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my first time - 7/1/2006 9:51:45 AM

leChien

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first hi to every Goddess in here. i am a slave candidate from turkey. i met with a Goddess 2 months ago. we had conversations by internet and phone. She wants me to serve Her and i desire to be Hers. but i have fear about the situation. first i dont know exactly what will happen. and i dont know how will i feel after this experience. what will i think about everything, my family (which i still live with), my friends and other people. this will be my first meeting in real with a person about bdsm. i extremely want to serve Her, She is a real Goddess but i have still fear about these things. may someone please answer my questions? thank you...

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RE: my first time - 7/1/2006 11:41:55 AM

MsKatHouston

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You won't know until you try it and while some submissives might be able to share their own experiences, yours will be unique. But if you want to do it, you have to take that first step. Continually stressing over it and imagining things in your mind will not get you closer to your goal.

I would suggest discussing this with the potential Mistress if you have concerns. I'm not sure what exactly serving means in this situation. Is this a one time thing or are you doing a permanent move? If it's permanent maybe a meeting and trial period before doing anything drastic would be in order.

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RE: my first time - 7/1/2006 11:52:20 AM

crouchingtigress

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i would love to answer your questions! but i did not see any so let me ask you a couple if i may..

is she also in turkey or where is she?

what exactly are you fearing?

can you ask her for some detailed information about what she is expecting you do?

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RE: my first time - 7/1/2006 12:48:18 PM

leChien

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thank you very much for your answers. first MsKatHouston's question. we are planning a permanent relation. and yes, She will put me in a trial period. actually my fears are childish maybe but i do fear :(

for crouchingtigress's questions,
-yes She lives in turkey.
-i am fearing of the depression. will i be able to adaptate myself back if i cant be a slave.
-i can ask i think. i will :)

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RE: my first time - 7/1/2006 1:33:51 PM

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It's natural to be scared but isn't that part of the thrill? Just use some of that uncommon thing called common sense. Protect yourself, cover your bases and enjoy it but make sure that there is a way out in case things go badly. Good luck to you.

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RE: my first time - 7/1/2006 4:03:08 PM

leChien

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you are so kind. thank you very much for encouraging me. i will write the news. i think in august i will go Her town to be Hers. -by the way i am chatting with Her now :) and asked what she is expecting me to do. She said i cant say anything before you come to me. we will see what can i do/be for her

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RE: my first time - 7/1/2006 5:02:40 PM

SirDaniel

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quote:

ORIGINAL: leChien
i am chatting with Her now :) and asked what she is expecting me to do. She said i cant say anything before you come to me. we will see what can i do/be for her

I would worry about this. It may just be a language barrier but, I see "Not able to tell me before you come to me" as a warning. Again on how it was translated by you. It could simple be that I need to see what your abilities are before I can tell you what you are best suited for. Wait until you get here seems more for a short teerm than a long term.

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RE: my first time - 7/2/2006 5:04:35 AM

leChien

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i think it's because of my bad english and bad translation. she meant that " I need to see what your abilities are before I can tell you what you are best suited for." thank you for translating it for me