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stupidbitchslave -> Failed to take cock - help me? (10/13/2013 9:14:02 PM)

I had a Mistress who was perfect in every way and I made the mistake of not taking cock when she wanted me to. Now, I am desperate for her to come back to me. I would do anything she asked including that and more. Now that she is gone, I am sad and lonely and realize how stupid I was.

If anyone wants to use me as a whore, i would comply. It is not my right to resist and I'll never question or resist again.

My purpose is to obey.

Please Mistress if you read this, please take me back.

If someone else reads this and wants me, i promise on my life to do as told.




DarkSteven -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/13/2013 9:34:36 PM)

Geez, fella. I assume this Mistress was online?

If you really want to make a Mistress happy, prepare to provide lots of conversation, and take one out for dinner. Women are suckers for a man that knows how to dress and comport himself well.




lizi -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/13/2013 9:38:05 PM)

Maybe it's me, but I'm not seeing the sense here between losing your Mistress and setting yourself up for anyone's use. Seems rather self fulfilling in the end doesn't it?





TigressLily -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/13/2013 10:14:06 PM)


At first glance, you do seem pitiful, but then I see you're over 40 years old, not some young man in his 20s who doesn't know any better.

quote:

ORIGINAL: stupidbitchslave

... I made the mistake of not taking cock when she wanted me to.
<snip>
If someone else reads this and wants me, i promise on my life to do as told.


If you haven't learned how to do as you're told by now, I question whether you've actually learned from this experience. It sounds to me as though you're out to punish yourself by letting yourself be mistreated & abused by others, when this isn't the lesson you should have learned. In your profile you write: "I seek a person or persons to force me to be involved with sex acts against my will, for my own good." Then you go on to say you are "inexperienced with females and a virgin to any act with a male." Really? At your age? This smells to me like an open call to be forced to do what you secretly want done to you under the melodramatic ruse of errant slaveboy, as more of a manipulative strategy you conjured up.

In all fairness, in the event you are sincere, I would like to pose a couple questions to you. First is DarkSteven's re whether this was online or IRT. Was this your first Mistress or have you had others in the past? Lastly, explain briefly how you didn't take crock. How were you disobedient? Were you insolent, mouthy or disrespectful? (That's grounds for an on-the-spot dismissal with me.) Was it a crime of commission or omission? Did you balk at performing a task or did you talk back defensively?

Let the Forum Readers here put things into perspective for you in case you are making a mountain out of a molehill. Granted, you've lost your Mistress, that's said and done. But if you feel you need to redeem yourself, what you must do is make the necessary corrections within yourself to prevent making this mistake again or else you'll be biting the dust with your next Mistress in no time.




TigressLily -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/13/2013 10:32:48 PM)


Sorry, it's late and I misread it as "crock" not "cock." OMG boy, if you're not bisexual, don't let anyone make you do that. This was no "perfect Mistress" so consider yourself spared. Take out a sheet of paper and write down your Hard Limits, those lines you won't cross. Period. Then list your Soft Limits of what you hate or can see yourself hating, what's detestable to you. Don't get with anyone who doesn't respect you sufficiently to honor your Limits. You didn't do anything wrong. That is all.




Rochsub2009 -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/13/2013 10:35:18 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: stupidbitchslave

I had a Mistress who was perfect in every way and I made the mistake of not taking cock when she wanted me to.....It is not my right to resist and I'll never question or resist again......My purpose is to obey.



Firtly, NO Domme is perfect in every way. They're human.

Secondly, it looks like taking cock was at least a soft limit for you, and she tried to push you beyond that limit. IMO, the fault was hers, not yours. Instead of recognizing that she was pushing you too far, it sounds like she banished you.

It's okay to have limits. We all do. And anyone who says that they don't is either lying, or really stupid.


I'd suggest that you take some time to figure out what your limits are. Then make sure that you communicate them to your next Domme. If you decide that you don't want to suck cock, then don't suck cock. Be true to yourself.

Good luck to you.
-Roch




ResidentSadist -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/13/2013 10:39:00 PM)

Can you paint?
Do you know how to lay tile?
Can you cook or clean?
Do you serve any purpose as a submissive other than focusing on your own sexual fantasies?




AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 12:37:41 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: stupidbitchslave

I had a Mistress who was perfect in every way and I made the mistake of not taking cock when she wanted me to. Now, I am desperate for her to come back to me. I would do anything she asked including that and more. Now that she is gone, I am sad and lonely and realize how stupid I was.

If anyone wants to use me as a whore, i would comply. It is not my right to resist and I'll never question or resist again.

My purpose is to obey.

Please Mistress if you read this, please take me back.

If someone else reads this and wants me, i promise on my life to do as told.


You'll do as you are told? Excellent. Here are my orders. If you are serious about this, you will obey completely.

(Note to message board users: yes, this is a shamelessly recycled post with some edits to fit this person)

I will be your Mistress for the next week. Unfortunately it will be online only, but that's ok because you're not ready for in-person anyway.

Your orders:
Look at the non-fiction section of this book list: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm
Pick any three and read them, cover to cover.

No porn for the week. That is, no videos, no dirty pictures, no erotic stories. You may read the forums here, but no asking people for play.

Write me a 500 word summary of what you imagine a D/s relationship would be like. Include a sample daily routine. Show me that you have a grasp on reality. If you write 500 words of hot sex fantasy, I will know you haven't done the above steps. Show me that you understand emotional connection, serving someone else's desires (not just your own hard on) and the fact that everyday life must go on in between the kink. Post it in this thread.

Write an essay regarding people being forced to carry out sexual acts against their will. Please include the definitions of rape and sexual assault, and defend your opinion that being forced into sexual acts would be 'for your own good' as your profile states. Also consider whether it is truly 'forced' if you are literally asking to do these things. Show both sides of the argument and come to a well reasoned conclusion.

Spend at least an hour every day working on a practical skill that you think would be desirable in a partner. Nothing to do with sex. Maybe you learn to cook. Maybe you learn new cleaning techniques, start growing a herb garden, practice a musical instrument or take an online course in bookkeeping. You won't be able to perfect anything in this time, but self improvement is valuable in a sub.

Another 500 word piece on healthy relationships. What makes a healthy relationship? Discuss self respect, mutual benefit and emotional security. Discuss what this means in the context of D/s and consider what can be done to keep both partners safe, physically and emotionally. Consider your stance of obeying anyone and having no right to say no, even with someone you have no prior relationship with. Discuss how this reflects on you as a person, how realistic this is, and what the possible consequences could be.

Re-write your profile. Take down any pictures with genitals or butts in them. Put up one or more photos of you, fully clothed. You can blot out your face if you prefer. Take out all of the text and re-write the profile in this format:
-One paragraph about who you are as a person. About 4 sentences. I suggest you include vanilla hobbies and skills, personality traits and why I might want to date you.
-One paragraph about the relationship you want. Specify if it's play only, 24-7, kink in the bedroom and equals out of it etc. What type of woman do you want to meet? NOT about how kinky she is or what she will force you to do. Age range, personality etc.
-TWO SENTENCES - and no more - about your kinky interests. Right at the end.
You are not allowed to use the following words: goddess, cock, ass (or any word that refers to your private parts)
You must run it through spell check.

After you've done all this, I'd like another post here explaining what you've learned this week and whether you think you have benefited. Please post all written assignments to this thread.

You may complete and and all of these tasks in lingerie/with something in your butt, if that helps.
Remember - you promised on your life to do as you are told, and you'll never resist again.




SerWhiteTiger -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 2:40:04 AM)

If you send me 25% of your income, I'll tell you what to do. Consider it a tithe.




sunshinemiss -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 4:57:38 AM)

Hear that? It's the sound of all the wind going out of someone's sails...




MasterCaneman -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 6:41:02 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders


quote:

ORIGINAL: stupidbitchslave

I had a Mistress who was perfect in every way and I made the mistake of not taking cock when she wanted me to. Now, I am desperate for her to come back to me. I would do anything she asked including that and more. Now that she is gone, I am sad and lonely and realize how stupid I was.

If anyone wants to use me as a whore, i would comply. It is not my right to resist and I'll never question or resist again.

My purpose is to obey.

Please Mistress if you read this, please take me back.

If someone else reads this and wants me, i promise on my life to do as told.


You'll do as you are told? Excellent. Here are my orders. If you are serious about this, you will obey completely.

(Note to message board users: yes, this is a shamelessly recycled post with some edits to fit this person)

I will be your Mistress for the next week. Unfortunately it will be online only, but that's ok because you're not ready for in-person anyway.

Your orders:
Look at the non-fiction section of this book list: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm
Pick any three and read them, cover to cover.

No porn for the week. That is, no videos, no dirty pictures, no erotic stories. You may read the forums here, but no asking people for play.

Write me a 500 word summary of what you imagine a D/s relationship would be like. Include a sample daily routine. Show me that you have a grasp on reality. If you write 500 words of hot sex fantasy, I will know you haven't done the above steps. Show me that you understand emotional connection, serving someone else's desires (not just your own hard on) and the fact that everyday life must go on in between the kink. Post it in this thread.

Write an essay regarding people being forced to carry out sexual acts against their will. Please include the definitions of rape and sexual assault, and defend your opinion that being forced into sexual acts would be 'for your own good' as your profile states. Also consider whether it is truly 'forced' if you are literally asking to do these things. Show both sides of the argument and come to a well reasoned conclusion.

Spend at least an hour every day working on a practical skill that you think would be desirable in a partner. Nothing to do with sex. Maybe you learn to cook. Maybe you learn new cleaning techniques, start growing a herb garden, practice a musical instrument or take an online course in bookkeeping. You won't be able to perfect anything in this time, but self improvement is valuable in a sub.

Another 500 word piece on healthy relationships. What makes a healthy relationship? Discuss self respect, mutual benefit and emotional security. Discuss what this means in the context of D/s and consider what can be done to keep both partners safe, physically and emotionally. Consider your stance of obeying anyone and having no right to say no, even with someone you have no prior relationship with. Discuss how this reflects on you as a person, how realistic this is, and what the possible consequences could be.

Re-write your profile. Take down any pictures with genitals or butts in them. Put up one or more photos of you, fully clothed. You can blot out your face if you prefer. Take out all of the text and re-write the profile in this format:
-One paragraph about who you are as a person. About 4 sentences. I suggest you include vanilla hobbies and skills, personality traits and why I might want to date you.
-One paragraph about the relationship you want. Specify if it's play only, 24-7, kink in the bedroom and equals out of it etc. What type of woman do you want to meet? NOT about how kinky she is or what she will force you to do. Age range, personality etc.
-TWO SENTENCES - and no more - about your kinky interests. Right at the end.
You are not allowed to use the following words: goddess, cock, ass (or any word that refers to your private parts)
You must run it through spell check.

After you've done all this, I'd like another post here explaining what you've learned this week and whether you think you have benefited. Please post all written assignments to this thread.

You may complete and and all of these tasks in lingerie/with something in your butt, if that helps.
Remember - you promised on your life to do as you are told, and you'll never resist again.

That advice should be mandatory for any poster who comes on here crying about all the fakes on the other side, as well as their inability to meet someone. And it's non-kneel specific (if that makes sense). Now I wish there was a "like" button on here too.




TigressLily -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 8:38:18 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

quote:

ORIGINAL: stupidbitchslave

.... It is not my right to resist and I'll never question or resist again.

My purpose is to obey
.

Please Mistress if you read this, please take me back.

If someone else reads this and wants me, i promise on my life to do as told.


You'll do as you are told? Excellent. Here are my orders. If you are serious about this, you will obey completely.

I will be your Mistress for the next week. Unfortunately it will be online only, but that's ok because you're not ready for in-person anyway.
<snip>

There you have it sbs, your wish for a Mistress has been granted, and you have AthenaSurrenders to obey and to report to. Prove this isn't all a bunch of crock.

(While I go attend to a spot I missed from wiping egg off my face last night, let me reiterate what RedMagic1 and I noted on another thread. Athena, you have what it takes. MasterCaneman, I concur with your astute observation.)




Rochsub2009 -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 10:48:54 AM)

AthenaSurrenders,
Great post! Unfortunately, I doubt that the OP will "obey". But nevertheless, there was some high quality content in that post. I hope he at least reads it and comprehends the valuable lessons contained therein.




AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 11:01:27 AM)

Thank you. I can't imagine why I'm not being inundated with applications to become my next sub. You think I should do a ducklips photo?




mnottertail -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 11:06:19 AM)

Now wait a minute. Where was the cock going and did you have a getaway car?




RedMagic1 -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 11:07:32 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: stupidbitchslave
I had a Mistress who was perfect in every way and I made the mistake of not taking cock when she wanted me to. Now, I am desperate for her to come back to me. I would do anything she asked including that and more. Now that she is gone, I am sad and lonely and realize how stupid I was.

Is this a woman you knew in real life? or online only?




DesFIP -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 11:15:22 AM)

If she really was perfect, she would have understood your limits and helped you to slowly overcome them if possible.

If all you want is s & m, I suggest you find a pro domme for the meantime.

But advertizing yourself as available to any dominant female actually says you don't care about having a connection, a relationship. And that attitude drives women away. Nobody wants to be a fetish delivery system.




SerWhiteTiger -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 12:26:46 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SerWhiteTiger

If you send me 25% of your income, I'll tell you what to do. Consider it a tithe.



How about 23%?




PeonForHer -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 12:32:59 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Now wait a minute. Where was the cock going and did you have a getaway car?


I think it was whopped up someone's jacksie, Ron. Or not, in the case of the OP. I don't think Athena was offering to drill the OP's arse either, not least because she's a bird and doesn't therefore have a whanger.

Actually, I'm confused. I don't have a clue what's going on this thread.




mnottertail -> RE: Failed to take cock - help me? (10/14/2013 12:34:07 PM)

Peon If you will operate the dildo I will drive the getaway car.




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