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Four Questions - 11/16/2004 8:42:38 PM

willing2serve

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I have four questions that are totally unrelated but certainly would appreciate some insight....

1) If your slave/submissive asked for punishment, how would you react? Would you give it to her because she felt she needed it, or not give it to her because she asked?

2) Would you allow your sub/slave to go to lunch with another Dom or past Dom?

3) What is the first thing you would teach a new sub/slave?

4) Do you believe a sub/slave should know why or why not you make the decisions that you do?

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RE: Four Questions - 11/16/2004 9:27:32 PM

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I have four questions that are totally unrelated but certainly would appreciate some insight....

1) If your slave/submissive asked for punishment, how would you react? Would you give it to her because she felt she needed it, or not give it to her because she asked?

She has and I did. In this situation though, I am more likey to push the limit a bit to see if that limit may have been raised. Knowing that she has asked indicates 2 possibilities:
1. she must "enjoy" the particular form of punishment if she is requesting it so I will "push" her a little further than usual.
2. she is asking because she knows that I enjoy this particular form of punishment which delights me even more since she is requesting it for my "benefit".
Eithe way it's a win-win situation!

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2) Would you allow your sub/slave to go to lunch with another Dom or past Dom?

Of course. I wouldn't have a problem at all with this if she has asked me beforehand. Any good relationship is built upon trust and honest communication. Insecurity is a sign of weakness. It is only lunch.
If she did this without discussing with me first then that is a whole different story and indicates something is wrong and must be addressed.

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3) What is the first thing you would teach a new sub/slave?

Honesty is essential and expected at all times and above everything else. Next comes placing herself on her hands and knees just right with her back arched and her butt properly in the air in that cute way to accept her spanking/paddling/flogging (just kidding... that actually comes 4th or 5th... LOL)

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4) Do you believe a sub/slave should know why or why not you make the decisions that you do?

Yes. That comes naturally after teaching her rule #1 (honesty) and rule #2 (open, honest and frequent communication).

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RE: Four Questions - 11/16/2004 11:06:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: willing2serve

I have four questions that are totally unrelated but certainly would appreciate some insight....

1) If your slave/submissive asked for punishment, how would you react? Would you give it to her because she felt she needed it, or not give it to her because she asked?

I would ask "Do you mean punishment for correction, or punishment for fun?" Or perhaps, the simple "Is there something on your conscience, or are you just horny?"
My action would depend on the answer I received.

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2) Would you allow your sub/slave to go to lunch with another Dom or past Dom?

Depends on the slave... and the Dom. With My lifepartner/slave, yes, absolutely. In fact she has.

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3) What is the first thing you would teach a new sub/slave?

My first Lessons deal with the *reasons* for BDSM and with proper backgrounding in slave body, slave heart, slave mind and slave soul. ONLY aafter they have learnt these, do I begin to deal with Contract of Slavery and more advanced things such as medical/health workup, questions, proper positions, safety, etc. I don't play with a slave for quite some time after I have accepted him or her as a trainee... making a slave or sub *WAIT* weeds out the ones who want it NOW now now!

You cannot just walk in off the street and become a slave! Becoming a slave is like any life avocation, it requires training and time, commitment and skill.

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4) Do you believe a sub/slave should know why or why not you make the decisions that you do?

Absolutely. If a slave is to trust Me, s/he must understand My motives and My techniques. If s/he has a serious question, then that question is a lien on My authority so long as it goes unanswered. When I was a girl, I *HATED* the parental "Because I SAID so!" Rubbish! I want to KNOW WHY! And My slave deserves no less.

But then, I train in a behaviour known as "Intelligent disobedience" and that is a tricky concept. I do NOT WANT a fawning sycophant! I want a sweet tempered, willing, biddable, but self-confident slave who holds hir head proud because s/he is Mine! I want My slave to be educated and assured of My grace and skill. And with the courage to say (when necessary) "No, Ma'am!" as well as "Yes, yes, yes!"

Carry on.

Lady Sonelle

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RE: Four Questions - 11/17/2004 12:48:22 AM

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1. I would punish her if I thought she needed it, and not if I didn't think she needed it. Whether she thought she needed it is not necessarily relevant.

2. That would depend on the purpose of the lunch.

3. I can't answer that, because every slave is different, and each one needs to be taught different things. In fact, ya ought to beware of the doms who always have the same routine.

4. In the end, a slave should always know her master's reasons, but that doesn't mean he is obliged to reveal them whenever she wishes. He decides what she needs to know and when she needs to know it.

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ORIGINAL: willing2serve
1) If your slave/submissive asked for punishment, how would you react? Would you give it to her because she felt she needed it, or not give it to her because she asked?

2) Would you allow your sub/slave to go to lunch with another Dom or past Dom?

3) What is the first thing you would teach a new sub/slave?

4) Do you believe a sub/slave should know why or why not you make the decisions that you do?[/size]

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RE: Four Questions - 11/17/2004 7:34:08 PM

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1)I would punish her in a way she would not expect. Because she should not even asked to be punished. If she wanted to be punished in the first place, she would have just done something that she knows I don't like. But it's that one of the reasons why some want to be a slave or sub(to be punished). So the answer is YES, I would punish her.

2)If enough time has past and we have trust for each other, YES I would. Maybe they want to compare notes or she just wants to tell the Dom how she enjoys her life with me. But only once.

3)The very first thing would be "Simon says" just to get a good feel of my new slave/sub. (Testing the water)

4)If my slave/sub is smart, which would be a requirement. She would be able to figure why I make my decisions. If not, then she will have to figure out why or whynot over time.

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RE: Four Questions - 11/20/2004 6:24:23 AM

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1) If your slave/submissive asked for punishment, how would you react? Would you give it to her because she felt she needed it, or not give it to her because she asked?

I would first need to know why she was asking for punishment. For fun/play or for release and self-forgiveness. If the former, then maybe yes, maybe no and if yes she's likely to get something worse or harder than she expects, just for the hell of it and to push her limits. If the latter, then I would want to hear a full confession from her, get inside her mind on it and then make my own decision on whether she needs to understand that she did no wrong (for example, she may see standing up to someone as having been rude) or help her correct her behaviour - through punishment and/or training.

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2) Would you allow your sub/slave to go to lunch with another Dom or past Dom?

If I know the other dom and I'm happy wth the circumstances.

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3) What is the first thing you would teach a new sub/slave?

This is so dependant upon the individual and circumstances of the relationship as it forms that it's impossible to say. If I meet a vanilla wannabe online, for example, I'll often start with written instruction of some poses, quite early - this is something she will benefit from generally and doesn't require deep committment to me. For an experienced girl I meet in real life, I might start by teacher her how I like her to walk with me or the way I like my coffee made.
Then again this could (like the others) be a trick question: as soon as she has any contact with me, I effectively start teacher her about me and how I like to interact.

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4) Do you believe a sub/slave should know why or why not you make the decisions that you do?

On the whole, yes but not necessarily in specific and especially not necessarily before she complies. When I tell her to do something, I only expect it to be questioned if she feels she has knowledge or experience that would help me make a better decision. A large part of my kind of ownership is discussion and I want intelligent obedience, not a dumb doormat who will blindly follow decisions of mine even when I could improve: for this, she must know what we're up to and what the overall goals are for us. All that said, she may benefit in her submissiveness by occasionally NOT having an idea why I am ordering her to do something, so once again it's down to the individual and the circumstance.

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RE: Four Questions - 11/20/2004 10:50:11 AM

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Thank you to each of you for your insight and wisdom. I value everyone's opinion. I wish you success in life however you define it.

Respectfully,
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RE: Four Questions - 11/21/2004 12:48:58 AM

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ANSWERS..
1. depends a lot on the sub but i would answer that as a no they will not be punnished until i decide to.. now that may be 10 minutes or 10 days.. my choice not hers.

2. Yes there has to be a trust/ comfort level. I would also expect to have a totally truthfull account if i decided to ask for it. Even if they are a slave as long as it is not a control/ training issue there is not a problem with outside activitys. tho any sexual level things would have to be cleared first.. And IF this was done behind my back.. then they be history.

3. Respect for themselves.. That THEY matter and are important. they are more important to ME then any physical thing i may possess.. That they are never to hang their head in shame or be ashamed of who they are..

4. NO. the answer is "because I wish it". Now afterward there would be a talk about why I wished it and my reasons for it. I do not think a sub/slave is nor should be a mindless person. they have there feelings and emotions and needs. This must be expressed and a open two way conversation is MOST important for both..

( There is a story or a tale spoken in one of the books of Gor that a "MASTER"'s greatest gift from their slave is the ability to be candid and open with them and have no fear of reprisal. )

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RE: Four Questions - 11/21/2004 4:29:15 AM

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1) If your slave/submissive asked for punishment, how would you react? Would you give it to her because she felt she needed it, or not give it to her because she asked?

depends on the situation - she has asked i the past - and, sometimes it is 'yes' and sometimes it is 'no'

At the same time - I forbade her from speaking with one person in the past - a former lover

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2) Would you allow your sub/slave to go to lunch with another Dom or past Dom?

Again - depends on specifics - but, 'yes', she has in the past and will again in the future

3) What is the first thing you would teach a new sub/slave?

when to speak - and, when not to speak - in conjunction with this, 'patience'

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4) Do you believe a sub/slave should know why or why not you make the decisions that you do?

Most of the time. There have been a few exceptions to this.

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RE: Four Questions - 11/21/2004 5:37:08 AM

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~Excuse My post in the Masters section~
Well lookie who found His way to Collarme........ Hello LOD
Seems My advertizing the links to here has done sum good
for those of Alternate Lifestyles on MSN now that I see many
have transplanted to here as well..You will find My views and
opinions here just as Sadistic and vile as ever.....~smiles~

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RE: Four Questions - 11/21/2004 8:00:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: willing2serve

I have four questions that are totally unrelated but certainly would appreciate some insight....

1) If your slave/submissive asked for punishment, how would you react? Would you give it to her because she felt she needed it, or not give it to her because she asked? I would discuss why she/he was requesting it and depending on that answer would proceed if I A) thought it was required and or B) was in the mood to play. If she/he had done something and he/she was owning it.. it would depend on the infraction. If it was B) oooh I have been a naughty slave and need a good spanking .. well then it would depend if I was in the mood to role play.

2) Would you allow your sub/slave to go to lunch with another Dom or past Dom? Why not??? if I have to worry about either of them then Im not in good relationships friend or sub wise
3) What is the first thing you would teach a new sub/slave? if they didnt know how to .. a proper cup of tea.. I am fussy about it.
4) Do you believe a sub/slave should know why or why not you make the decisions that you do?No I dont

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