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SailingBum -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (12/5/2013 2:04:02 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Focus50
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ORIGINAL: SailingBum
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
I used to talk a fair amount with a woman who was an internet-famous slave. She had a widely read blog, had been Owned by a man who was powerful in vanilla life, and she had extensive email correspondence with slave women both in the US and internationally. She once said to me, "It's an open secret that Owners sometimes need to recharge." Meaning: get topped.
The dominant one getting pegged is a horse of a different color. If I were to tell my submissive to do "anything" no matter the task. Am I not the one in charge of the situation?
In my mind it's really that simple. I'm doing the telling and she is complying. My bitch will comply with whatever is asked of her...or she will no longer be my bitch
A few have expressed how "simple" it supposedly is, and it just isn't. Not with real people living a normal, happy D/s relationship, anyway. Those living the theory of it all, yeah, whatever.
You're right - I (the dom) give the commands and my sub complies. Theory, fact & practical all at work - *simple*. But there's commands and then there's commands and all relationships have lines that shouldn't be crossed. Often they're lines that are never otherwise mentioned, let alone specifically agreed to. Lines that sane and sensible couples rightly assume the other already understands, respects and agrees to.
There is nothing "simple" about male dom ordering fem/sub to peg him with a strap on. Most especially if such a possibility was never discussed at the relationship's beginning. Just as there is nothing "simple" about dom ordering sub to throw herself in front of a speeding truck...! Both are things that can and likely will affect the dynamic and welfare of the greater relationship. Respect is lost - deal breakers!
What I find both offensive and fanciful with this whole train of reasoning is the chest-beating "absoluteness" of it all. Dom commands - sub complies. Something I'd expect from D/s porn or "The Story of O" rather than real people living otherwise normal and happy D/s relationships.
Now prove my point by giving me hell on "real" and "normal"...! ;)
Focus.
Hey Focus,
As usual we are just going to have to agree to disagree. At least in my experience, A relationship "evolves" over time. If it didn't it would be one boring relationship. Like anything else ppl change over time so at some point I told my girl to do "whatever" she would comply.
It has nothing to do with chest beating. It's more about her being subservient to my desires. The girls I've chosen over the years enjoi "pleasing me" no matter what I ask of them.
I do enjoi reading your posts as they give me a differing perspective.
BadOne
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