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jest wanted to hear my self say it - 11/8/2013 8:51:10 PM

sissyboy8778

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all my life I've lived as a straight Guy but what no one new was in side of this big tuff Guy was a very noughty girl who started wearing pantys in about the seventh grade and by the time I got my own places I was wearing them all the time. being very cearfully to not get cought I did have a few close calls.but now 30 years later I don't want to keep keeping this secret locked in side I want to find a open minded female that I open up to telling her every dirty fantasy I've had and want to live out letting her see me dressed like. a girl and and having her. teach me how to act like a girl making me. go trew with playing with another Guy not jest taking about it telling them what room I was in but then not opening the door she would go open it for me and talk me tree it and now that I'm older wear would I find someone like that. you don't I've tryed there's no were in or around Shelton WA to go meet other like minded people. do you have eney suggestions. I would be very great full If nothing I say makes eney since to you and you think I'm a weirdo. I'm sorry to bother you and you have a good day you now no more about me then all of my life long fronds and family. that sad. ha thanks again I does feel good to tell someone.

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RE: jest wanted to hear my self say it - 11/8/2013 9:12:59 PM

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RE: jest wanted to hear my self say it - 11/8/2013 9:27:08 PM

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Congratulations on having the courage to say what you desire. There is nothing wrong or bad about gender expression.

Where you live appears to be a suburb of Seattle. There are more than 18 thousand kinky people listed on Fetlife.com in the Seattle area, 53 groups, a club, and multiple events.

You live in a Mecca of Kink!

Some unsolicited advice, grab your salt shaker! :P

There are many things about wanting gender expression that can clash with D/s or M/s. Educate yourself about those first and figure out how you will approach the Female Dominant world...learn about them first. The pool of women wanting to feminize men is beyond tiny. They are out there, but so few in number. How will you stand out? What do you bring to the table beyond your gender expression, your fetishes, your desires?

My advice is to take this desire into your own hands and explore it. Do not depend on another. Make your gender expression part of the overall you...not the sole event, not the only focus. If you are transgender, take that into your own hands too. Transition is hard, but possible and frankly, no one can drive that process for you - it must come from you....totally.

Go to events in your area. Be courteous, be interesting, be sane, and don't lead with your kink. Make vanilla friends of people first. Kinky things rarely happen if there is not a vanilla connection between people first. Build an overall kinky life with kinky friends - over time.

It is a process and a path. It can be daunting and scary, but it is completely possible. But IMO, you will have to drive it - both internally and externally.

Checkout www.fetlife.com and do a search on Seattle, Washington to see people, events, etc. Find a munch you can go to and go meet some real people. Wear vanilla clothes and again, be courteous, interesting, and sane. Go back and make friends. Friends are the best gateway into the kink world.

Educate yourself by reading here and on Fet. Figure out what works and what does not in approaching D-Type females. Write a great profile. Don't send form letters. Show up to any meetings you arrange.

Much more than you asked for I know...but you have taken a big step in identifying a part of your authentic self here. I want to see you succeed and this information may be useful. I hope it will be. :)

Good Luck!

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