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RE: looking - 10/26/2013 5:15:57 AM   
lizi


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All right I need a new profile. can any help with that. thank-you


Seriously? That's what you got from this thread and your intro thread? Yes, it would help to expand your profile, a gentleman by the name of Rochsub in post #7 gave you some help on this very subject already. Go do it.

Other people have suggested munches, have you looked into that? It was suggested that you read the forum FAQ's and the sticky at the top of the Ask a Mistress section , did you do that?

It doesn't seem like you do much with the help that you already get, maybe if people could see you were serious about making some efforts, then they would come forward with more suggestions.

Someone asked you a questions in post #3, did you answer that? Have you even looked at the posts that people have made here out of their own time and effort and taken the least bit of time to understand what they are saying? If your take away from this thread is that you need a new profile, and once again, you want help with it, I have to wonder seriously about your ability to comprehend what you read.

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RE: looking - 10/26/2013 5:25:48 AM   
tallwithblueeye


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Status: offline 		See not good at this, that why I need a mistress. To tell me what to do

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RE: looking - 10/26/2013 5:32:45 AM   
freedomdwarf1


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ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye

See not good at this, that why I need a mistress. To tell me what to do

People here have already given you several ideas on what to do.

Are you so ignorant, dumb, stupid, unimaginitive and lazy not to even do anything that has been suggested so far??

Sheeesh! You are beyond help. Sorry.

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RE: looking - 10/26/2013 5:39:19 AM   
lizi


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ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye

See not good at this, that why I need a mistress. To tell me what to do


Dude, no Mistress wants a baby child, she wants a man, and she wants a valuable addition to her life. Stand up, be an adult, and show someone what you can add to their life.

You've been given suggestions and all you do is throw your hands up and sit on your butt. Come on.

Getting a Mistress is NOT going to solve your problems, because there aren't women out there that want an endless project like running your life; they actually want you to contribute to theirs as well. Offering yourself as a bland bag of flesh to direct is not an attraction. Stop thinking that any woman wants a warm lump standing in the corner, it's too much work.

If all you are going to do is ask for help and then not take anyone up on it...then why are you even here? Did you think a Mistress would read your thread and swoop in to carry you off and tell you what to do? If you want something, you have to work for it like anything else. If you had done things differently, a Mistress may have read this thread and been impressed by your willingness to learn. She might have seen you working hard at attaining this goal of yours. As it is, you threw up your hands and offer nothing. Do you work? Do you buy groceries? Do your laundry? If you are capable of taking care of yourself in other areas then why can't you put in some effort to find a satisfying relationship? It's not going to be served up to you on a plate, you're going to have to knuckle down and do some work.

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RE: looking - 10/26/2013 6:26:54 AM   
angelikaJ


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ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye

See not good at this, that why I need a mistress. To tell me what to do


I am not sure you need a Mistress for that.
You could find a professional organiser:
http://www.findmyorganizer.com/organize.b.507.g.4529.html?professional_organizer_region=florida&professional_organizer_city=clearwater&page=1 to tell you how to be more efficient in how you do things, or find a life coach: http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_results.php?city=Clearwater&state=FL&spec=13 , but finding someone to take you by the hand and show you how to do things, is not usually what a Mistress does.
You are seeming like someone who has developed some degree of learned helplessness, and how is that going to enhance another person's life... ?


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RE: looking - 10/27/2013 8:25:47 AM   
peppermint


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ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye

See not good at this, that why I need a mistress. To tell me what to do



So if a Mistress told you to go to munch, you would do it. If I tell you to go to munch you can't understand?

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RE: looking - 10/27/2013 9:17:31 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye

Looking about 5 month. Play two time. need full time


You're doing about par. I was looking for quite a while and playing twice in five months sounds about right. I kept at it and eventually met more people and have now had my sub for 2.5 years.

With all due respect, you seem to be a blue collar type, and the Internet is a written medium. I'd go along with the others' suggestions and find a munch. Please note that peppermint not only advised that, but gave you a step by step process to do it.

When she did that, she gave you far more direction that almost any Domme would do.

For your own sake, develop more initiative and start tackling things. It'll make you far more attractive to prospective Dommes.

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RE: looking - 10/27/2013 10:44:12 AM   
Rochsub2009


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New person after new person comes here and is told this is the DISCUSSION side; people come here to DISCUSS; this is where we DISCUSS. So someone actually asks a question to start a DISCUSSION and they are told to go read the FAQs and do their own research. New people can't win.


I agree. This has been a problem around here for a long time.

I know that some of the old-timers get sick of seeing the same questions asked over and over again. But for the newbies, this is their first time asking the question. For them, the question is new and interesting. The same information that is old and tired to us is new and full of wonder to them. So we have to remember that, and try to stop ourselves from giving the jaded answers that we so often do.

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RE: looking - 10/27/2013 7:25:44 PM   
peppermint


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009




I agree. This has been a problem around here for a long time.

I know that some of the old-timers get sick of seeing the same questions asked over and over again. But for the newbies, this is their first time asking the question. For them, the question is new and interesting. The same information that is old and tired to us is new and full of wonder to them. So we have to remember that, and try to stop ourselves from giving the jaded answers that we so often do.


The problem is when the same poster keeps asking the same question. This poster has had 10 posts, and 8 of them were deleted by the Mods. I would guess that they were all similar as in poor or non existent grammar and spelling, making the post unreadable. I wrote what I thought was good advice. Did the OP read it? Seems doubtful as all he got from reading all the posts is that his profile sucks. Will he take my advice? I'd bet he never even considered it. My advice is just too much work. He has to make a few keystrokes on the computer.

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Yes, I am crazy about feathered creatures. I have a dozen chickens, 3 ducks, 5 geese, and 2 parakeets.

Revise that number. Just got 14 new chicks and 5 turkeys.

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RE: looking - 10/27/2013 7:29:47 PM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		Et us know when you have re-written your profile and I am sure several will offer opinions but, remember, even a kickass profile will not guarantee success. Most subs look for YEARS!! Frankly, with the online odds it really behooves you to become a regular participator in your local community. Volunteer, get to know the regulars...network... You don't state any age or physical requirements and that is good because often men want a young hot chick and that is why so many fall for the scammers (too good to be true? She probably is NOT "true")

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RE: looking - 10/27/2013 9:03:11 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye
that why I need a mistress. To tell me what to do

I seem to remember AthenaSurrenders told at least a couple guys recently what to do when they said the same thing. Maybe ask her. She was pretty good at it.

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RE: looking - 10/28/2013 6:44:41 AM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye

See not good at this, that why I need a mistress. To tell me what to do


Sigh. I gave you some sound advice several days ago, but I just took a look at your profile and I see that you haven't made a single change. Have you even looked at the link that I shared from FetLife?

We can't do this for you. You have to take some initiative on your own. And trust me when I tell you that it's a complete cop out when you say that you need a Mistress to tell you what to do. We've already told you what to do. Now you need to do it.

When the dominant ladies on the board read this thread, I doubt that they're going to be impressed. Nor are they likely to see you as a potential sub/slave. Instead, I believe they're going to think that you're a total loser, and I don't think that's the first impression that you were going for.

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RE: looking - 10/28/2013 7:02:46 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye

looking for a real mistress in Fl so far found fake one. How can this be done.

Patience grasshopper. Rome wasn't built in a day and you might have to wait awhile to find the Mistress of your dreams. There are a gazillion male subs out there for every Domme. You need to make yourself look head and shoulders above the rest to get noticed. And you're 54 years old. Are you seriously saying you don't know how to meet and attract women by now? Dommes are women, first and foremost, approach one like you would any woman. It actually works.
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ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye

All right I need a new profile. can any help with that. thank-you

Honestly, you need to do that yourself. You know yourself better than any of us do. Include in it some information about what makes you you, what you bring to the table for a Mistress/Domme. Also say a little about what you're looking for in a dynamic. I see you already have a nice vanilla picture of you doing something you like to do. Good.
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ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye

See not good at this, that why I need a mistress. To tell me what to do

Okay, I will. You need to get busy on your profile and flesh it out some as I said above. We can't tell you what to put in it because you know you better than anyone else so get moving on it. Pronto! Think of it as an advertisement for yourself. That's what it really is.

Also, get thee to a munch. Meet some real live people there and get to know them. If you've never been to one and you're too nervous to go alone, take a friend with you. A lot of times, going to munches is the gateway to getting connected in the local kink community.

I can't speak for everyone here, but I don't think I'd be interested in a sub who has so little, if any, initiative that he needs someone else to tell him how to do every itty bitty thing. If you have absolutely no initiative of your own, chances are you won't be an attractive potential submissive for many Dommes.

NBMG

< Message edited by NiceButMeanGirl -- 10/28/2013 7:05:10 PM >

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RE: looking - 10/28/2013 9:17:08 PM   
tallwithblueeye


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Status: offline 		Thank-you every one I will work on it.

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