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Rochsub2009 -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/18/2013 7:50:40 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman


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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar


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ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman

Once upon a time, it used to be spelled "dilemna", but thanks to some barely-literate wonk at MS, it got changed because they never studied English.


Nah, it's always been "dilemma" from the greek "di" (two) and "lemma" (proposition). At some point somebody -incorrectly- adopted the "lemna" spelling and the error got so widespread that kids in several schools, in several different countries got taught the incorrect spelling.

The error has become so widespread that one could argue that common usages has turned it in a newly created valid alternative, but so far none of the major dictionaries have accepted it as a valid alternative to the correct "dilemma" spelling.


Do you mean to tell me I've been living a lie all this time (or at least a terminal misspelling)? I...I need to sit down and take some deep breaths...


You're not the only one. I was taught to spell it "dilemna" when I was in elementary school. Didn't realize that was incorrect. Frankly, it's a word that I don't have to write very often.




SailingBum -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/18/2013 8:13:14 AM)

I find it difficult to understand why/how a school system would teach an incorrect spelling <not found in the dictionary> of a word. The dumbing down of mercia... sheesh

BadOne




DesFIP -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/18/2013 8:22:27 AM)

Language is not static or fixed. Unless you're French.
English changes and established usage changes. When the culture shifts to adopt a newly minted term, then that term becomes part of the established usage.
This is not the first word where spelling has changed in the last five hundred years.

Or do you speak and write Elizabethan English?




angelikaJ -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/18/2013 8:24:08 AM)

A suggestion: find a mentor who is not dominant.... or if you are lonely, just find some friends of both genders.

In other words, find a fellow submissive that you can be friends with.

I realise that the rules for my relationship are very, Very, VERY!! different than the rules in yours.
In my relationship one of my first instructions was: "You never give up the right to say "No." .

And you may think that is a rather peculiar instruction to be coming from a prospective dominant partner.
I kind of did.

However, that enabled me to learn the value of "Yes"... without the ability to have a clear and firm "No." does "Yes " have any real meaning... ?





crazyml -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/18/2013 10:56:33 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Language is not static or fixed. Unless you're French.
English changes and established usage changes. When the culture shifts to adopt a newly minted term, then that term becomes part of the established usage.
This is not the first word where spelling has changed in the last five hundred years.

Or do you speak and write Elizabethan English?


You're quite right.

But there are also cases where obvious misspellings occur. And this is certainly one of them.

It's Dilemma. It has always been Dilemma. If you spell it Dilemna you're spelling it wrong.

This one aint complicated.




DesFIP -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/18/2013 11:04:57 AM)

Except that after enough time, when the incorrect spelling has become common in journalism and literature, then it becomes an acceptable alternative spelling. Or it will become the correct spelling and dilemma will be the wrong one.

Things change. This may well change too.




SailingBum -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/18/2013 3:43:20 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Except that after enough time, when the incorrect spelling has become common in journalism and literature, then it becomes an acceptable alternative spelling. Or it will become the correct spelling and dilemma will be the wrong one.

Things change. This may well change too.


Be that as is may. Currently it's a misspelled word. And that hasn't changed.

BadOne




littlewonder -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/18/2013 6:27:57 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

I find it difficult to understand why/how a school system would teach an incorrect spelling <not found in the dictionary> of a word. The dumbing down of mercia... sheesh

BadOne


I was thinking the same thing.




VideoAdminChi -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/20/2013 1:02:35 PM)

Please continue that tangent here: The predicament of dilemma...or is it dilemna? and let this discussion return to the OP.




MalcolmNathaniel -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/22/2013 9:57:31 AM)

~FR~

My take on it is that you need to communicate better with your master. Tell him your concerns.

You seem to be into chattel slavery. Communicate, and then let him decide what to do. If he still wants you to see this other man than your choices are clear: suck it up and deal or leave.

I am basing this solely on the contents of one post, so there may be other issues. While the context is different, this quote may help you:

"No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money." - Matthew 6:24




seekingreality -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/22/2013 7:57:54 PM)


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ORIGINAL: bbrent0

i've had my master for seven years when i finally convinced him he was too strict, more master, less friend supporter, like a mentor, which i felt i wanted. Well with his permission, i found what i thought could be more friend,i found a guy who i thought after i got to know would be a good mentor, but after the first two meetings he said he had to be my dom, chemically, that was how we were. Long story short, he got to know my master and became fast friends and now i have to serve both. Even i have gotten punished by both for the same screw ups. When i brought this delima up to my master, he says i will do as he says and not to embarrass him. i don't like serving two masters, but i did this to myself. my newest dom only comes to town maybe once a month. He spends the rest of his time caring for his sick dad in another state. He says and my master agrees it is a nice release for him and safe, so he doesn't have to go looking for a new person when he comes to town. He is a nice man, although i think he punishes too harshly at times, but Master says i am helping his frustrations and should be a good slave and quit whining. For the most part, i am ok with this, now going on three years. But i don't like double punishment/jeapardy. i have thought more recently about trying to reason with my new dom, but afraid of a backlash if he tells my master. Sometimes i feel i have his confidence. Should i risk reasoning or just suck it up?



You want my honest answer: I don't give a shit.

If you're happy, fine. If you're not, change. If you're not happy, and you prefer to be miserable, doesn't matter to me. I have no problem with you being unhappy.

If your point it just to get a reaction, my reaction is: I don't give a shit.




LeatherBentOne51 -> RE: Delima serving two Doms (11/25/2013 5:55:12 PM)

Just wondering that if OP was looking for a friend to talk to and someone to give him guidance, why not choose another sub to fill that slot? Why does he think he has to take it, when the door swings both ways? I'm wondering if OP just wants attention and is a drama queen in that respect. After all, a sub must consent, so why should anyone feel sorry for him? Anything less than consent is abuse. Maybe OP is an emotional masochist. I don't think he really wants help or advice.




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