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costolivin -> Dominant Male in Vanilla LTR (9/14/2013 12:07:20 AM)
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I just wanted to introduce myself here and say hello to the collarme community. A bit about me (more in-depth on my profile blog for anyone intrigued enough to want more detail:
I've always had Dominant tendencies but have never played in the scene, or gone any further then a few relationships where my true nature has been accepted and allowed to flourish, in cases when the woman I was with happened to be naturally submissive; (one with years of experience as a sub). I've had a few of these types of relationships over my lifetime and they are without a doubt the most exciting, sexually potent, and gratifying. Unfortunately my tendency has been towards LTR relationships with Vanilla women; these have more or less spanned decades, involving children, lack of sex, & putting my needs last.
My current, disintegrating partnership is in all likelihood coming to a permanent end, due to incompatibility and conflicts. I am in the throes of having strong feelings of wanting more from my life, and frustrated enough that I have decided to end the situation. Although the intimacy issues have played a big part, there are other details I am leaving out here that are even more relevant as to why. I have been honest about this and am not doing anything behind anyone's back.
I'm here as an explorer. I am open to what comes of it. I'm not sure how one becomes a "real" dom; I just know that I've been told I'm a natural already. Yes, I know there's a lot to learn. I also know there are degrees to everything and you only move the needle in this game with a willing partner. I don't know how to tie any knots nor do I own any accessories besides a leather belt or two. But I am creative and capable of improvising. I have been told I am highly a psychological, driven, perverse master, sensual and incredibly dirty—for the right woman with the proper brain chemistry who fits with mine.
To put it bluntly, dominance is in my DNA. This has caused a great deal of conflict in my relationship and ultimately it's why we don't work well together. I am seeking to find my rightful place in the universe. This is not my first step but it is my first attempt at being honest about who I am and what's going on to a wider audience.
Besides my compulsion for spanking a sub's ass while pulling her hair, I am also a loving, honest and protective and loyal lover and friend. For the right woman who wants to submit to me I am also capable of being an extremely loyal and dedicated partner. I firmly believe in taking care of my lady especially when she knows what to do to take care of me. Ultimately I'm seeking a life partner, and would make a great catch since I'm capable of actually having a relationship outside of the BDSM dynamic;I am of course most interested in finally coming out of my shell after all these years and talking to some (or all) of you.
So hello. Thanks for reading my story:)
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