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willing2serve -> Routine (11/17/2004 11:41:20 AM)
On the routine line of thought, I'd love to hear about routines each of you do in your home and/or daily life that support the D/s dynamic between you and your partner.

MistressFire70 -> RE: Routine (11/17/2004 1:21:12 PM)
I have a collared submissive who lives some distance away. When we are apart, he is to contact me on a daily basis. Sometimes this is on the phone or by email although most times it's through IM. Even if I only get a one line email from him on Sat and Sun, it means that I was in his head. When we're together, he must kneel as soon as it is acceptable to receive his greeting. This used to include me putting his collar on him, but that has changed since I found one that he can wear 24/7. Now, I have a friend who has used extensive ritual for LDRs. As an example, she had one sub create a shoebox of items that pertained to her (pair of socks (foot fetish), picture, poem he wrote, etc). he was also expected to keep a fresh flower in the box. Each night, he was to lay out the items in a specific manner and perform some task for a given amount of time while thinking about her. The tasks ranged from masturbation without release to simple exercises (jumping jacks, sit ups, etc.). Fire

proudsub -> RE: Routine (11/17/2004 2:36:17 PM)
quote: I'd love to hear about routines each of you do in your home and/or daily life that support the D/s dynamic between you and your partner. First thing each morning i bring Hubby a cup of coffee in bed. Later i make His breakfast, clean up, do all the household chores, etc. He works at home so i take Him coffee whenever He wants it. I make Him lunch and dinner. We do go out to eat frequently. When He is ready to settle in His recliner for the evening i hand Him the remote, then get His snack. Later in the evening i turn on the hot tub unless it's raining. When it's a day we play golf, about 2-3 days/week, i get the cart and drive it for Him. (i prefer to walk but He insists i drive for Him.) I also do all the outdoor work ( we live on 6 acres)That's kinda the non- sexual side of our D/s relationship. In other words i treat Him like a king lol.

srahfox -> RE: Routine (11/17/2004 2:54:27 PM)
My master and I were together in a vanilla way for 9 years before we came to this, so there is so much in our life that we just do together. We recently got a new Bed (Damned hurrican) and have set it up in the middle of the room. Niether of us were the make your bed kind of people. But that's the one thing I always do for him now. I even did it after my surgery. (I was careful and it was a bad job)

cynnacent1 -> RE: Routine (11/17/2004 6:00:35 PM)
When i met Master (INSIDEYOURMIND), some of the first 'requests' i received from Him are 1. ...to keep my nails long (have to ask His permission to trim them) painted at all times with red nail polish (not an easy task to maintain as red polish chips easily and my work is very hard on my nails). 2. ...to refrain from having my hair cut in a way that shortens the length in absence of first obtaining His approval (slight and barely noticeable trims are allowed). 3. ...that i keep myself shaved in the way He preferes at ALL times. 4. ...to refrain from wearing a bra when in His presence. 5. ...that i wear the collar, the 'O' ring, and bracelets provided to me by Him at all times. 6. ...that i am always to be naked while in His bed. Of these six examples, examples 1 thru 5 all serve as reminders for me of the dynamics of our D/s relationship on a daily basis whether i am in His presence or not. i perform all daily tasks as needed. i bring Him iced tea, sandwiches, or whatever He desires at any given moment. i make His bed, and cook whatever foods He requests exactly the way He likes them. i bath Him and shampoo His hair. i also cut His hair, and trim His beard and nails as needed. i provide Him with massages, as well as professional facials. i wash, dry and fold His clothes. Ours is a 24/7 D/s relationship. i'm sure there are many other things i could list many ways (and the list of examples are added to continuosly) which demonstrate the routines of daily life that support the D/s dynamic between Master and i. It all can be summed up in one example: i am at His beck and call, at His command serving Him happily, lovingly and enthusiastically anywhere, at anytime, in anyway He decides i will.

stormiKnightBEAR -> RE: Routine (11/17/2004 6:58:59 PM)
For this girl, Master has many rules. A few of the basics and daily task are: 1.) stormi can not cut her hair without Master being present. He is the one the stylist talks to and it is He who makes the decision as to how much and when. 2.) When going out with Master stormi is in skirts always. never a bra... closest thing is a corset. 3.) stormi is to be at Master's right side always. 4.) stormi is to serve Master in whatever way He choses in public. 5.) stormi is placed in her nightly ko'lar and there is a pattern to questions and answers that take place every night before going to bed. 6.) stormi must wear Master's earrings, formal ko'lar, and the family necklace at all times. (the formal ko'lar is one that Master got stormi for the ko'laring ceremony where Master first took stormi as His) 7.) Nails have to be in red polish. Occassionally Master will allow for a variation but not often. 8.) Wear as much red and black as possible.. .it's Master's favorite colors on His girl. Those are just a few, but others include checking in with Master on a regular basis. Calling when stormi leaves work to come home so that Master knows she is on her way. Thanks for a chance to reply...[:)] stormi. property of Master Bear

EStrict -> RE: Routine (11/17/2004 7:34:08 PM)
Master never wanted me to cut my hair,, though, one time he changed his mind when talking to a friend, so now my hair goes from a bob to the middle of back depending on things like the time of the year and his mood. Even though Master loves my legs (and if I personally had the choice I would always wear a dress or skirt), he always has final say on what I pick out to wear, and on occassion prefers me in pants (I think he enjoys knowing that I prefer the dresses but will wear them for him.... I didn't even own any when we got together). As far as everyday goes, I do all the normal household duties,,, but the things that are important are that I always lay out his clothes for work. This is everything from his boxers to his shoes, and includes the things like his name badge and other small requirements of his work uniform. I pack him a lunch, unless he specifically tells me not to. (They have free food at work, but he prefers specific things I make him 3-4 days a week). ::Laughing:: the hardest part is not doing the things that are so natural when he choses to do them himself. If he is in the kitchen (and I'm not), and I hear a cabinet or fridge, my first response is what would you like?.... and sometimes he will walk back in the room and tell me (then I go prepare it), but on occassion he will just tell me that if I want you to get it, I'll tell you which means he will get it and I just get to clean up afterwards :) Other small things are when I hear the shower runing, it means to get him a towel, and to make sure the correct clothes are ready,,, work or everyday. Also, the shower is the sign that the bed it to be made. Since he works until the middle of the night, I often get up before him, and I am to look for a note. If there is one, I am to follow whatever it says (be it to make calls, do something online, or wake him at a specific time). Though all of these are very vanilla type things (in my mind), they are things that are important to him and his household, which make them VERY important to me.

mtsilence -> RE: Routine (11/18/2004 6:44:56 PM)
I am extremely lucky in that My Lord does not make demands of any unreasonable nature. All his requirements make good and sound sense, at least to me. Each morning when we wake, we shower together so that I can scrub and buff his body preparing him for his workday. My Lord is a medical technician and has to be very clean and sharp in his appearance. While he is finishing his toiletries, I make the bed and assure that the bedroom is neat and tidy, no clothing lying around no mess and no dirty glasses from the night before. I then go down stairs and prepare him coffee, as well as fix food for our daughter. (Having a teenager in the house added a requirement of stealth in our relationship (SMILE) Once all the normal morning chores are done. We all head off to our proper locations. Jobs and school that is. Once at work I am required to contact My Lord to let him know I have arrived at work safely, and to allow him to give me any directions for later in the day. My Lord also requires me to email him if I should have any thoughts regarding him or our relationship, and he would like it to be in detail. My Lord, has asked me not to cut my hair too short, but has agreed that during the heat of summer, since my hair is so thick that I may wear it shorter then he normally likes. I am not required to wear long nails, since he has determined they get in the way of my cooking and preparing foods (try rolling bread dough with long nails) Since I am trained as a gourmet cook, my Lord enjoys having my services in his kitchen. I am required to dress in a manner that allows him easy access to me, if he should desire it. The only exception to this is work clothing and my work attire, which must remain professional. My Lord also likes me to iron and prepare his uniforms, and to polish and shine his shoes and boots. He likes the glass shine that I get on them (mainly thanks to my years in the Marine Corps) When my Lord comes home at night, I am required to greet him at the door as soon as he enters. If we have guests in the house or the child is around, I greet him with a simple kiss. If neither of these deterrents are around, then I knee with my head at his feet my arms out stretched before him in complete supplication to him. If he is well pleased with my greeting, he will raise me up. Other wise I remain thusly until he commands me to rise. My Lord likes to have his meals ready for him, regardless of when he comes home. Since he has, late nights there are times I have to prepare foods with extra care to ensure they are warm and still moist upon his arrival home. While also ensuring that the child is fed (first and for most) My Lord prefers me to stand to his left and slightly behind. Unless he is having me walk Herald, (this is the front position clearing a path for him as he enters an area.) My Lord’s favorite colors are Black and Blue with Silver. These are also the colors of His household. Additionally My Lord requires that I exercise daily and eat well-balanced meals with minimal snacking. He himself follows the same regiment. When we are in public, I wear My Lord formal Collar proudly. Normally I wear the casada or silver chain around my wrist, which he placed upon me and only he may remove. It never leaves my body. As it is the outward sign of my belonging to him. Also during high protocol functions, this girl is required to speak only in 3rd person. ;-) These are just a few of My Lord’s instructions and part of our protocols, which we follow. Thank you for the opportunity to share. Silence

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Routine (12/9/2004 1:17:51 AM)
Grins well a teenage is ont exactly a child, so The referances to the child are kind of off lol. Teens should be able to fix their own foods as well, however even as a 22 y/o I do enjoy a home cooked meal My momm akes the best meat loaf, however it's a small pan an every one ends up looking for seconds and making due with out.:)

INSIDEYOURMIND -> RE: Routine (12/9/2004 5:44:50 AM)
There are requests I make on my slave that could be seen as routine, but I don't like that word, in being routine, you could slip into boring. I like a bit of freshness, and excitement.

mmmilwaukee -> RE: Routine (12/10/2004 8:58:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mtsilence (Having a teenager in the house added a requirement of stealth in our relationship ..... When we are in public, I wear My Lord formal Collar proudly. Normally I wear the casada or silver chain around my wrist, which he placed upon me and only he may remove. It never leaves my body. As it is the outward sign of my belonging to him. Do you really think the teenager/"child" is not aware of your D/S relationship? All the "stealth" in the world could not prevent her from noticing something.... say, the COLLAR that you wear so proudly? I'm not a big fan of D/s in a household where there are kids, but at least be consistent and be honest. Especially with a teenager, they get very bitter and resentful when parents hide stuff from them - basically implying that the teen "wouldn't understand." It also makes them lose respect - i.e. "are mom and dad stupid enough to think they're fooling me?" I really think parents should use extreme caution before bringing D/S into the home. It's easy to misinterpret, and young kids especially have the potential to develop some harmful beliefs about gender roles. good luck with everything...

darkinshadows -> RE: Routine (12/10/2004 9:27:24 AM)
May Angel ask what exactly is the problem with D/s in a household? I am thinking You may be confusing Ds with Ms (or its elements) ... but thats another thread...lol What is the problem with children seeing love, respect, honour, friendship, trust, companionship, devotion, consensualness, happiness, give and take? Responsible Parents... be they birth or step... would be open to their children no matter what the subject, be it Ds... racism... religious fervour. After all children are called children because that is what they are, not fools.

ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: Routine (1/13/2005 8:30:55 AM)
well, i know i am late to this thread, but anyhow...i agree with angel....i don't see the problem with D/s and children in the household, it's not as if we're talking about being bound and gagged infront of the kids, or getting spanked and flogged, that's behind closed doors and it's not their business whether it's kinky sex or plain ole vanilla sex, what happens in the bedroom shouldn't be of any concerns to the children or anyone else for that matter....the respect and devotion that is so present in a D/s relationship is anything but harmful to a child, at least that's how i see it. The problem is that today's society is so twisted and the roles have been so reveresed that it's now abnormal for a woman to be soft and submissive, and for a woman to respect honor and obey her husband, and for a man to be a real man and protect and guide his wife....i am very old fashioned in that sense, and i realize it, maybe it was the way i was brought up, my dad being very controlling and much older than my mother and my mom being very submissive to him and very soft spoken and obedient, of course in their marriage it could not work because my father was also very abusive, and that's definately not acceptable he was extremely jealous and didn't allow my mother to leave the house on her own....but anyhow, that's a different thread :) however, the values and principles of a D/s relationship i think are very natural and very positive, i don't see how that could give a child the wrong perception, perhaps they will notice the difference as far as comparing their home life with that of their friends where the female might rule the home and be in charge and the man is not respected and given his place, but just because others choose to live that way doesn't make our way wrong...just different, and if we were in a different era it would be quite normal.

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