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kiwisub12 -> RE: Am I wrong or what (10/15/2013 4:19:25 PM)
The only thing I have to add to the above is - you are in the honeymoon phase. It doesn't get any better than right now - not that it will get bad, but right now the two of you are putting your best foot forward and being as good as you can be. No dirty socks on the floor, no leaving the toilet seat up , and being caring and compassionate in times of need. In other words, if he and you don't have compatible goals and expectations, you need to iron it out now.

DesFIP -> RE: Am I wrong or what (10/15/2013 8:17:05 PM)
If he can only call in the morning, that's because later in the day he's at home with his wife and family. He's calling before he goes into work.

NoBimbosAllowed -> RE: Am I wrong or what (10/15/2013 8:54:03 PM)
LOL, thanks to Des for saying something that made my own comments seem mild by comparison!

NoBimbosAllowed -> RE: Am I wrong or what (10/15/2013 9:02:01 PM)
Mission Control, we have Oprah. there is no doubt that something has gone wrong here, but the title is "am I wrong or what?". If you're worried, you're not wrong. but the other part of the question was "does thins mean he may not be really into me"? and people are forgetting that this is separate to "Am I wrong?" and separate to whether or not this man is doing the wrong thing. he can be doing the wrong thing and we can agree on that, but this does not address the question of whether or not he's still into MissOldBroad. When Oprah posts on Collarme, then Oprah socio-politics apply.

AdorkableAiley -> RE: Am I wrong or what (10/16/2013 10:01:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NoBimbosAllowed Mission Control, we have Oprah. there is no doubt that something has gone wrong here, but the title is "am I wrong or what?". If you're worried, you're not wrong. but the other part of the question was "does thins mean he may not be really into me"? and people are forgetting that this is separate to "Am I wrong?" and separate to whether or not this man is doing the wrong thing. he can be doing the wrong thing and we can agree on that, but this does not address the question of whether or not he's still into MissOldBroad. When Oprah posts on Collarme, then Oprah socio-politics apply. He may be into her he may not. He may be looking to see how much she will take from him before running the other way. If she lets him walk all over her now that sets the tone for how their relationship will be. If he gets away with things now he will look to get away with more and bigger things later. I don't think it has anything to do with if he is interested or not. If he is with her than I think yeah he is interested, just super lazy and he is just looking to see what is the absolute minimum he can do to keep her around and in my opinion that is not the kind of man you want to uproot your life for. Ailey

NoBimbosAllowed -> RE: Am I wrong or what (10/16/2013 11:03:04 PM)
I agree with you. Sadly, I think he's looking at the same notions as you posted and applying it from the other side of things, his side.

sexyred1 -> RE: Am I wrong or what (10/28/2013 1:53:11 PM)
Seriously, if a man cannot take 3 minutes to call, he is not worth it. I don't care how busy you are. And if you have to discuss this so soon, then it probably does not bode well.

KYsissy -> RE: Am I wrong or what (10/28/2013 5:00:28 PM)
Alarm bells and red flags should be all over you right now. Slow down and evaluate the situation. Delay the move for six months at least. Six months is nothing in the grand scheme. Before you throw away everything you have now, make sure both of you are on the same page.

MissOldBroad -> RE: Am I wrong or what (11/3/2013 7:19:35 AM)
Well I guess I will cut the ties that bind (giggle). The third time is the charm. A Dominant that is not in full control of his life in no way can control me. Guess I am back on the market. Glad i havent burnt any bridges here. My life can begin again. I would like to take this time to thank each and everyone of you for such wonderful advice and support. it is greatly appreciated.

njlauren -> RE: Am I wrong or what (11/3/2013 3:34:45 PM)
I think you are doing the right thing. I am of the school that with an M/s relationship, you need to be absolutely certain of the other person, that they are worthy of trust and so forth, especially when you are literally giving up your current life and so forth and moving where you probably know no one, and so forth. It is one of the qualms I have with TPE relationships and so forth, where the sub literally turns over everything to the dominant, and if it goes wrong don't have much of a support base other than hoping the M or D is trustworthy and willing and able to help them if it goes south. The other factor here is related to your status as a transwoman, unfortunately there are people out there who have fetishized trans folk, not into people, but rather into this image, and the 'trans slave girl' is a pretty big one....in fiction and fantasy it is okay, but there are those out there who kind of look at trans folks as somehow natural subs to do with they want with, or not really people with feelings and so forth. I am talking partially from experience and from things I saw happen over the years and so forth. For a lot of trans girls, trying to find acceptance and so forth, some of them will do stupid things to get into a 'relationship', and forget not everyone is honest. This happens to people who have met face to face, have a relationship, when they think they know the people, meeting people in cyberland where fantasies rage is even more fraught. I wish you well, I think based on the little you posted you did the right thing:)

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