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openmindedguy678 -> Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 4:54:14 PM)

Looking for advice on beginning my search as a submissive bi male. i would prefer to submit to a bi dominant couple, are they out here and if so what would be the best way of getting their attention?

Thanks,

andrew



DarkSteven -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 5:11:31 PM)

Well, so far all I see is two pics of you, one of your dick. And a blank profile.

1. What are you looking for? Just play, or a relationship? Are you up to doing cleaning, cooking, carpentry, etc.?
2. What kind of couple? What age range? I assume they need to live near Statesboro?
3. Aside from making a profile, what have you done? Have you attended munches and parties?




openmindedguy678 -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 5:15:53 PM)

i am still learning about this although i have had the profile for a while. i am not sure what to put in my profile or what kind of pictures to take. Picking the right photos to share and being able to take interesting pictures is what i am trying to learn more about. Ive also been trying to figure out how to word my profile properly to communicate my situation properly. This is so frustrating at times...thank You for Your insight.



DarkSteven -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 5:38:05 PM)

Well, you answered my first question.



openmindedguy678 -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 5:41:35 PM)

Is a munch a good starting point? Also, how do you get invited to a party? I do not know anyone besides myself in the lifestyle.



DarkSteven -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 6:13:35 PM)

https://fetlife.com/groups/17143

https://fetlife.com/groups/59194

Please note that I asked you several questions. I still do not know what kind of relationship you want, what kind of couple you want. You indirectly told me you have not been to munches or parties. I do not know what you have done aside from making a profile.

Why would a sub have difficulty in answering direct questions?




lizi -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 6:22:48 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedguy678

i am still learning about this although i have had the profile for a while. i am not sure what to put in my profile or what kind of pictures to take. Picking the right photos to share and being able to take interesting pictures is what i am trying to learn more about. Ive also been trying to figure out how to word my profile properly to communicate my situation properly. This is so frustrating at times...thank You for Your insight.


DS had a good point, it doesn't seem as though you're giving people much to go on to be able to help you if you aren't invested in following up on the posts.

As far as pictures go, if you are looking for female interest take out the penis picture stat. You don't have much in the way of bragging rights, and women find genitalia photos to be distasteful until they are interested in proceeding down the road of intimacy with someone. For now, wow people with other qualities instead.

There are many past threads on interesting profile photos, you can do a search for those threads and get some ideas there. Just don't substitute a naked torso shot for the dick one.



openmindedguy678 -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 8:16:14 PM)

I am working tonight and trying to reply in between emergency calls. I will answer your questions, lease bear with me until I can address each one beginning now.

1) I am looking for a woman or couple for play on a regular basis at their beck and call. I will cook, clean, mow, repair, etc.
2) dominant female or couples between 50 and 70 and yes local would be nice although I will travel up to 250 miles as my schedule allows me that luxury.
3) I have only made the profile and also have tried fetlife. I have not reached out until tonight for help with creating my profile.



OsideGirl -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 8:29:22 PM)

Stop trolling for a hook up. It's a discussion forum, not a pick up joint on a Saturday night.

I would suggest that you start with the book list at the top of this forum and then look at the sticky FAQS at the top of the Ask A Mistress forum.



openmindedguy678 -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 8:32:00 PM)

Oside those were answers to a question NOT trolling.



OsideGirl -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 8:37:58 PM)


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ORIGINAL: openmindedguy678

Oside those were answers to a question NOT trolling.


Touche. I missed that point.

But as an observation, you come across as focused on "this is the person that I want to do me" rather than, "this is what I'm looking for in a relationship".

I STILL suggest that you look at the booklist and the FAQ in the Ask a Mistress forum.



openmindedguy678 -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 8:45:53 PM)

Will do Oside, I am going to take this advice and work on my profile and I appreciate the assistance.



DarkSteven -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 9:23:38 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedguy678

I am working tonight and trying to reply in between emergency calls. I will answer your questions, lease bear with me until I can address each one beginning now.

1) I am looking for a woman or couple for play on a regular basis at their beck and call. I will cook, clean, mow, repair, etc.
2) dominant female or couples between 50 and 70 and yes local would be nice although I will travel up to 250 miles as my schedule allows me that luxury.
3) I have only made the profile and also have tried fetlife. I have not reached out until tonight for help with creating my profile.


Thanks.

Damn, you're willing to do service. The fact that it's not ALL about play will help you a LOT.

250 miles is a lot. Does that reach as far as Atlanta?

Once you get involved with the local community, things should go easier.



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/23/2013 9:42:30 PM)

~FRing it~

I'm a variation of the situation you are looking for. So there are others of us out there.

Read your profile so I could give a fair assssment. Didn't really care for the whole play-by-play recap of your previous experience with a couple. A bit too graphic and penis-centric for my tastes. Just my honest opinion. Id love to have seen something along the lines of "interacted with a couple in the past" and called it good. What should shine in your profile is you...and what you bring to the table. You did that a bit down the line, but I had to deal with TMI to get there.

The honesty about being in a vanilla relationship is appreciated. However many (my guy and I included) are not interested in connecting with an otherwise attached person UNLESS your vanilla partner was 100% on board with things and I heard from them personally that it was okay to interact with you. Is yours an open relationship or is this sneaky down low stuff? I'm not saying everyone feels this way. But there are many who do feel similarly to me and you will no doubt encounter this in your search.

Lastly...cock shots turn a lot of people off. It's sad that your regular guy pic is flipped on its side, yet the cock shot manages to be oriented in the correct direction.

Am I saying your search will prove fruitless? Most likely not. But if these things come to my mind when I see your profile, it may come to mind of others out there like me. Good luck in your search



openmindedguy678 -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/24/2013 4:19:57 AM)

I'm trying to remove the cock picture just cant do it from my phone. Regarding my vanilla life, my wife hates this lifestyle and thinks we are sick and would never approve of my bisexual yearning. I will remove the TMI and rework it as you suggested. Thanks



SweetAnise -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/24/2013 5:02:55 AM)

Big question I have is WHY did you post a cock pic in the first place? Start from there and join a local group.



tallandsweet16 -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/24/2013 5:44:40 AM)

dark steven-- i just love your comments and posts. i always learn a ton, but also, i laugh at your wit and sarcasm, too. this just made my morning! :)



DarkSteven -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/24/2013 5:50:30 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: tallandsweet16

dark steven-- i just love your comments and posts. i always learn a ton, but also, i laugh at your wit and sarcasm, too. this just made my morning! :)



Woo hoo! A conquest! [:)]



openmindedguy678 -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/24/2013 8:54:12 AM)

Answer...uniformed poor choice of picture should ave inquired here before posting pictures to get insight to what may work and what doesn't. i can admit when i'm wrong and learn from my mistakes.



TieMeInKnottss -> RE: Newbie submissive bi male (10/24/2013 8:56:13 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedguy678

I'm trying to remove the cock picture just cant do it from my phone. Regarding my vanilla life, my wife hates this lifestyle and thinks we are sick and would never approve of my bisexual yearning. I will remove the TMI and rework it as you suggested. Thanks


So...what are you doing about the wife? getting divorced? I know I should have read all the responses but patience is NOT my virtue of the day...

You are best starting in local community. Male subs are, unfortunately, a dime a dozen even bisexual which makes for a lot of competition. Second, the marriage thing will be a problem unless you get your wife to ok it




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