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CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Does any one think 90% are time wasters in bdsm (11/5/2013 10:04:20 PM)
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ORIGINAL: crazyml
With the best will in the world, could you read the sentence you typed back to yourself and see if you could rephrase it in a way that makes the point you're making a little clearer?
At the moment it seems as if you're missing several words and a few punctuation marks, which is making it rather hard to follow.
I'll try to interpret this for everybody. [:D]
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From the OP's headline and opening post: "Does any one think 90% are time wasters in bdsm? I do. Many agree. Why? It's escapism, it's subs topping from bottom, it's idle curiosity seekers. BDSM is an emotional minefield. Objective replies appreciated."
*Grins real big* Yeah, I was bored and took a break from playing Pokémon X.
OP, yes...anyone who isn't a friend, or offering me some good conversation, sending me mail full of copy and paste stuff and the "do ya wanna cyber?" stuff is wasting my time. It's okay though, cuz I know how to answer one word letters with a one word letter of my own, if I'm in that kind of mood, or else I can just delete the letter or block the person.
When I was searching for a partner, anyone who didn't read my profile to see what I was looking for before they contacted me...was a time waster. I wasn't interested in smokers, drinkers, etc., married people, bisexuals, guys who wanted to be locked in a cage in my basement 24/7, guys who wanted to be locked away in chastity forever and never used sexually, guys who wanted to be a human toilet, nor in guys who wanted a relationship built on financial transactions. (I'm sure I could come up with a bigger list.) If they needed something that was on my hard limits list they were wasting my time by contacting me for anything other than friendship or discussing something from the message boards. Spit happens. Many people think that READING a profile...is wasting their time, and that it's more efficient just to plaster people's mailboxes with letters, like throwing sh*t against a wall and seeing if any sticks.
Yes, BDSM can be an emotional minefield. So is telling any dear friend (that you think you can trust) your deepest, darkest secrets. Whenever we make ourselves vulnerable to betrayal, by falling in love, entering into a D/s or M/s relationship, or even during bondage, etc., we are stepping into an emotional minefield. For those who can't take the heat, I'd suggest getting the H out of the kitchen.
Idle curiosity seekers? Yep. I hope their curiosity gets satisfied and that they have a better understanding of what real kinksters do instead of only satisfying their curiosity by watching BDSM porn and feeling like they now know everything (when they know almost nothing).
Escapism? Sure, why not? If two people want some fantasy roleplay, BDSM style, why not come here to find a partner for that and have some fun. We're all adults. If we want some escapism, it's everywhere (myself, I play Pokémon games, lol)...this not a place reserved only for experienced, real timers who get their kinky groove on. It's for newbies and others to enjoy themselves while learning what others do...and for folks who only come here for some light, wank fodderish play time.
Subs topping from the bottom??? Bwahahahaha! Anyone not my property is...NOT MINE. I cannot be "topped from the bottom" by a complete stranger who is not MINE. Expecting obedience and deference from all people who label themselves a submissive is...*gasping cuz I got the giggles* Any owned submissives topping from the bottom, surely this is an issue that should be between Owner and property? I do not require my slave to obey anyone other than myself. It also pisses me off if anyone tries to make use of him without my permission. If I wanted him to be bratty, "topping from the bottom" so that I would have many reasons to "punish" him, again, that would be my own business and not some random stranger's. I'm trying to see how unowned submissives and owned submissives could be causing terrible problems at CollarMe by topping from the bottom, and...I just can't.
It sounds like you are having problems in your mail room, and problems in the chatrooms. Handle them. CollarMe gives us the option to block people in the mailroom, to put them on ignore in the chatrooms, and to hide their posts in the message boards. Make your life easier and exert some control over the things that irritate you. Also, someone's behavior can be part of your screening process; if they act like a butthead, put them on block and DON'T meet up with them, and for heaven's sake, don't reward them for being snotty by scening with them to "punish" them.
Some people also come here...to get negative attention. Don't reward them by giving them what they want; block them instead and have a more peaceful life.
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