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seeking master - 11/15/2013 6:03:05 AM   
fournancy


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Status: offline 		i hear a lot of sinicism here-thats not very helpfull.having said that ,i have a dumb question.i am a sub here in phoenix,i want to find a master -any help would b appreciated.thank you
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RE: seeking master - 11/15/2013 6:43:31 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana
Status: offline 		Welcome to the discussion side, Four.

First, this is a text medium, proper grammar and punctuation are your friends.

Second, you live in Phoenix, which is home to a large BDSM population as well as a famous Dungeon called Apex.

Third, check the stickies at the top of the "Ask a Mistress" section.

Fourth, you joined two days ago. Patience is a virtue.


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RE: seeking master - 11/15/2013 7:14:35 AM   
MasterCaneman


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Status: offline 		Done in one. Fournancy, while this is an extension of the other side, it's not really a place to troll for hookups. However...by using this side as a learning tool, you can pick up some ideas as to how to make the approach, what to look out for, and other rewarding tidbits of info. If you look at it this way, counting the number of regular posters here and adding up their experience, there's at least a couple hundred years' worth of experience disseminating information, maybe more.

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RE: seeking master - 11/15/2013 7:14:43 AM   
petitespot


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ORIGINAL: fournancy

i am a sub here in phoenix,i want to find a master



Don't we all.

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RE: seeking master - 11/15/2013 8:09:21 AM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: fournancy

i hear a lot of sinicism here-thats not very helpfull
So, you decided that the best thing to do was lecture the forum regulars within your first three posts.

quote:

having said that ,i have a dumb question.i am a sub here in phoenix,i want to find a master -any help would b appreciated.thank you


Chatte is correct with what she wrote.

Your post is nearly unreadable and you're in a medium where people only have what you type to give a first impression. Your post gives the impression that you're illiterate and too lazy to take the time to make an impression.

Do some reading. Meet your community. Do something other than be a passive participant in your quest.


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RE: seeking master - 11/15/2013 8:45:09 AM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		You don't, or shouldn't, want just any master. It should be the right one for you.
So figure out what you need in a partner. Does his political views matter to you? What exactly do you want to be controlled? Just sex and play or are you okay with him taking control of your money?

The more you know about yourself, the more you will be able to find the most compatible partner. So once you know what you want and need as well as what you won't tolerate in a partner, then go looking for someone who matches you. Join the local community. Read profiles of guys in your area and write them. Do something to make your dreams come true.

And my cynicism is a product of my intelligence, it alerts me to things that are not what they seem. Being gullible is not a good thing.

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RE: seeking master - 11/15/2013 10:29:01 AM   
fournancy


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Status: offline 		thank you for your well put reply

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RE: seeking master - 11/15/2013 5:40:55 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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Status: offline 		The Phoenix are has one of the largest, most active real-time BDSM communities in the USA. There are get togethers of one kind or another almost every evening. I recommend using your computer to find out what's happening there and going and actually meeting people.

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RE: seeking master - 11/16/2013 12:10:16 AM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		Attention all those seeking. If you are in such a hurry, you'll find those Insta-Doms on Isle 12.



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RE: seeking master - 12/4/2013 3:38:56 PM   
iaminigo


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
Your post is nearly unreadable and you're in a medium where people only have what you type to give a first impression. Your post gives the impression that you're illiterate and too lazy to take the time to make an impression.


How many posts does the OP need to make before saying people here are cynical? Does being a "regular" convey some special privilege aside from a forum title?

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RE: seeking master - 12/4/2013 4:00:46 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: iaminigo


quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
Your post is nearly unreadable and you're in a medium where people only have what you type to give a first impression. Your post gives the impression that you're illiterate and too lazy to take the time to make an impression.


How many posts does the OP need to make before saying people here are cynical? Does being a "regular" convey some special privilege aside from a forum title?


It's the social equivalent of walking into a neighborhood bar and starting off by bashing the regulars. It determines how people will converse with the new comer. And honestly, if on post #3 you're complaining, then perhaps this isn't place for you. I don't spend my free time going to places I don't like.


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RE: seeking master - 12/4/2013 7:12:36 PM   
littlewonder


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Attention all those seeking. If you are in such a hurry, you'll find those Insta-Doms on Isle 12.




But you better hurry! Their stock is running low since the black Friday stampede.

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RE: seeking master - 12/5/2013 6:11:59 AM   
tetonguide


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Status: offline 		What I respect about subs I take in...or my rules to accept a sub......
You need to:
1. Know yourself.
2. Be sober about it...don't get drawn in by pretty words or genitalia. If you are sub its in your head.
3. Vocalize your limits/boundaries.
4. Do not move past your limits/boundaries without careful consideration of the consequences.
5. Everything we do has consequences. In BDSM many can be unforseen or unpredictable. Be prepared to fail and start over.
6. Don't expect anyone ever to read your mind...no matter how far into subspace they may send you. Ultimately you are responsible for what happens to you.
7. Always be honest with yourself and those you partner with...this is the single biggest cause of Dom/sub disfunctions.
8. Buy a case of batteries for your vibrator because no one finds pleasure AND peace quickly but we all know its worth the wait and journey.

< Message edited by tetonguide -- 12/5/2013 6:13:07 AM >

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RE: seeking master - 12/5/2013 8:00:56 PM   
peppermint


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From: Montana
Status: offline 		Join APEX. Go to the Southwest Leather Conference the end of January. Join Desert Dominion. Go to coffee at The Gold Bar Espresso, 3141 S McClintock Dr, Tempe every Thursday night at 7 PM. Go to coffee at Max's Sports Bar and Grill, 6727 N 47th Ave, Glendale every Wednesday at 7 PM.

Is that enough to get you started?



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RE: seeking master - 12/5/2013 8:47:30 PM   
Musicmystery


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ORIGINAL: petitespot


quote:

ORIGINAL: fournancy

i am a sub here in phoenix,i want to find a master


Don't we all.

Apparently not.

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RE: seeking master - 12/5/2013 10:07:54 PM   
ResidentSadist


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ORIGINAL: petitespot
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ORIGINAL: fournancy
i am a sub here in phoenix,i want to find a master

Don't we all.

But your profile says "NOT LOOKING" . . . what's with that?


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RE: seeking master - 12/6/2013 1:48:10 AM   
fluffycupcake


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Status: offline 		I'm a sub, but I agree with others about the spelling and punctuation. Just because you're on the internet, doesn't mean you should pretend like you were never in school. If you're over the age of 16 (which I hope to God you are, if you're on this site), then you should be expected to not just slam your fists onto your keyboard, hoping for the best.

I'm no grammar nazi, but I put effort into what I type. I'm guilty of too many "..." and "lol"s, but that's pretty much my social awkwardness being translated into the internet.

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RE: seeking master - 12/6/2013 5:22:09 AM   
petitespot


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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ORIGINAL: petitespot
quote:

ORIGINAL: fournancy
i am a sub here in phoenix,i want to find a master

Don't we all.

But your profile says "NOT LOOKING" . . . what's with that?



Gets me off the hook with creepy people. It's an easy out.

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RE: seeking master - 12/6/2013 6:23:03 AM   
ResidentSadist


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ORIGINAL: petitespot


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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ORIGINAL: petitespot
quote:

ORIGINAL: fournancy
i am a sub here in phoenix,i want to find a master

Don't we all.

But your profile says "NOT LOOKING" . . . what's with that?



Gets me off the hook with creepy people. It's an easy out.

So you are saying that each and every one that approaches you isn't a white knight or perfect gentleman and there are some creepy people on CollarMe . . . surely you jest?

I know, I know. It was wrong and I'll never do it again.



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RE: seeking master - 12/6/2013 11:12:39 AM   
MarcEsadrian


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ORIGINAL: fournancy

i hear a lot of sinicism here-thats not very helpfull.having said that ,i have a dumb question.i am a sub here in phoenix,i want to find a master -any help would b appreciated.thank you


Cynicism is pretty rich on most Internet BDSM message boards, what with the personalities they tend to attract. That said, writing is the dress of one's thoughts. I think you'd do well to observe better grammar, to start, and remember to stay more positive in your energy than negative. What's within tends to attract similar things without.

As for finding a master as a transsexual, that's a pretty tough road to ho, I think. It's hard enough for biological females to find this in compatible men, but the nature of your interest leaves you somewhat doubly removed: the man not only has to be dominant and capable of being a master, but also has to be open with the fact you come with a bit of a "twist," so to speak. I think it might do you well to associate with specialized communities more in line with your aim while continuing to peruse broader networks like these. The more irons in the fire—online and off—the better. Make yourself and your more specialized interests seen as much as possible.

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