piggysqueals
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I may not be a Mistress, but I have never had an issue of being found worthy of most Mistress's, so here is some things and information to help you in the obvious ways you are going to need help.
No woman, no matter what her title, authority or position will ever tolerate being disrespected in the Lifestyle, and they get literally hundreds of people asking and begging to be with them all the time, so many in fact they just delete the majority of it because its junk one liners and a waste of their time. Do not show her your manhood, or other body parts, she is going to care about your mind and your ability to hold a conversation, fetishes and training can be taught and learned with the proper incentives and most Dominant's haven't got no issue in that department, so don't worry about that. She isn't going to care what you are into unless it is a "hard limit" for her which means she's not into it and finds it repulsive; she isn't looking for you, YOU are looking for HER! Concentrate on "Her" what she wants, what she likes, and figure out if you are capable of giving those things to Her! If you find a woman and you think you can do 90% of what she wants and is into keep going, don't waste her time or yours unless you want her to find someone else besides you or to replace you when someone better comes along who is into 100% of her things.
A submissive to a degree has limits of what they don't want to do or aren't into, a slave typically as I was taught has no limits, no safe-words, and no boundaries... Do not go out there and say you are a slave, because you will not be prepared for what awaits you in the Lifestyle. Nothing is a bigger turn off to a Dominant than a slave who thinks they know something and doesn't have a clue about it. If you are going to get into a fetish be it a fetish of hers or your own, study up on it, learn everything you can about it from the Internet, actual Books, and do serious research on it, know what is safe and not safe to do before you ever do it. Even simple "tie me up bondage" seem safe enough, until you learn about common injuries caused by improper bindings, not knowing the signs to watch for to know if their is a problem, or having a measure in place to keep it safe for both you and your Dominant. No Dominant out there wants to live with regret because you didn't know that when you hand fell asleep in bondage and didn't tell them there was a problem that they caused someone a lifelong long term injury because you didn't know to tell them of the problem when it became a problem. I have always been respected by my Owner's and Dominants because I have the skills and the knowledge to be more than what I was, and thus I was a prize to be had, not just some common weak pathetic moron who couldn't be more than what I was. Anyone can dominant a moron, but to be the Owner of someone much more is truly a prize to show off to your fellow Dominants. So don't waste her time teaching you the basics, learn them on your own and increase your chances of finding someone who is going to read you message to her.
When you think you are going to message a person, READ THEIR PROFILE!!! Don't just skim over it, read it all the way through, make mention of it when you talk to them, let them know you read it, and say more than one line or plan to get deleted with the junk mail. Show them your body parts or body and plan to get Blocked! Make sure you have a profile that is complete, filled out and has something to say because if your message gets her attention, she is going to go look at your profile and see if she likes what she finds, and if she finds nothing she is going to delete your message! It used to be said for every 1-Dominant Woman there is 10-submissive men waiting in line for her... Do the math, how are you going to be her first pick and choice, by impressing her, by knowing things, and by being better than the other 10+ men in line trying to out do you for her time and consideration in getting a response from her. Use "Spell Check" like on Google Chrome or Firefox has it too, OMG I've heard enough Dominants love someone's profile and then get a message from them with improper English, and spelling errors so bad you need a decoder just to read it and I can tell you those go right in the trash too
On your own profile concentrate on what you have to offer, not what you want that should be in something like a BD/SM checklist I know they have one in your profile here, but most complete one to date I know of is on Bondage.com and takes me a couple hours to complete. Who cares if you want her to humiliate you, either you saw she is into that on her profile and like it or she's not into it and you aren't changing her mind. So tell her what you have to offer her outside of the fetishes, I for an example am a craftsman, very capable of working with my hands and a long line of materials from sewing, woodworking, metal working, welding, plastics, in fact their isn't very much I can't make something out of. I'm capable of designing, inventing and producing a lot of BD/SM furniture, gear, and equipment and have been doing it for others including my Dominant's for years. I am a hard worker, I love to serve and treat my Dominant as being the most special person in my life, opening her doors, cooking meals from scratch for her, tending the garden for fresh foods, and always trying to learn how to do something more. I do not watch a lot of TV or like to sit around, I am active more often than not because I hate sitting still... Are you getting the idea??? When a Dominant reads my profile like this she will know 100% right away if she likes what she is reading and would appreciate my life and what she can expect from choosing me or if I wouldn't make her happy because she wants a different type of a life.
I've known Dominants to come to me to ask to learn a skill that I know, because I am knowledgeable about the Lifestyle Fetishes, I've taught workshops and classes on things and when my Mistress/Owner was getting ready to leave other Dominants wanted to know if she would borrow me out, etc... this was seen as a huge compliment to her because she was the proud Owner of a slave others wanted, and she was the one special enough to have me serving her. If you are just looking to be humiliated and have no self respect you are going to find yourself getting mixed up with people who don't know how to be a Dominant and who won't care about you or love you, and maybe that's your thing. But I would personally rather serve someone who loves me and can do those things to me too, and to find that first you have to get her attention and get her to read your first message to her on whatever site you choose, and that starts with what I've outlined the basics of above. Want to know more about that, read and listen to the Dominants they voice their opinions often enough, and listen to the subs & slaves and see how needy and greedy a lot of them are and note the fact there are single Dominants looking for subs & slaves and note that none of those needy, greedy one's have a Dominant to serve, so right there should clue you in as to what they don't want. Then look at those who are with someone who are happy in their relationship(s) and you'll find their profiles are more like what I told you above, and you'll see they aren't seeking or searching for a Dominant for very long because they are sought after.
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