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AxelandSuzanne -> First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 7:10:32 PM)

So we are going to be having our first threesome in about two weeks, and the woman is a sub and mild masochist. We will be using wax play, nipple clamps, vibrator, anal beads, and rope for light bondage as well as a blindfold on her. Anyways this just in case anyone has any ideas for what else to try that is in the more mild form of things, Also there will be no spanking, it is a huge turn off for Suzanne. We have talked to her and she has pretty much given us open range.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 8:10:08 PM)

If you need ideas for your first threesome my lad, you're not ready.

Seriously.




MistressDarkArt -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 8:14:02 PM)


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ORIGINAL: AxelandSuzanne

We have talked to her and she has pretty much given us open range.


Have you had her fill out a comprehensive bdsm checklist? Doing so will give you a much more detailed understanding of what she likes, hates, or merely tolerates. I recommend everyone exchange them, no matter how much hands-on experience the dominants have or how well they think they know their intended partner.



AxelandSuzanne -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 8:17:28 PM)

Not so much a idea as a opinion... Was just wondering of other ways to pleasure the sub. Since neither myself or Suzanne is submissive trying things kind of has to be with a third. But since this is a free country of course you are entitled to your opinion.



SeekingTrinity -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 8:17:33 PM)

~FRing it~

Second the BDSM checklist. Outside of that, I'm not sure asking a bunch of strangers who don't know ANYTHING about the three of you what yo do is honestly a good idea



AxelandSuzanne -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 8:19:01 PM)

That is a good idea, I remember coming across one a while back. Have to go find it.



ResidentSadist -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 8:24:17 PM)

ideas . . . ok, you asked for it. Tie one up and sit on her face making her put her tongue up your ass while the other one blows you as you are whipping her bloody with a cat of 9.

Tie them up face to face and fist them both at the same time. That way they can kiss, hear each others' moans and see the pleasure on each others' faces. They feel the pleasure the other girl is having at the same time. Bonus points if you make them both cum at the same time.

Get some duct tape, a shemale midget, hot peppers, a donkey, a gallon of anal lube and a weed whacker...



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 8:26:29 PM)

Just Google BDSM checklist. You'll get 10 pages of hits.



AxelandSuzanne -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 8:26:55 PM)

Yeah we realize it probably wouldn't come up with anything but why not try since we have two weeks to go and have decided on what to get and are practicing knots. This was just something else that might give us another idea if not we already have plenty just wanted to see if anyone had any thoughts with what we realize is very little information given.



AxelandSuzanne -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 8:29:37 PM)

That reminds me of a guy that worked with a friend of mine who wanted a guy on a unicycle to come out of the closet while he was having sex with his wife while circus music was playing.
I guess we did ask.
Also to Parfaitt, we already searched the list and sent one to her via email.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 10:47:38 PM)

Truthfully, what you're planning is probably enough. If this is your first threesome, then just figuring out the energy and dynamics needed to keep everyone feeling included and important all the way through will take up most of your focus. You don't really need elaborate plans for it - the connection and mutual attraction between the three of you will make it exciting even if you do nothing more kinky than call her a naughty girl.

Assuming you are hoping to make this more than a one off, I'd say keep it simple the first time and get to know each other, then do something more scripted next time if that's what everyone wants.



MalcolmNathaniel -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 10:54:26 PM)

You need to rely less on scripts and more on feeling out the situation.

I made the mistake once of trying to do too much on a first time and ended up with two rather pissed off females on my hands. Think of it as a first date.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/10/2013 10:55:24 PM)

^^^^Excellent advice.



crazyml -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/11/2013 12:16:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

Truthfully, what you're planning is probably enough. If this is your first threesome, then just figuring out the energy and dynamics needed to keep everyone feeling included and important all the way through will take up most of your focus. You don't really need elaborate plans for it - the connection and mutual attraction between the three of you will make it exciting even if you do nothing more kinky than call her a naughty girl.

Assuming you are hoping to make this more than a one off, I'd say keep it simple the first time and get to know each other, then do something more scripted next time if that's what everyone wants.



Kerching!

This is the most important thing to consider, way more important than "what kinky thangs you'll do..."

If you're in an established relationship, adding a third can place all sorts of unexpected (well... unexpected if you don't think it through a little) pressures on the dynamic.

A long old while ago I set up a threesome for my partner and I, she seemed all for it, properly excited. But part way through the date, before we'd got to the sticky stuff, she had a huge confidence crash - at that point I had to decide whether the health and happiness of my relationship was more important than getting my "threesome badge".

You need to be very sensitive, because it can get weird pretty quickly.



samdarella -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/11/2013 3:52:13 AM)

I found that in my mostly vanilla life of yesteryears that it wa the guy that wound up feeling insecure or freaking out. Most guys had the fantasy of a threesome, but the reality wasn't quite as good. Maybe because it wasn't at all scripted. Maybe bc I left it up to them to join in or decide what to do differently. I was focused on the girls. I could spend hours making a girl feel good. Yummy.



angelikaJ -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/11/2013 5:20:20 AM)

You are asking for other things:
Silk scarves drawn slowly across the skin is a very nice form of sensation play.

Think about other things that can give a variety of sensations.

Don't worry about not having enough to do to her.



KnightofMists -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/11/2013 6:59:21 AM)

Call me jaded.... But I just don't get this idea in about two weeks we are going to have a first threesome. I just wonder have you met the person. Do you hang out together. If you do... Why the wait? If this is some sort of online hook up..... Well... I guess I wouldnt put to much effort in the planning of it!



AxelandSuzanne -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/11/2013 7:55:52 AM)

Yes we know the person but it was more just figuring out a time to actually do it. She lives in the more southern part of the state.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/11/2013 7:58:53 AM)


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ORIGINAL: samdarella

I found that in my mostly vanilla life of yesteryears that it wa the guy that wound up feeling insecure or freaking out. Most guys had the fantasy of a threesome, but the reality wasn't quite as good. Maybe because it wasn't at all scripted. Maybe bc I left it up to them to join in or decide what to do differently. I was focused on the girls. I could spend hours making a girl feel good. Yummy.



This is so true. If a man has *any* insecurities about his ability to please a female, I would not recommend a threesome with 2 females. We know what to do with one another, and we can do it for hours. [:D]

Of course, it's different if the females aren't so into each other. But then you could have a trainwreck of a different kind.




OsideGirl -> RE: First threesome, ideas? (11/11/2013 9:34:26 AM)


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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

Call me jaded....


Me too, because I couldn't figure out why they just didn't come out and ask her what she liked.



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