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ORIGINAL: punisher440

I tend to see it as if you didn't allow or send out nudes there wouldn't be any chance of them being exposed on any website. Yes, it's wrong for the ex to plaster them on revenge sites but if there were no nude pics to start with there wouldn't be a problem.

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ORIGINAL: SinFix

I have a friend that does something along this line.. though he posts them on tumblr. I feel for these girls cause he mostly just uses them then when he is done with them if they were naive enough to send him pics he puts them up.. I just shake my head when he bitches that he can't find a girl, but will be screwing 4 chicks and telling them all the others are just friends..

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

I totally agree that copyright laws should be enforced, but I've no idea how to accomplish that on the internet. It's just a shame that such a fantastic medium is being used to bully teens and harass ex-lovers.

As far as never letting someone else have pics of you, really? Most normal males love naked pics of their partner, and most act responsibly with them. It's that minority of asshats that's the problem.

Unfortunate, you don't often know someone is an asshat until right before the break up.

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ORIGINAL: punisher440

I tend to see it as if you didn't allow or send out nudes there wouldn't be any chance of them being exposed on any website. Yes, it's wrong for the ex to plaster them on revenge sites but if there were no nude pics to start with there wouldn't be a problem.

I have a question for you. What if you took pics of your sub, and a relative (let's say a little brother, though it doesn't matter) inadvertently got hold of them. Let's say you got a new computer and gave him your old one, and he found the pics on your hard drive.

Now let's say little brother plays a 'joke' on you and your sub, and plasters them all over the internet. Is it still okay? Is it your fault for taking the pics? Your sub's fault for allowing them to be taken? Or should there be some system in place for redress?

(And yes, I know people shouldn't leave things on their hard drive, but that can and does happen all the time.)

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ORIGINAL: SinFix

I have a friend that does something along this line.. though he posts them on tumblr. I feel for these girls cause he mostly just uses them then when he is done with them if they were naive enough to send him pics he puts them up.. I just shake my head when he bitches that he can't find a girl, but will be screwing 4 chicks and telling them all the others are just friends..

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

A friend of mine has a very simple policy... She told her last bf that she'd happily let him have nekkid pics, if he took a bunch of himself wearing her panties. While it seems a little "cold war" in its logic, it seems to work for her.

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

My thoughts about giving naked pics to lovers is this, if you feel the need to do it, get pics of him in return, not just his penis. If he asks for pics and says something like your not trusting him, ask for pics back, perferably with his pics being silly, like posing with a baby bottle.

Wonder how many guys would back out rather than put themselves in a potentially embarrassing compromising position? Esp. the ones who act like it's no big deal for the girl to pose for them if she 'really loves' them. This also goes to show that males can be equally as, or more, spiteful and vindictive than females routinely get accused of being.
(Not that there aren't some blackmailing bitches out there)

I lucked out. In addition to no Internet or camera cell phones yet, my first full-fledged boyfriend of several years and I had taken nude Polaroids of one another when I was 15. When we broke up, I discarded his because I didn't want to be reminded of him. I later married him so ironically, I got mine back (but not until after we had re-united when I was a divorcee and not without a lot of wrangling & arm-twisting). My advice is be unrecognizable - tattoos are a dead giveaway - and practice discretion so there's nothing to regret later. Oh, and if he has tattoos, make sure to include those in his shots.