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freedombliss -> Schedule (11/1/2013 12:28:39 PM)

I'm looking to be put on an orgasm schedule. I lock myself up all the time. And I unlock when I want to cum. It feels pointless unless some tells me when I am allowed. So I was wondering how I can find a Mistress to help me with this. It can be specific or general. Like what days or down to what minutes of what days. I really like being denied. Thanks for reading and thanks for helping.



Miyani -> RE: Schedule (11/1/2013 12:33:41 PM)

You can pay a pro, or you can have a relationship with a dominant woman. Because that's how it works. I cannot think of any woman who would be willing to JUST control the orgasms of someone they don't have a relationship with. Why would they?



LadyPact -> RE: Schedule (11/1/2013 1:19:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: freedombliss
It feels pointless unless some tells me when I am allowed.

I'm going to thank you for saying this part. I have to admit that it's a phenomenon that I don't understand. I can't identify with self-imposed chastity in any way. Some people say they like the *feeling* of the device, yadda, yadda, but *knowing* it's really only an illusion of control doesn't seem very fulfilling.

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So I was wondering how I can find a Mistress to help me with this.

In My opinion, what you need to do is to inspire a Dominant to care about your kink and/or your orgasms. There's roughly 7 billion people on the planet and roughly half of them are male. The other 3.5 billion are female and we're not generally all that interested in any random guy's sexual practices.

The next logical step is how do you inspire them to care? You have to bring something to the table that the other 3.5 billion men don't. There are a few ways to do that. One is for the woman to have an emotional investment in you, i.e., a relationship. If a woman cares about you, she'll care about your sexuality.

Another way to do this is pay for play. Cash is a great equalizer when it comes to so
many kinky males and relatively few kinky women who really don't care about your kinks. You pay them for the service of caring/putting you on your schedule. They make a buck and you get the kink that they want.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Schedule (11/1/2013 5:35:22 PM)

Break out the credit card, OP. Or find another way to be so valuable to a dominant that he/she becomes willing to indulge your fetish.

You pay in time or you pay in money. Select your preferred currency and get comfortable with it.



TigressLily -> RE: Schedule (11/1/2013 7:11:40 PM)


At your age in your early 20s, OP, you need to give some serious thought to relationship coin.

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

Break out the credit card, OP. Or find another way to be so valuable to a dominant that he/she becomes willing to indulge your fetish.

You pay in time or you pay in money. Select your preferred currency and get comfortable with it.


This kind of currency is so much more valuable, not just in time, talent, and resources, but at a feeling level that engenders intimacy. You may be able to spare a certain amount of money to feed your fetish or get your kink catered to, but chances are you aren't in any position to be throwing cash around either. You do have to be savvy about planning for your future.

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ORIGINAL: freedombliss

I'm looking to be put on an orgasm schedule. I lock myself up all the time. And I unlock when I want to cum. It feels pointless unless some tells me when I am allowed.... I really like being denied.


In any interpersonal relationship, young man, it's not all about you. Your Mistress has to care whether you come or not, she has to care enough about you to want to control you. Why should she give a damn when you say "I am not looking for sex in anyway."? What does she get out of this arrangement? One of the primary goals of orgasm control/regulation, such as with chastity, is to heighten sexual desire, not diminish it. Your Mistress is supposed to expect you to sexually service her, and this is why a chastity slave dynamic works best within a marriage or exclusive LTR.

A Swiss businessman friend of mine had a Keyholder Mistress who had trained him to ALWAYS be erect in her presence once she had unlocked him. (She was also a control freak and extremely jealous, but that served his purposes as well.) The objective from that side of things is to reap the benefits of a male partner's sexual desire, not to snuff it out by keeping his goods caged up indefinitely. There's the added element of the Sexual Torment the chastity slave undergoes, which fuels desire for both parties involved.

When you hire someone to assume the role of your Keyholder, her priorities will NOT be aligned with the properly-executed chastity process, because she won't be looking for you to provide her with passionate sexual encounters. After a prolonged period, being kept locked up in a chastity device for inordinate amounts of time can be detrimental to your male organs. You need to understand what you are doing.

You also say you have served Mistresses before. You do mention a willingness to do service work, so perhaps you can trade your services for what you seek from a Mistress. Keep in mind though, that monitoring a sub's orgasm schedule can be a time-consuming process. Bartering won't come cheap.



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Schedule (11/1/2013 7:21:51 PM)

~FRing it~

OP, do you realize how much added work that this adds to what I'm sure would be an already busy day for a dominant? For me personally, I have a whole host of real life shit I have to contend with. Keeping track of when and how you (or any other sub for that matter) spank the monkey is just too much work.




lizi -> RE: Schedule (11/1/2013 7:33:40 PM)


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ORIGINAL: freedombliss

I'm looking to be put on an orgasm schedule. I lock myself up all the time. And I unlock when I want to cum. It feels pointless unless some tells me when I am allowed. So I was wondering how I can find a Mistress to help me with this. It can be specific or general. Like what days or down to what minutes of what days. I really like being denied. Thanks for reading and thanks for helping.


So what's the Mistress getting out of this? You really like being denied, and you want your penis to be attended to…what does she get? I'd seriously like to hear the answer to that...



TigressLily -> RE: Chastity Orgasm Schedule (11/1/2013 7:34:47 PM)


This in a nutshell.

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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

Keeping track of when and how you (or any other sub for that matter) spank the monkey is just too much work.


[sm=welcomewave.gif] to the forum side, btw, and to this site.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Schedule (11/2/2013 10:04:01 AM)

OK, sure. You can cum Tuesday mornings first thing, and Friday evenings after dinner (but only if you've done the dishes and the house is all tidy).

One cum per time. You get a free pass on your birthday and on New Year's Day, when you can wank yourself silly.

Feel better?



lizi -> RE: Schedule (11/2/2013 11:24:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: lizi


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ORIGINAL: freedombliss

I'm looking to be put on an orgasm schedule. I lock myself up all the time. And I unlock when I want to cum. It feels pointless unless some tells me when I am allowed. So I was wondering how I can find a Mistress to help me with this. It can be specific or general. Like what days or down to what minutes of what days. I really like being denied. Thanks for reading and thanks for helping.


So what's the Mistress getting out of this? You really like being denied, and you want your penis to be attended to…what does she get? I'd seriously like to hear the answer to that...


So I'm guessing I'm not getting an answer [X(]
I really wanted to know what the Mistress was going to get out of spending her time on his crotch so he'd not feel that his masturbation was pointless and empty. [8|]



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Schedule (11/2/2013 11:30:21 AM)


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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

OK, sure. You can cum Tuesday mornings first thing, and Friday evenings after dinner (but only if you've done the dishes and the house is all tidy).

One cum per time. You get a free pass on your birthday and on New Year's Day, when you can wank yourself silly.

Feel better?


OP, send Athena $75 for that. Bargain at twice the price. [8D]



AAkasha -> RE: Schedule (11/2/2013 1:45:50 PM)


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ORIGINAL: freedombliss

I'm looking to be put on an orgasm schedule. I lock myself up all the time. And I unlock when I want to cum. It feels pointless unless some tells me when I am allowed. So I was wondering how I can find a Mistress to help me with this. It can be specific or general. Like what days or down to what minutes of what days. I really like being denied. Thanks for reading and thanks for helping.



Lock yourself up tight. Put the key in a box with a combination lock securing it. Watch porn and wear a plug in your ass for one hour every morning and every night to increase your desperation.

You are only allowed to come one you do the following. One orgasm per time.

1) Donate one hour at a soup kitchen
2) Donate one hour at an animal shelter socializing and walking dogs.
3) Donate $50 to a charity
4) Donate toys to a children's hospital (value at least $75)


Do any other posters have ideas?


Make sure you report to us, your collective MISTRESSES, your progress. WE are monitoring your progress because WE may increase the intensity of the denial and the teasing.


Part of Collarme MISTRESS TEAM,

Akasha



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Schedule (11/2/2013 3:35:10 PM)

That is actually honestly a great idea in my honest opinion. Someone should be benefitting from him having orgasms. Great choices in social service causes too [:)]



Dreamless -> RE: Schedule (11/2/2013 6:59:35 PM)

Well, might as well add a few things to the list. I was actually going to come in here and post a similarly 'you can get off if you volunteer for a soup kitchen' type post so glad to know we the dommes want to better the world. Let's use our horny net bastards to change the future of charity!

1) Donate one hour of time socializing and hanging out at your local long term care center. A lot of hospitals have volunteer work that can be done and there are a lot of wonderful lonely people who would love some company.
2) If you do at least three 'good deeds'. Buy someone a bus ticket. Get someone behind you's coffee when you're in line. Get a homeless person dinner. Rake an old lady's yard. Shovel walks for someone disabled. Clean graffiti off of picnic benches. Whatever you consider to be a good deed that's appropriate to where you are.
3) Get a trash bag and clean up your local park/street/stretch of highway.
4) Sponsor a child through World Vision or whatever similar charity you prefer. You are now allowed one wank per month per child you sponsor.
5) Similarly, find a charity that digs wells in poor countries. For every 50 dollars you donate to worldwide clean water access, you may wank once. Get a well dug in a third world country and you may have a week of free for all wankery.

You think you're horny and desperate and that's awful? FIRST WORLD PROBLEM. The more you suffer, the hornier you get, the more you should start thinking--there is no way this chastity will ever kill me. I am suffering and in order to stop the suffering, I just have to contribute to stopping someone else's suffering.

In fact, we should just make a list of good deeds that can be exchanged for chastity belt orgasm denial sufferers, and then sticky it. Let's get some good deeds done in the world! Not only will charities of all sorts be helped, but horny guys will get their itch for denial scratched.

Now that you have been denied, please check back in and let us know if you've done any of our tasks. And if you're not going to take us up on our denial... stop and think about it. Why should you pay money for someone to say, hey, you can fap now when you can pay money so that WE'LL say 'you did good, slaveboy, you've helped dogs and children and old people and cleaned up a park, and now--only now--can you get your relief.'

That money'll be better spent on us. :D



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Schedule (11/3/2013 1:20:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Dreamless

4) Sponsor a child through World Vision or whatever similar charity you prefer. You are now allowed one wank per month per child you sponsor.


World Vision rocks. If he buys an alpaca, he should get to fap at least once a week for a month.



HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Schedule (11/3/2013 3:31:57 PM)

Join your local BDSM community. There's a large, active one in the Denver area. Go to events. Meet people, face to face. Get to know women there as multidimensional people, not just as potential fetish delivery bots. Make friends and discuss your particular interests with those friends. Let those friendships develop, or not, into more than just friendships.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Schedule (11/3/2013 3:57:25 PM)


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ORIGINAL: freedombliss

I'm looking to be put on an orgasm schedule. I lock myself up all the time. And I unlock when I want to cum. It feels pointless unless some tells me when I am allowed. So I was wondering how I can find a Mistress to help me with this. It can be specific or general. Like what days or down to what minutes of what days. I really like being denied. Thanks for reading and thanks for helping.


I don't want a schedule....I want it to be a surprise....like....every morning just before I go to work, lunch and (natch) when I come home.



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