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Tasks for online-only subs - 10/30/2013 10:09:56 PM

felicityfleece

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So all my subs are online only, which is the way I want it, however...I am a bit more restricted than rl dommes in trying to think up non-boring tasks for them to do each day.

All my subs work in office / traditional jobs, so I've so far made them go to work without underpants and go into the bathroom and touch themselves almost to the point of orgasm but then told them to imagine their hand is mine and that I have just abruptly stopped, spat on them and walked away. Then they are not allowed to pleasure themselves anymore until I tell them (like, a day later).

One sub I mentioned in another thread, he wants major penis disfigurement which I'm not comfortable being involved in, so I've just so far made him shave off all his pubic hair and stick it on top of the head of his penis like a wig. lol

Oh, and I made another sub shave the letter M into his chest hair (he is very hairy) as a demonstration of his devotion to his Mistress.

What else can I get them to do!?

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RE: Tasks for online-only subs - 10/30/2013 10:23:53 PM

MissImmortalPain

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I am not sure how many threads you will make that are pretty asking the same question but the common answer you are likely to get is.....no. You have to think up your own way of finding control and then keeping that control. If you lack the creativity to think of things for your subs to do I again suggest you get a different job. And again, good luck.

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RE: Tasks for online-only subs - 10/30/2013 10:25:53 PM

SeekingTrinity

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~FRing it~

I'm going to say what Im going to say in a hopefully non-sarcastic and snarky manner.

Are you charging these subs of yours money? If so, shouldn't you be coming up with your own ideas since you are being paid for it? If not, it should still come from you as well. No one else here is their Domme. You are. I could give you ideas until the cows come home, but I essentially assumed control of your sub and turned you into a sub as well since you'd be doing my bidding. And if that's the case, what purpose ultimately would you serve if you go about it this way?

The reality is that I find online D/s exceedingly boring personally. So thinking up a bunch of mundane little tasks for someone else to do devalues both them and their time. I actually find watching paint dry more interesting and entertaining than online D/s. To each their own though.

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RE: Tasks for online-only subs - 10/30/2013 10:50:01 PM

felicityfleece

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Hmm, yes. I am new so honestly hadn't really thought of that. You're right. I would be a sub if I didn't think of my own ideas.

Thank you! (no more threads from me for a while by the way)

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RE: Tasks for online-only subs - 10/31/2013 8:31:36 AM

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Yeah, as others have stated, it's hard to respect a Dom/Domme who can't even think of their own ideas.

You have the relationship with the subs, so you are the one who knows what makes them tick. Anything that we could come up with would merely be stabs in the dark, whereas you understand their fears and fantasies.

I hate to sound mean, but coming up with ideas for how to dominate your subs is part of the job description for a Dom/Domme. You really can't ask anyone else to do it for you.

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RE: Tasks for online-only subs - 10/31/2013 12:44:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
Yeah, as others have stated, it's hard to respect a Dom/Domme who can't even think of their own ideas.

Not to pick on you personally, because lots of people are saying this, but I don't agree. Or maybe I'm a shitty dom/top and I'm being defensive. But hell. I've read somewhat widely, and I've attended classes and demos, and I've talked with other people about their experiences. All of this provides a knowledge base from which I produce "my" ideas.

I'm perfectly happy to admit that I've copied things straight off of CM message board posts, or right out of a book, and had my partner think I was a great top, when all I really did was to adapt someone else's technique to my situation. Haven't most people done this, with most things in their lives? There aren't too many genuinely original ideas in the world.

I read the pushback more as arising from: "wait a sec... you don't know what you're doing yet, and you're charging for your time anyway?" I think the OP would have gotten more help if she weren't positioning herself as a professional.

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RE: Tasks for online-only subs - 10/31/2013 12:48:09 PM

NiceButMeanGirl

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1. You're the one getting paid here, you should be the one coming up with ideas to dominate the subs with. It's not like we'd be getting a cut of your paycheck is it?

2. Online is boring to me, so I haven't got a lot of ideas.

3. If you can't come up with ideas for online, maybe stick to real life. Online is limited in options.

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RE: Tasks for online-only subs - 10/31/2013 12:50:14 PM

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I read the pushback more as arising from: "wait a sec... you don't know what you're doing yet, and you're charging for your time anyway?" I think the OP would have gotten more help if she weren't positioning herself as a professional.

Yes, I'm sure that's at least a good part of it. If someone is going to call herself a Pro, she should know how to do her job.

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RE: Tasks for online-only subs - 10/31/2013 12:51:04 PM

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Tell them to do the dishes. To rub their wife's feet. To hold her hand and tell her he loves and values her.

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RE: Tasks for online-only subs - 10/31/2013 1:11:48 PM

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