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TigressLily -> RE: in need of training (10/22/2013 10:32:21 PM)
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You really are new (as in wannabe sub) if the one sentence in your profile says you're "willing to try with no boundaries." That's a penultimate clueless position to take. (The ultimate being a newbie calling himself an instant 'slave,' which thankfully you didn't do.) You'd better set some limits for yourself pronto. You should have some clue what you find revolting. If you are that unfamiliar with BDSM, you need to educate yourself all the more.
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ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT
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ORIGINAL: mikey1882
new to the dom and sub scene in need of training
And what would a dominant woman get out of training that you want her to spend time and effort on you? What do you bring to the table?
Go over the Interests checklists under Edit Profile and peruse those categories. Not everything is listed (such as scat/toilet, Breath Play, Ice Play, Age Play, Flogging, human ashtray/smoking fetish, Pig Play/feeder fetish; urethral penetration would fall under CBT-Cock&Ball Torture). Keep in mind there are Hard Limits and Soft Limits for you to determine for yourself. When you get to that (pre-)consideration stage with a Domme, you need to make sure you are both compatible not only as two regular persons, but that your kinks & fetishes are compatible. Due to inexperience, you may not know what your preferences are, and that's okay. Your prospective Mistress should be understanding of this if she's willing to take you on a trial basis. Don't compromise your integrity by thinking with your dick.
You have nothing checked off, and I would at least list a half dozen or so vanilla interests to give some insight into your personality. Which brings us to DomMeinCT's question. What do you have to offer other than your submission? Not to minimize the importance of this, but it's only the starting point in a D/s relationship. What makes you special? What desirable qualities do you have other than your physicality or willingness to be flexible? What talents or characteristics do you possess that would make you a good catch for ANY woman in the real world regardless of how dominant she is? We don't spend all day & night Domming, you know. Many of us want intimate LTRs with a companion-partner.
{Edited for typo}
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