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i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/26/2013 5:15:42 PM   
missprimula


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Status: offline 		I have had many slaves ,the majority of them all wanted me to be sexually abusive. I have been able to fulfil that request but I have grown tired of that part. Recently I have been looking up puppy-play and human pet,I really want to give that a try. Of course it would not be entirely sexual. I will want to treat them as a pet more th
en a sex toy. My question is as a mistress should I get use to sexual demands or should I stay strong to my fantasy of being a human pet owner?
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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/26/2013 5:33:37 PM   
AAkasha


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I want a hot guy I can just tie up and look at.

Is that possible?

I guess we are in the same boat.

I have thought of trying to offer free marketing services to a young escape artist. Including photography. I hope he wants to learn to get out of a milk can.



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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/26/2013 5:35:31 PM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		There are Dommes here who have nonsexual relationships with their subs, all though I imagine they still get plenty of sexual requests from other men (and perhaps their subs try to renegotiate this as well.)

As a women, you will get lots of sexual offers; hold out for what type of relationship meets your needs.

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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/26/2013 6:13:28 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		One of the great fringe benefits of being a female Dominant is that you don't have to engage with someone on a sexual level if you don't want to. If you want to have a human pet and the stipulation of that dynamic is that there will be no sex, that's exactly what you can have.


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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/26/2013 7:03:56 PM   
LadyAnne68


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Status: offline 		I tell my slaves right up front - I do NOT have sex with my slaves.

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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/27/2013 5:14:32 AM   
DarkSteven


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You've got two things going on here.

1. You want to try pet play.
2. You want to either forgo or deemphasize sex.

If you do find a pet player, whey will most likely not want sex while in nonhuman mode, and you may find one that is fulfilled by the pet play only. Try Fetlife's groups.

When you say "no sex", does that open up possibilities for chastity play? For pet relationships with other women?



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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/27/2013 5:19:16 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		Why not? if you're the dominant, then you get to shape the relationship along the lines you want.

Potential subs have the option to agree to your terms or walk away.

If you don't like sexual demands, then tell them that. Anyone who doesn't listen is not a good match for you.

I don't have sex with my sub; this is quite common in the BDSM world.

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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/27/2013 12:58:17 PM   
StrictlyADomina


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Status: offline 		^^Agree^^ with what Chatte said. I don't have sex with my submissives. It is more common in BDSM than you might think. Besides the bulk of BDSM has nothing to do with anyone having an orgasm. I have never had one badger me about it either. I tell them up front how things are, it's not up for negotiation and they will be promptly dismissed if they even hint in that direction. So far so good. Just be honest up front with what you are looking for in this particular BDSM relationship. I think that what you are looking for is very doable and probably you will both have a grand time.

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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/29/2013 10:32:46 PM   
garyFLR


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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

Why not? if you're the dominant, then you get to shape the relationship along the lines you want.

Potential subs have the option to agree to your terms or walk away.

If you don't like sexual demands, then tell them that. Anyone who doesn't listen is not a good match for you.

I don't have sex with my sub; this is quite common in the BDSM world.


I totally agree with Chatte, YOU are the dominant one in any partnership, full stop, no arguments.


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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/30/2013 2:24:18 AM   
seekingreality


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

One of the great fringe benefits of being a female Dominant is that you don't have to engage with someone on a sexual level if you don't want to. If you want to have a human pet and the stipulation of that dynamic is that there will be no sex, that's exactly what you can have.



Sure. The issue, as always, is whether you can find someone you find attractive, or whatever qualities you demand, who meshes with your approach

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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/30/2013 7:16:37 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: missprimula

I have had many slaves ,the majority of them all wanted me to be sexually abusive. I have been able to fulfil that request but I have grown tired of that part. Recently I have been looking up puppy-play and human pet,I really want to give that a try. Of course it would not be entirely sexual. I will want to treat them as a pet more th
en a sex toy. My question is as a mistress should I get use to sexual demands or should I stay strong to my fantasy of being a human pet owner?


If you are complying with their desires, contrary to your own, then you are the slave.


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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 11/30/2013 8:15:31 PM   
FriendlyMuppet


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Status: offline 		There are all sorts of nuances to this that I can't imagine you can't find what you're looking for. In most D/s relationships I've been in, sex has rarely been a part of the relationship. That doesn't mean it's completely non-sexual, but what that means is that usually my orgasms are controlled and quite often "allowed" upon her discretion. How I achieve them is also up to her discretion. Like I said, in a lot of relationships, actual physical sexual contact has rarely been a part of the dynamic. But that doesn't mean it was completely non-sexual, if the meaning is understood.

In a few relationships, I was involved with women who saw sex as a definite part of the relationship. It was rarely negotiated (after the relationship has been established with who is in charge and who is not), but one significant other would sometimes just tie me up and have at it right then and there. Usually, there wasn't a "want to have sex?" offer on the table. She just tied me up and did it.

So, yeah, there are all sorts of different kinds of interactions. It's all about how you negotiate the relationship you're going to have. I think a lot of submissives are quite fine without actual sexual penetration involved, but that's because they know it going into it. One of the worst things that can happen to a submissive going into a relationship is ambiguity and then discovering she's not interested in him at all AFTER they have finally come together. That's just bad communication, and it's shocking how many times that happens.

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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 12/2/2013 5:24:22 AM   
Oneechan


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Status: offline 		a lot of people have very different definitions of what "sex" is. Oral? footworship ? there are plenty of subs who would be happy with just one of those.

at what point does physical contact become sexual? decide where you want to draw the line, and look for someone who agrees.

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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 12/2/2013 5:13:25 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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Status: offline 		Have you considered a ferret?

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RE: i want a nonsexually focused pet is that possible - 12/2/2013 5:16:17 PM   
TitPunching


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Status: offline 		Most people consider the Ferret to be very sexy:






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