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Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 1:45:45 PM   
etotheipiplus1


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Status: offline 		Good afternoon, all!

I was wondering if I could get some feedback on my profile from the more experienced users on this site. :) I have been tangentially involved in this lifestyle for several years, but I am still getting the hang of "selling" myself.

Is there anything in particular that screams "NO" that could make my profile stronger?

Thank you all in advance!

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 2:05:38 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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I tried taking a look at your profile, but your text box appears as a solid black nothingness. Im using an iPad and this happens with some profiles, including mine. Id like to have helped. Sorry

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 2:15:21 PM   
etotheipiplus1


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I have updated the color scheme in the hopes that it might work now. Would you mind giving it another go? Thanks!

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 6:01:05 PM   
StrictlyADomina


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Status: offline 		Your profile picture is ok, I'd give it a solid C. I get you went fetish, but the black "wife-beater" is perhaps not a great look here. There is probably a better wardrobe choice that might be more flattering. The collar and chain is fine. The back ground is ok. This is just me, so other people 's options will probably be different. I want a introduction photo that says, "Hey! this is a guy I can be seen with in public and I can take him around my friends." Other shots of whatever in the gallery are fine.

I'd leave this off: "As a student at an expensive private university, I have little discretionary income, so please don't expect me to offer tribute." Perhaps, " I am not interested in a Fin Domme at this time."

You are pro most religions but against Christianity as evidenced by your "likes" list. Unless it's a deal breaker, how about just leave that off?

You talk about two past relationships that ended due to your kink interests. Yes, that can be a problem. Perhaps, "Relationships that I have been involved with that did not include kink did not leave either of us fulfilled and ultimately ended." and leave it at that. The rest of it is pretty upbeat and positive.

You might want to consider getting involved in the local BDSM community, as your schedule allows. It's a great way to meet people and living in Los Angeles there is an active community there.

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 6:03:52 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I like the pictures.

I'd remove the second and third paragraph. Mentioning why past relationships failed isn't good.

As a math minor, I like your username.

You say "Here are my kinks. I'll be happy to talk about vanilla to anyone interested." I'd reverse them and talk about your vanilla side and go into the kink when interest is established.



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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 6:51:41 PM   
etotheipiplus1


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Status: offline 		Thank you both for your excellent input!

StrictlyADomina-
I will work on getting a new picture up later this evening, but I have attempted to address the issues you mentioned in your post. I took out the details about past relationships and removed the negative opinions I have towards certain religions. It certainly seemed like a good idea at the time, but you are right in that I wouldn't want that to become my identity.

And yes, that is a fantastic idea regarding becoming more active. I did go to a FemDom munch and a play party when I lived out on the outskirts of LA (both of which were a blast!), but I haven't taken the time to attend any events since moving into the city. I will certainly hit up FetLife. :)

DarkSteven-
I'm glad you enjoyed that! I had come to assume that no one would ever recognize my appeal to mathematical beauty and simultaneously understand my joke about being "nothing". :P I have used it a couple of places around the web, but you were the first to notice! What was your major, if you don't mind me asking?

I gutted the bits about kinks and hard limits. You are absolutely right: I should save that for people who are interested. I also removed some of the kinks from my "Likes and Loves" to make a more fair description of what comprises me as an individual.

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Again, thanks for your help! If anyone else would like to make some criticisms or suggestions to my newly-updated page, feel free to do so!

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 7:18:27 PM   
brunettelace


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Status: offline 		I like the profile in its more positive version.

This is just my opinion. But the things that disappoint me about your profile picture, are: A) The camera angle is wrong, the POV should be from above, Sub. B)There's not much light on your face. C)You look way too comfortable for my taste, let's see a little sexual tension! :)

I think the camera angle should be from above, light on your face, eyes closed facing ahead/eyes open looking through lashes at the camera, maybe wear something a little more conducive to play. I like leather harnesses.....Maybe you could even have some of that chain in your mouth....

Hmmm, I have a lot of specific opinions about this, but that's what you get if you ask a Dom!

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 7:18:45 PM   
StrictlyADomina


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Status: offline 		Great! I'm glad to hear you had a good time at the munch and play party. The best way to meet people is in person.

Your profile reads better and upbeat is always a better option.

Vanilla relationships in the past have led to uncomfortable tension and disappointment, so it is important for me to find someone who is roughly interested in the kinds of things that excite and interest me. This is definitely an improvement. Maybe, " Vanilla relationships in the past have not the best for either of us, so I am searching for a person with similar interests so we can both have fun together." Or you could scrap that whole relationship thread, as DarkSteven suggested. Your thread on this reads a little like me me me and I might suggest it be more about "us". "Cause it does take two to tango.

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 7:28:00 PM   
StrictlyADomina


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quote:

Maybe you could even have some of that chain in your mouth....

Why yes, this could be amusing. Snap the pic and throw it up there. We will be more than happy to give you our opinion on it.

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 7:50:49 PM   
LadyPact


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If a person is wearing a collar in a primary photo, I don't read the profile because I assume the person is owned. While I might be in the minority about that, there might be enough of those who would have the same thought. I'd move a collared pic to something other than the primary photo because somebody who is flipping through the pics might be more likely to read the text and discover your single status.

As to the text of the profile, I liked it. I did raise an eye to see that you had no hard limits on your profile for your interest list.


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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 8:10:03 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		Welcome, Eto! I'm late to the party as usual and didn't see your original profile but I think it's great now! If you have time for one more picture, make it one where you're doing a vanilla activity or just a smiling face pic without collar, chains, etc.

Best of luck in your search. I hope someone wonderful will be along shortly :-)

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 8:48:49 PM   
etotheipiplus1


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Status: offline 		Thank you all! It feels good to get so much help from you welcoming people. :)

I threw made a more vanilla picture my primary for now until I can get another one (perhaps out and about) and I made one as a special favor to brunettelace and StrictlyADomina. Hopefully it meets your requirements. :)

Unfortunately, it looks like CM's site is going a bit wonky. Some of the pictures are distorted and there are duplicates that I don't see when editing my profile. Hopefully it sorts itself out in a bit. :)

Thanks again and it's a pleasure to meet you all!

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 9:29:31 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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Thanks for the text color changes. It made me able to read your profile.

I like, I like. Far better picture as your main one now. And text that isn't "kink, kink, kink, kink, kink"

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 9:33:21 PM   
ResidentSadist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
One of the few times I'm going to disagree with StrictlyA.
...If a person is wearing a collar in a primary photo, I don't read the profile because I assume the person is owned...


Good advice.


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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/21/2013 10:29:52 PM   
etotheipiplus1


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Status: offline 		If I may ask: does my primary picture match the one that's showing on the forums? For some reason they are still messed up and the primary is the old picture.

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/22/2013 1:21:53 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		I can see your new picture (smiling in front of a white board, right?) on the forums but not on your profile. Give it a few hours to see. You can always email support if you are still having problems but expect a delay in your reply, there aren't many people there.

I like your new positive profile. I did read the old one last night but didn't have time to reply. The white board photo is nice (maths degree? winner. love smart men) because it hints at a world outside of the internet. If I were looking for a sub in California I'd be interested in meeting you for coffee.

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/22/2013 2:20:45 AM   
Hayana


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Status: offline 		Heyyah!! How are yah!!

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/22/2013 7:34:25 AM   
StrictlyADomina


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Status: offline 		The new photo is very nice and well done. I like it, of course, others may prefer something else. Everyone is different. The collar with chain in the mouth, oh goodness, yes I was teasing. Now brunette, well she might prefer other things. Wearing a collar can be a notice that the person is owned, it could be a fashion statement or just what makes that person happy to wear. I would not assume, I'd read the profile and ask. Again that's me.

The revision on the profile reads nicely and is positive. I think you did a great job and wish you all the best.
Strictly A Domina

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RE: Searching for some criticism - 9/22/2013 7:10:57 PM   
brunettelace


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quote:

ORIGINAL: StrictlyADomina

The new photo is very nice and well done. Now brunette, well she might prefer other things. Wearing a collar can be a notice that the person is owned, it could be a fashion statement or just what makes that person happy to wear. I would not assume, I'd read the profile and ask.

Strictly A Domina


Both Vanilla and Kink are good things. Probably good to have both in life. :) I agree with Strictly A in that I don't think I would assume someone was taken just because they are wearing a collar. I would probably read the whole profile. BUT....I've never used a forum to find a sub, I have a long time high school sweetheart sub, ..... so I might not be the best to ask about that.

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