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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ



After reading your responses here my opinion is that your approach may have something to do with your lack of positive responses.
You are getting answers, not liking them and then attack those who offer responses you don't like.

^^^This

Did anyone else enjoy a 'stimulateling' pm from the OP? Such a joy. In mine, he said (paraphrasing here) he was not into "Gay's" and if I could not reply to his thread with some 'c u r t e s y' his tip for me was to shove my 'v i o l e n' up my ass and play it. Sage advice from a prince among men. Maybe he thinks rosin makes a good lube or something.

Delightful, OP, just delightful. Carry on with 'yer' bad self. Batting a thousand here.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Funny thing-when I'm chatting with a gal here, the last thing I talk about is sex. Like almost everything I do (and/or type) it's nuanced,thought out and generally has multiple levels.
Just a few reasons why I don't talk about sex:
1-To differentiate myself from every guy here
2-Because every guy says they don't wanna talk about sex (Or they like her mind,want a relationship-whatever),but then does. I don't say it with words, I show it via action.
3-I kinda actually, crazily enough,wanna get to know em.I'm picky about where my penis goes, TYVFM
4-Once things get into sex, they kinda seem to stay there till the act occurs.Sex has a kinda black hole effect round these parts-once sucked in, it's real tough to break free of the gravitational pull

I'll talk about damn near anything under the sun (Excepting of course the dinner table rules of politics and religion...but that's just being civilized), music, movies,pop culture, literature,hell,I've talked Aristotle with chicks,but I won't break the sex line.
I let her do that when she's comfortable with it.
Let her know I have patience, that I can control myself,that I own my emotions and not the other way around, that I have self fucking discipline.
When she's ready,she'll cross that line.
Same way I rarely ask for their phone numbers or to meet. Same base principle.

Ever try to feed a squirrel at a park?
It's tough to do.
The loser, they try to force the squirrel to come, chase it down or trick it,or lure it quickly with treats.
The wise man-he sets a piece of food a safe distance away from him,lets the animal sneak upon it,fearfully eat and then bolt, all the while paying no attention to it, minding his own bidness,maybe read a book or something.
Repeat the next day. And the next.And the rest of the week.
Make no sudden moves. Don't try to grab it. Just sit patiently,let it do its thing, then go.
Cause the squirrel has trust issues,big time.Just being near a person defies all its instincts. It's just wrong to it. So it has to learn to trust.
Faith must be built.It does not emerge from nothingness.

Next week, same time, same place, feed the squirrel again. Act the same.Do the same.
Except this time the food is 6 inches closer to me.

The squirrel goes through the same fear process.First its skittish,then as it learns to trust,it adapts its behavior,learns to come quicker,eat less fearfully and scurries away slower.

And each week I move the food closer until one day it's eating at my feet.
From there its a matter of stillness, slow moving and patience to get it to eat from my hand.

Slaves are pretty much the same (Don't howl at me ladies.I'm not calling you squirrels-its an analogy)

From the outside it can kinda appear like a mystical thing. Look at that dude with that chica just hanging all over him,like something out of a fantasy. People figure there's a trick,a line.
What they don't see is the effort and work,the patience,empathy, understanding, discipline,humility and self control required to achieve such a thing.
It ain't magic. But it damned sure ain't easy.

Or to exercise brevity as opposed to my usual verbiage diarrhea, the Japanese have a saying (Concise to, as is their wont) that kinda covers this:

"Every Japanese schoolchild learns the following poem that illustrates
the different leadership styles of three leaders:

What would you do if a song bird does not sing?

Oda Nobunaga said "Kill it if it does not sing."
Tokugawa Ieyasu said "Wait until it sings."
Toyotomi Hideyoshi said "Make it want to sing."

Who do you think a gal would give herself over to?