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MsHoney2you -> RE: Advice Please. (11/27/2004 7:25:03 PM)
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Serenebreaths,
I find many character traits in myself. As I recognize them surfacing I allow these tendancies to have credance, see them as the reality they are and thoughtfully explore the 'right and wrong' for ME in my feelings about them. NOT allowing others their say until I believe I have thought through the issue as far as I can, then only to ask those that will give me honest responses, not ones they think I want to hear.
ie; My topping 99.9% of the time, yet loving the feel of my own toys used on myself, or the feel of a friends new flogger on my back. Does that make me less Dominant? Less able to be followed by a worthy sub/slave? IMO no, it's simply part of MY Whole.
I tend to be a well rounded/balanced person. When I recognize a need in me, one that causes me concern until it is dealt with, I seek the best person to help me fulfill that particular need. Same thing I would do if the doctor told me I were unable to drive, I would ask my friends to drive me.
What I have found is that many subs are unable to see their Mistress 'sub' to another as it causes them distress. My suggestion is for you to find a safe partner for you to visit this need when it surfaces, yet without having to be public about it (many subs and Dom/mes alike are not able to see you 'submitting' to another even if what they see is you bottoming, not submitting, the act itself is seen as submission for many) this way you will be able to remain in 'place' in your subs minds and serve your personal needs as well.
I hope my ramblings did not confuse,
Ms Honey
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