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Keymaster7001 -> Clothing Choice (10/11/2013 11:51:33 PM)
]I'd like to get a submissive's point of view on this. I am a Dominant man and in addition to bondage, I like my sub to be dressed a certain way. It isn't fetish or weird, it's everyday clothing but this particular combination is a real turn on to me; blouse, jeans or dockers and slip on Vans sneakers. I usually buy them for my sub but what are your thoughts particularly if you would not normally buy them for yourself.

lizi -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/11/2013 11:58:14 PM)
I'm not sure what you want to know. I'd surely wear it for my partner, just like I'd wear whatever it was that he preferred. I mean it doesn't sound particularly stylish, but I wouldn't have a problem with having it on.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/12/2013 12:01:19 AM)
I wear what my man likes to see me in. That said, I agree with Lizi, your outfit choice sounds like an old preppy look that many can't relate to. But whatever floats your boat.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/12/2013 12:27:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lizi I'm not sure what you want to know. I'd surely wear it for my partner, just like I'd wear whatever it was that he preferred. I mean it doesn't sound particularly stylish, but I wouldn't have a problem with having it on. This... plus, frankly, I have slamming curves (think 50's pinup girl), and an outfit like that would make me look frumpy. If a sweetie wanted that, sure, but I love looking feminine and pretty. I love when my skirt swishes when I walk, and I love wearing tight sweaters with a pencil skirt and knowing that wiggle in my walk is stopping people. Being feminine is part of my self-identity. If a man wanted me to dress like that a lot, it wouldn't be a good fit. I'd feel ugly and that would do bad things to my libido and my self-esteem. But on occasion, and it gave him a thrill? Sure, why not? I mean, he's gonna put on a tuxedo with tails for me sometimes. Right? Right? Anyone? Right? Bueller? Anyone? Anyone?

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/12/2013 1:45:02 AM)
FR I'm with the others on this one. Assuming that he's not asking for something that would be inappropriate for the occasion (jeans at a funeral, mini skirt and heels at our (industrial) workplace etc) then I am happy to dress to please him. I would find it tiresome if he wanted me dressed the same way every day. It takes away from a bit of my individuality and style. And, like sunshine pointed out, not every woman looks good in the same type of outfit. Big boobs can look frumpy in round-necked t shirts. Ladies with a tummy can look pregnant in shirts that pull in right under the bust. Chances are any woman you come across will have her own sense of what is flattering on her and what makes her feel unattractive, and having to constantly dress in clothes that make you self-conscious or unattractive will make her sad. It comes down to the type of dynamic you have. For some people, dictating their clothes would be a limit. For others, it would be expected. Your preference sounds pretty mild though. I doubt you'll have too many problems with it.

Keymaster7001 -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/12/2013 2:14:57 AM)
Thanks for your thoughts, everyone. I appreciate it. BTW, I don't know how that Vanilla symbol came up because I'm anything but!!!!!

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/12/2013 2:43:38 AM)
It comes up until you have made 25 posts in the forums. It's not an evaluation of your kinkiness. Not that vanilla is a bad thing.

kallisto -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/12/2013 5:51:20 AM)
Agree 100 % with the posters above me.

kalikshama -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/12/2013 8:59:10 AM)
My man hates my taste in clothing and has slowing been replacing my wardrobe. Sometimes he'll pick out something that I know won't work for my body but I've learned that it's best to try it on and let it speak for itself rather than me doing it. He's always agreed with me once he's seen it on. Since I love him and he's buying, I'm willing to wear colors and styles for him that I wouldn't normally wear.

DesFIP -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/12/2013 10:09:56 AM)
I'm picky about clothing being comfortable to wear. If the sneakers didn't fit properly, I wouldn't wear them. Not all shoe lasts fit all feet.

orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/12/2013 10:56:01 AM)
I personally don't like clothing fetishists - it's not my kind of kink. Plus, I've spent too many years feeling uncomfortable in what I'm wearing - comfort in clothing is very important to me and I'm not really out to change that. I often find that clothing fetishists are incompatible with me - it's a very different kink.

slavekate80 -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/12/2013 1:41:10 PM)
I like it when I'm told what to wear, because then I know he's happy with my clothing - after all, he picked it out! I feel more relaxed about it when I'm certain my clothes are pleasing to him. Jeans and sneakers isn't really my style, to tell the truth, but I'd rather wear something he likes and I don't than vice-versa. Fortunately, my Master's taste in clothes for me is similar to my own, so the changes I've had to make to my wardrobe are small.

theshytype -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/12/2013 3:23:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavekate80 I like it when I'm told what to wear, because then I know he's happy with my clothing - after all, he picked it out! I feel more relaxed about it when I'm certain my clothes are pleasing to him. Jeans and sneakers isn't really my style, to tell the truth, but I'd rather wear something he likes and I don't than vice-versa. Fortunately, my Master's taste in clothes for me is similar to my own, so the changes I've had to make to my wardrobe are small. This is me. I used to purchase items then ask his opinion. If he didn't like it, it'd end up sitting in the back of the closet never again to be worn. It wasn't often but still a waste. Now, I always ask his opinion before buying something or he buys them. I feel more comfortable in items he believes to look good because really I'm dressing for two people only, him and me. With that said, I would have a problem if his choices were way far away from my style. I don't have to worry about that, though, because I believe that outward appearance and how we presented ourselves to each other were a portion (small portion) of our attraction to each other.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/13/2013 2:26:49 AM)
If anything, I tend to dress him. He hates shopping, doesn't 'get' what goes together (by his own admission) and always asks me what type of clothes he should wear for an occasion. As such, I mostly just buy his clothes when he needs them and lay out an outfit for him when we go out. In accordance with his tastes, of course, but aside from a small number of things he hates I have a lot of choice.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/13/2013 3:23:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders If anything, I tend to dress him. He hates shopping, doesn't 'get' what goes together (by his own admission) and always asks me what type of clothes he should wear for an occasion. As such, I mostly just buy his clothes when he needs them and lay out an outfit for him when we go out. In accordance with his tastes, of course, but aside from a small number of things he hates I have a lot of choice. One of the first things I did when Himself and I became a couple was toss out half of his clothes and buy new ones. He dresses much better now that I buy all his clothes. For everyday work his office is business casual, and he now knows which shirts go with which pants. For more important occasions, such as a work presentation, I tell him what to wear. He wouldn't dream of trying to buy his own clothes or overriding my decisions, he's too smart for that. He knows I know clothes. Of course he gets to have final say on anything I buy, and has his favorite shirts (what man doesn't?), but this is my area of expertise, and he allows me to exercise it. The same with my clothing. I know what to wear when (or what not to wear), he trusts mu judgement. I admit I wouldn't do well with someone who thought they knew more than me about dressing, unless they really did know more.

myotherself -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/13/2013 5:00:16 AM)
Master isn't too worried about the things I wear, although he has said he doesn't like a few jumpers I own, so I only wear them when he's not around. He doesn't get any say in what I wear for work as he knows I need to dress in a manner which is professional enough for my workplace but robust enough to be crawling around on the floor if necessary (I'm a teacher). He has said that when we eventually move in together he'll want more of a say in what I wear when we're together, which is absolutely fine with me. I want to feel attractive for him and I know he'll choose clothes that he finds attractive. Take's some of the pressure off me [:)]

AdorkableAiley -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/13/2013 6:47:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself Master isn't too worried about the things I wear, although he has said he doesn't like a few jumpers I own, so I only wear them when he's not around. He doesn't get any say in what I wear for work as he knows I need to dress in a manner which is professional enough for my workplace but robust enough to be crawling around on the floor if necessary (I'm a teacher). He has said that when we eventually move in together he'll want more of a say in what I wear when we're together, which is absolutely fine with me. I want to feel attractive for him and I know he'll choose clothes that he finds attractive. Take's some of the pressure off me [:)] LOL I was just thinking about it and I would love to have someone pick out my close for me. I have so many damn outfits picking one to wear is often a hassle I don't feel like dealing with and I'm not too attached to any one style of clothing that it would put a damper on my day to not pick whatever it is that I would be wearing. As long as he picks something appropriate (you know not having my boobs popping out all over) and comfortable enough (I don't do 6" heals) I'm game. Ailey

petitespot -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/13/2013 7:48:33 AM)
I loved wearing outfits he requested. I knew it was another way I could please him.

littleone35 -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/14/2013 10:57:25 AM)
Master shops with me sometimes but he trusts me to shop for myself, of ciurse i have to show him what i buy when he gets home and he has final say. I kniw what he likjesso i tend to pick cuts ans colors that he approves of. I would be really unhappy if he did not like green, but it happend to be both of our favoriate color. I tend to wear a lot of green. he knws i an a sweater/t0shirt jeans/shorts type of girl. He is ok woth that but if he wants me to wear a skirt or dress then that is what i wear. Matt's littleone

Kana -> RE: Clothing Choice (10/14/2013 12:35:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Keymaster7001 ]I'd like to get a submissive's point of view on this. I am a Dominant man and in addition to bondage, I like my sub to be dressed a certain way. It isn't fetish or weird, it's everyday clothing but this particular combination is a real turn on to me; blouse, jeans or dockers and slip on Vans sneakers. I usually buy them for my sub but what are your thoughts particularly if you would not normally buy them for yourself. No problem.Find a gal who likes a man that controls such avenues and you'll be fine. That's all. Dress codes and chosen clothing are pretty common occurrences in TTTWD.

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