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rokkman7456 -> Responding to mail (12/1/2013 11:15:46 AM)
Why do Mistresses send you mail, then you take the time to respond and then they never answer back. I have had this happen a few times. My answers are genuine and well thought out. Oh and most of their questions are "you call me or sub you may tell me about yourself" One did put some time into it but again never responded. I also have plainly stated that I am the property of a Domme. Anyways, just curious.

angelikaJ -> RE: Responding to mail (12/1/2013 11:23:29 AM)
My suspicion is that you are getting a lot of copy & pastes and they are looking for an easy target. My question to you is if you are a domme's property, why are you bothering to respond at all? If it is out of politeness or respect, you could easily use the pre-written options. So why are you devoting any time to it?

JetOnly -> RE: Responding to mail (12/1/2013 2:05:34 PM)
I guess we all get the cut and paste messages. Honestly I wouldnt respond to someone if they sound like they havent bothered to read your profile

lizi -> RE: Responding to mail (12/1/2013 2:31:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ My suspicion is that you are getting a lot of copy & pastes and they are looking for an easy target. My question to you is if you are a domme's property, why are you bothering to respond at all? If it is out of politeness or respect, you could easily use the pre-written options. So why are you devoting any time to it? Good point. I'd also add, if you are involved with someone, why does it matter to you if these 'women' write back to you or not?

RedMagic1 -> RE: Responding to mail (12/1/2013 2:51:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rokkman7456 Why do Mistresses send you mail, then you take the time to respond and then they never answer back. I have had this happen a few times. My answers are genuine and well thought out. Oh and most of their questions are "you call me or sub you may tell me about yourself" One did put some time into it but again never responded. I also have plainly stated that I am the property of a Domme. Anyways, just curious. Spam/troll accounts.

muhly22222 -> RE: Responding to mail (12/1/2013 3:20:40 PM)
FR Sometimes I get these from submissive female profiles...I'll usually respond, but put as much effort into my response as it looked like they put into theirs (on the off chance that it's a real person who is shy about messaging people and just needs a little encouragement.

rokkman7456 -> RE: Responding to mail (12/1/2013 4:33:57 PM)
Most of these were from a time frame either before my Domme or very early on when things were not that serious. She has told me to find people with similar interest on Fetlife. We have a 21 year age difference and she will be leaving Vegas to go back to California in a year. Kind of a tough situation. I want her to stay but it is complicated and highly doubtful she will.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Responding to mail (12/1/2013 6:05:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rokkman7456 Why do Mistresses send you mail, then you take the time to respond and then they never answer back. I have had this happen a few times. My answers are genuine and well thought out. Oh and most of their questions are "you call me or sub you may tell me about yourself" One did put some time into it but again never responded. I also have plainly stated that I am the property of a Domme. Anyways, just curious. I pay them to do that Rok.

OsideGirl -> RE: Responding to mail (12/1/2013 6:19:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JetOnly I guess we all get the cut and paste messages. Honestly I wouldnt respond to someone if they sound like they havent bothered to read your profile My guess is that they don't care about his profile. They're trying to get him offsite to either get money or mine his email address. But, honestly, my profile has five words....and I still get guys that don't bother to read and absorb.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Responding to mail (12/1/2013 7:32:36 PM)
Rokkman, I can't say why anyone would do that. I know I would not. When I first read your OP I checked out your profile and I, too, wondered why you would bother writing back to them other than to say you are already owned, since that's what your profile says. By the way, even though your profile states you're owned, it also says you're actively looking for Dominant and switch women and Dominant trans. Any submissive of mine would be expected to not be saying on his profile that he's still actively looking. NBMG

ThePrincessKali -> RE: Responding to mail (12/1/2013 9:52:17 PM)
Why do submissives who are clearly not looking for the same thing as me send me multiple messages? Why do Dom's message me? Maybe look at your profile and see if there's anything that might be putting women off.

rokkman7456 -> RE: Responding to mail (12/1/2013 9:58:45 PM)
NBMG, thanks for pointing that out. kinda new to all of this. I was married for 16 years and while we played around with bdsm it was never a lifestyle or on going thing. My Domme would like me to meet more people in the scene and I think she hopes I will find a LTR. I am very happy with her but I am 48 and she 27, she has to go back to CA eventually and I have to stay in Nevada.

SpyUnderCover -> RE: Responding to mail (12/2/2013 10:12:49 AM)
I can't say why they do it; as others have said, they might be spam accounts or money-grabbers fishing for an easy catch. But the reverse happens to me occasionally too: I receive a fairly detailed email from a sub; I reply with an equally detailed message; I never hear back again. Such is the nature of the internet. Spy

jackod -> RE: Responding to mail (12/3/2013 6:51:20 PM)
about 95% off them are scammers,many time is the male posing as a Lady,some has many profile with stolen picture,one of the most notorious is: "I have 6 years experience,etc." sooooo many profiles and stolen picture,jack

thishereboi -> RE: Responding to mail (12/4/2013 5:13:21 AM)
Well if your response included the fact that you already have a domme, I wouldn't respond because you already have a domme. Or I might check out your posts here and see that you already have a domme and not bother. Why should I waste my time with someone who is already taken?

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Responding to mail (12/4/2013 5:18:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rokkman7456 Why do Mistresses send you mail, then you take the time to respond and then they never answer back. I have had this happen a few times. My answers are genuine and well thought out. Oh and most of their questions are "you call me or sub you may tell me about yourself" One did put some time into it but again never responded. I also have plainly stated that I am the property of a Domme. Anyways, just curious. I actually send the bulk of that mail.

PeonForHer -> RE: Responding to mail (12/4/2013 5:53:48 PM)
I've found that the merest hint of your being attached to any other woman will put off the potentials, rokkman. Very few women here will want to be the 'bit on the side' unless they're the professional kind and you're the paying kind. I was astonished, once, when a woman on these forums said that the majority of men over 40 who claimed they were single, weren't. Some women who've contacted me and got to know me well enough have cheerfully revealed some time later that they'd done internet searches on my full name to see if I was married. And these weren't even women to whom I'd expressed an interest in getting properly spliced as partners. Quite a revelation, I can tell you. You need to put your Domme in the 'still with' box or the 'ex' box, because there's no box between the two, is my feeling.

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