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Anal - 7/2/2006 7:30:41 AM

petslaveshauna

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Last night Master had His pet use the dildo anally, and it did not bother it until He had it put it all the way in and it made its back feel numb. Master wanted His pet to sleep with it in, but had to let it pull it out a little ways so that its back no longer was numb. So it is wondering if anyone has had similar experiences, or can give any suggestions. it is working on anal so that it may be ready for Master's use in all ways. Thanks for any help.

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 8:04:51 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: petslaveshauna
Last night Master had His pet use the dildo anally, and it did not bother it until He had it put it all the way in and it made its back feel numb. Master wanted His pet to sleep with it in, but had to let it pull it out a little ways so that its back no longer was numb. So it is wondering if anyone has had similar experiences, or can give any suggestions. it is working on anal so that it may be ready for Master's use in all ways. Thanks for any help.

The anus can only take so much. You found your bodies limit- listen to it and enjoy what you can.

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 8:13:58 AM

bandit25

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I'm sure your Master wouldn't want to damage you. Thus, you might want to listen to LA.

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 12:15:26 PM

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i am just now being introduced to anal and am finding it very hard to relax. any suggestions? also does A/anyone have any suggestions on how i can help loosen myself up. i have tried small butt plugs with no problem, but when i try to increase the size it just will not go in. thank Y/you for any inputs.

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 12:23:42 PM

LorgromAndMiskel

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PiggyPuta

i am just now being introduced to anal and am finding it very hard to relax. any suggestions? also does A/anyone have any suggestions on how i can help loosen myself up. i have tried small butt plugs with no problem, but when i try to increase the size it just will not go in. thank Y/you for any inputs.

piggyputa

You could give an inflatible anal plug a try. Start off with it at its deflated state. Then once you get confortible give it a couple of squeezes. Let your body adjust, then continue. Keep doing this till you hit your limit, then stop. After several sessions you will start to notice the size you inflate the plug to will slowly get larger. As this happens your anal muscles will start getting use to being stretched more and more. After a while, give a larger solid anal plug a try. You should find it goes it much easier, and with much less pain.

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 1:00:18 PM

PiggyPuta

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thanks for the suggestion...looks like i'm taking a trip to the adult "goody" store.

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 2:03:07 PM

petslaveshauna

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when it first started with anal, it started with a small plug and worked on getting it in, then it would work on leaving it in for a little longer, and when it could get it in easily and keep it in for a while it moved to the medium sized, and now it is working on the large size, which is very hard, and it is also working on being used anally, having something move in and out which is taking a little getting use to to relax, the first time it was used that way Master said it was so tight and it had just had the inflatable plug in.

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 3:58:27 PM

littleone35

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The best thing you can do is relax. I know its hard it was hard for me also. Matbe if you play vaginally first and you get really hot it is easeir to relax (at least for me it is). if you tense up it will only hurt more so just try to relax.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 4:59:39 PM

CrappyDom

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I try not to be a dipshit and start shoving things in people's or its asses. I prefer to do such things with a bit of skill and grace but too each his own. Some people might get their partners to actually enjoy this shit before shoving things in willy nilly.

Associating orgasms with anal play is a splendid way to do that and fun for the whole family. Or you could skip that part and just say fuck it.

In addition, the trick to relaxing is to shove AGAINST the object with your sphincter, that is the motion one makes to relax, counter intuitive but true.

Oh, and when parts of my partners body go numb, I always figure that just might be a sign that I don't know what the fuck I am doing and stop.

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 4:59:48 PM

babysburnin

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I'm glad my Dom isn't fixated on anal. I've never had an adversion to it, if done with finesse...but reading these posts I think I am developing one.

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 5:49:53 PM

SirCre8iv

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As far as getting numb, it sounds like the dildo is putting reasure on something like a nerv. It may be a good idea to not have preasure on this spot for any extended periods of time as that may damage a nurve resulting in some type of loss of feelings. Not being a medical doctor I can not say this for sure but it is what it sounds like to me.

I'd like to add too, that use of a GOOD lube can make all the difference. Without the proper lube, the skin tends to grasp the object and the muscles will automatically tighten up. That makes it a little hard for a submissive to relax. With a good lube the anus is so slippery that the object inserted does not get caught up on the skin and slides in without any hesitation. I have had very good results using "Astroglide" which I can find at most drug stores and some department stores. It blows KY away by far.

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 6:52:52 PM

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I have a lot of scaring in my rump from childhood trauma, I want to be able to do anal for my Master too but I am finding the pain to be so bad that I see stars and start to pass out, I just can not relax, I try and he talks me through it, but still it seems like I just don't have the ability to stretch much. We were able to do this once and me have pleasure, so I KNOW we can do it again, but out of all our attempts even with plugs, the intense horrible head ache causing pain is just wow, I don't have words for it. Master is willing to give up, but I'm not ready to yet, so I'll be watching this thread closely

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 7:04:12 PM

wild1cfl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: petslaveshauna

Last night Master had His pet use the dildo anally, and it did not bother it until He had it put it all the way in and it made its back feel numb. Master wanted His pet to sleep with it in, but had to let it pull it out a little ways so that its back no longer was numb. So it is wondering if anyone has had similar experiences, or can give any suggestions. it is working on anal so that it may be ready for Master's use in all ways. Thanks for any help.

I had a slave who had a similiar problem with a dildo anally. What we discovered is the size was a bit too big for her and it was a bit too long for her. We were putting pressure on the sciatic nerve that runs down the leg from the back. We ended up using a smaller anal plug that did not reach as far in and was smaller. and we did not have anymore difficulty with this.
When I start anyone with anal I use a good lubricant and lots of it. I have them lay on their back and get them very relaxed and comfortable. I start very slowly using my finger on the anus and slowly work towards inserting. Some people have no problem and it goes in very easily, others have difficulty and we usually just spend a lot more time relaxing the anus and probing slowly until it begins ot go in easily. The muscles will eventually relax especially if the perosn is relaxed and focused on something else other than her anus. Patience in this case is a virtue and it can bring great rewards if you are careful and patient.

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RE: Anal - 7/2/2006 7:09:07 PM

CrappyDom

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Desert, if you did it once successfully, the scaring that is keeping you from doing this is mental which is quite real but needs to be dealt with differently.

Buttplugs and such don't train the ass to be more open, that is bullshit. They are training wheels to help your MIND learn to relax the sphincter muscles. But they only work if they relax your mind which they clearly don't, so you need a different set of training wheels. Also, think about that time you did feel pleasure, how much was "real" pleasure and how much was pain felt as pleasure? That is another key although I think one that leads to a bit of a dead end.

Forget penetration for now. Learn about how to enjoy the sensations caused by simply touching and caressing your sphincter from the outside. When he is going down on you and you are near orgasm, have him simply start touching (with lube, which as someone said VERY important) and just play with it, let you feel pleasure without any physical penetration. Then once you are relaxed and enjoying that, when you get close to orgasm slowly stop other sensation and increase the external play with your ass and with time, try and take you over the edge with just that, or keep you near the peak by alternating clitoral and anal stimulation.

As your mind begins to relax and the connection between anal play and pleasure strengthen, with a finger with a closely cropped fingernail, add the tiniest bit of penetration, again, the secret is giving you less than you want. Make you beg for more.

That does all sorts of things to your head. Gives you control over it, strengthens the whole anal=pleasure connection, and gets you in a headspace where you forget you need to relax cause you already have.

Its slow but trust me, it isn't a pain in the ass.

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RE: Anal - 7/3/2006 3:36:58 PM

Ladyofthemanor

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i am actually anally fisted by my Master...however i still find inserting butt plugs especially the large one that i have hurts my back too. it has to do with my sciatica nerve. My Master is now looking for a wide plug but short in length to help with the pain.

For relaxation, before fistings, my Master will have me on all fours and will gently rub my back to relax me, also for some that do have insertion issues have your Master hold the object or his penis while you go back toward him that way you can control the depth of it until it feel comfortable to you. You can also do this with you on top, i know it doesn't sound very subbie, but this way you can control it. Also remember lots of lube, i have seen some people use crisco for lub (i don't recommend it), or get a lube just for anal sex. i also recommend the book Erotic Surrender: The Sensual Joys of Female Submission, by Claudia Varrin, it has some relaxation techniques in opening up your "rosebud" as she calls it.

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RE: Anal - 7/3/2006 5:19:17 PM

PoetryInMotion

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I personally think a lot of the above is a crock. Plugs and dildos and impromptue objects used preparatory to anal sex can be a lot of fun but thats just what it is.
If you want to do slave in the ass pull her head back by her hair and give it to her hard and fast. If slave is particularly tight and hurts too badly to accept some restraint may be needed.The tiniest and most submissive of people can develope extraordinary reflex strength and make it difficult to complete the act.
The upside forslave is that after that it can only get better :-)

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RE: Anal - 7/3/2006 5:31:19 PM

sleazybutterfly

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I used to hate anal.. it only hurt..and even burned. Sir used anal-eeze or something like that on me..and whipped me with a belt..while I stimulated myself..it still burned at first..hurt actually when he put it in..but then..before I knew it.. I was pushing back and pulling him in more.

Not sure if that stuff will work for you..but it might..and I think the whipping and other stimuli helped distract me so that I loosened up a bit. It was the first time I enjoyed it EVER with anyone..so something must have worked right this time.

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RE: Anal - 7/3/2006 8:09:17 PM

CrappyDom

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Poetry,

I think you need to get a refund on your chatroom master's degree. As one of the first to poke fun at the safety nazis I think I can say with a bit of authority that you are full of shit. Tearing of the rectum is a serious medical injury and your response may well work in your chatrooms but in the real world could wind someone up in the hospital.

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RE: Anal - 7/3/2006 8:32:36 PM

sharainks

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Crappydom,

I hate to tell you this but sometimes you sound like the voice of reason. Actually your real world info and sanity are appreciated by me if not always by others.

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RE: Anal - 7/3/2006 8:40:53 PM

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It's all in the goatee. It lends him a certain air of authority. Like Zorro or something.

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