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TigressLily -> RE: How can I prove I am real? (9/25/2013 8:38:22 PM)
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I haven't had the benefit of comparing your before & after versions, looks like you're in the process of changing out your profile pics. In its present state, I would lose the "slave" designation. Nobody in their right mind jumps into consensual slavery without sub experience under his/her belt to make that transition from. While you may aspire to a 24/7 M/s dynamic, you must learn to walk before you can run, if you don't want to fall down flat on your face, that is. Before your Mistress has collared you, you aren't anybody's slave yet--you are an uncollared sub as things stand at the current time.
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ORIGINAL: NewBeginning504
How can I convince Dommes that I am truly a real person that wants to submit?
Let me refer you to these active threads for you to brush up on. Useful info here.
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4548494/tm.htm (Difference between sub and slave.)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4549640/tm.htm (TPE - M/s relationships)
My 2-4 cents worth:
-- Whenever I see a male sub refer to himself as a slave, it usually means one of two things, or both. Obedience isn't the issue here so much, but he might not be as trainable or flexible, or else have to be reconditioned to a greater extent than what I would be willing to invest in retraining. There are self-trained slaves who have a strange notion that Dominants don't want to work with a blank slate. Second, the 24/7 reference gives me the impression this dude wants to move into my house and become my full-time personal servant. This is a no-go with me for many reasons, one of which is joblessness unless my sub has sufficient retirement income to be self-supporting or just so happens to be independently wealthy, not a very likely prospect.
-- If you're not a suit & tie type of guy, not in a white-collar profession, this kind of pic could be misconstrued as deceptive. Exception made for a formal occasion where you were dressed up and want to show how presentable you can be. Most of the other ladies have expressed a preference for the suit-in-the-kitchen setting. My personal preferences are a more natural outdoorsy shot, holding your kitty, an artistic Bohemian pose à la Johnny Depp. It doesn't hurt to throw in a shirtless photo if you have the physique to pull off that look. Anything more risqué than that should be tastefully done in your other photos. I don't have a problem with seeing a nude shot where the man is bowed & kneeling, striking a symbolically submissive pose. Again, if it's not tastefully sexy or erotic, or if you're not in shape, pass on showing yourself off.
-- Compliance, compliance, compliance. Prompt compliance. There's an adage that delayed obedience is disobedience. If you say you're going to do something, do it right away or within the next 24 hours if feasible. At the very least, get the ball rolling. Actions speak louder than words if you want to be taken seriously.
-- Don't overlook the reality we are women first, and women enjoy being wooed and courted. Kind, thoughtful and romantic gestures go a long way. A Domme shouldn't have to ask for tribute, any more than any woman you are courting favor with should have to ask for overtures to prove your sincerity. Material things aside, nobody wants a stingy partner, companion or lover.
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