. But it's also true that if the problem is trivial then it probably doesn't need a counsellor. So while I agreed with your main point the vagueness in the details offered other options in my head.

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 11:16:09 AM   
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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 11:18:42 AM   
SerWhiteTiger


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ORIGINAL: TotalMastery

Hi, I am a Master - the Dom thread is locked so I have located to your site:

how can I help a young EMO girl who is confused by having bad bf experiences. I am a Daddy/Master and want to help her regain her confidence.


Get therapy for both of you.

No insult, I'm in therapy myself. Most people could use a good therapist, and that goes triple for those of us who take or become slaves. We need to be way more in touch with ourselves than vanilla folk.

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 11:37:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm going to bounce off Ron here and ask if you calling her Emo means she's affecting a goth type dress and attitude? If so, how do you know she wants or needs the help? Emo kids choose their moody outlook on the world as a voluntary way to express themselves. If she identifies as Emo, let her be.

If she's struggling with emotional issues and has confided this to you, then keep your dick out of the equation and be a friend; support her when she talks to you and assist her in finding help.

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 11:42:05 AM   
getoutnow


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Status: offline 		Your profile made me chuckle. Quite a wide net you casted in your profile. Smacks of desperation, yet you say TotalMastery? What have you mastered?

You are 44 years old. How do you not know how to help someone regain their confidence? You also don't say in what. Is she shy? Has she lost her confidence in a skill? What exactly?

You mention the secretary movie too, I'd wager this is the basis of your experience too. You dismiss so called fakes in your profile. I'd happily put 10 bob on you being a complete fake.

Daddy... indeed lol.

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 1:47:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		By "confused" do you mean she's reluctant to fuck you?

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 1:49:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Don't stick your dick in crazy.

That is all.

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 2:17:38 PM   
OrionTheWolf


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Depends on how severe the problems are. Small issues are not necessarily in need of counseling. There are self help and other good books out there that give some basics things that anyone can do to help with self esteem and confidence issues. If it is something that severely hampers her in life, whether relationships or whatever, then the assistance of a professional may need to be sought.

Know that the closer you are to a person, the more difficult it is to help them objectively. This is why a counselor is often best with these issues.

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 3:09:24 PM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		You haven't given any clue what her points of confusion might be.

My guess is that since you say baggage is not an issue for you in your profile that is is the whole EMO thing that you don't get?

Has she asked you for your help or advice?

I think your motives are probably geared toward some element that is serving you.
And that makes your desire to help very suspect.

If you want to help her, don't fuck her and don't bring kink into it.

If you can't keep your motives out of it, then leave her alone.

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 3:09:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Well, first you would get a BA in psychology and then you would get a secondary degree focusing on family and relationship counseling.

Otherwise, you're not qualified.

If she's having issues the best course is to speak to a counselor and deal with her issues head on.


This

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 5:30:12 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I agree with OsideGirl. She needs therapy.

Your focus is just not there, and you're talking about the wrong things.

Her being emo has no bearing. Her having bad bf experiences indicates HOW she got to her current state, but not what it is - does she turn catatonic when touched? Does she get physically violent? Does she hate men?

I get the feeling you're attracted to her, and think she'd make a great partner once she's cured. If you want to be her friend while she's getting the damage repaired, good for you. But move slowly with her, and be prepared for her to never be up to a relationship with you.



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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/11/2013 8:35:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

Don't stick your dick in crazy.

That is all.


That's what I'm thinking

BadOne

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RE: Hi, I am a Master... - 9/12/2013 3:09:19 PM   
SerWhiteTiger


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