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iamsubmissive -> my question (7/3/2006 11:18:01 PM)
[:(] in discussion with dom i came across he pushed that first meet should be private i said no and that would be public was called rude and that im not slave or submissive ..and pushed for private meeting? How do i handle these .plus ones who make judgement calls because im no size 10 ..how do you not get offeneded ? tired in Calgary

CrappyDom -> RE: my question (7/3/2006 11:28:40 PM)
Anyone who tries to manipulate you using petty things like calling your submission into question aren't worth the cum it takes to drown them. Tell the guy that the worn out battery you just threw out of your vibrator had more power in it than he does.

ownedgirlie -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 12:05:36 AM)
~ cleans the spewed water off my screen ~

Vancouver_cinful -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 12:30:57 AM)
I just remind myself that it's probably just a 13 year old boy playing on his mommy's computer. And if it isn't, then what a pathetic excuse for a human they must be. The good news is you're smarter than they are. Too smart to fall for the crap. Chin up, it gets easier eventually.

BitaTruble -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 12:49:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: iamsubmissive [:(] in discussion with dom i came across he pushed that first meet should be private i said no and that would be public was called rude and that im not slave or submissive ..and pushed for private meeting? How do i handle these .plus ones who make judgement calls because im no size 10 ..how do you not get offeneded ? tired in Calgary Ignore, block, delete. Celeste

RavenMuse -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 3:01:14 AM)
Frankly anyone who will not argee (Hell, they should be suggesting it first, let alone agreeing!) to meeting in public isn't someone you should be wasting your time with, or worrying about what they think. This day and age they are just being stupid expecting someone to walk into a potentialy dangerous situation without the chance to back out safely. Meet in a public place and DON'T allow anyone to pressure you into going private unless YOU decide for yourself that it is a risk worth taking.

ScooterTrash -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 3:35:21 AM)
I'll just chime in with the chorus here and agree that under no circumstances should you meet privately the first time. That even sounds suspicious. If they can't understand that...well....then they just don't understand much of anything then do they?

MysticFireTopaz -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 3:59:33 AM)
You are very wise to stick to your guns. No one in their right might should agree to meeting in private as the first meeting. And the fact that he ignored your feelings about this and pushed for one anyway is a further red flag as far as I am concerned. It is so trite when dominants pull that line about someone not being a slave or submissive because they don't go along with some stupid demand. He really needs to come up with some new material--that line has been so overused. I agree with the advice of deleting his e-mail and blocking him from any further contact. The block feature can come in very handy here. Lady Topaz

wandering4u -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 4:02:15 AM)
I agree with all the above. Block, delete and go on from here

feastie -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 5:05:05 AM)
CrappyDom, ya got me twice on this one. laughing Seriously, OP, either just block and delete, or tell the idiot off then block and delete and go on with your day.

TolerableCruelty -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 6:26:56 AM)
quote: How do i handle these .plus ones who make judgement calls because im no size 10 Easily... tell 'em to get bent.. then do the ignore, block thing like the rest of the folks said. quote: how do you not get offeneded ? Grow some thicker skin.... and come to terms with the fact that the majority of them are complete morons if they can't accept you for who you are, and what you practice. well wishes, T.R.

LokisBrat -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 8:05:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom Anyone who tries to manipulate you using petty things like calling your submission into question aren't worth the cum it takes to drown them. Tell the guy that the worn out battery you just threw out of your vibrator had more power in it than he does. Damn.........there goes another perfectly good cup of coffee. LOKI

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 4:22:24 PM)
Well in the instance of the one who said you were no submissive then congratulations! he wasnt smart enough of a wanker to lead you on for awhile..As for the ones who seek size 10 than again congratulations!..no time wasted..These type of Dominants will make the sorting out of the rest of your contacts that much easier...be well...take a deep breath...chin up...go on...Tempting

Emperor1956 -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 7:36:53 PM)
All the advice you've received on this thread is excellent. No one should be manipulated into meeting in any venue they choose not to, and your instincts for a first public meeting are good. HOWEVER, I'd be more impressed with your seeking knowledge if your profile didn't reflect a rather purile "mentorship". Your "mentor" sounds more like one of the aforementioned wankers with his threatening tone and lecturing to the CollarMe world about his worldview. I am a fan of mentorship, but not when it appears to create as many issues as it allegedly solves re: communication with others in the D/s world. Might I suggest that he rework your profile to encourage competent communication? E.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 9:05:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: iamsubmissiv in discussion with dom i came across he pushed that first meet should be private i said no and that would be public was called rude and that im not slave or submissive ..and pushed for private meeting? How do i handle these .plus ones who make judgement calls because im no size 10 ..how do you not get offeneded ? tired in Calgary You roll over and let them do/make you feel however they want to. That's what you're supposed to do right?

CrappyDom -> RE: my question (7/4/2006 9:32:06 PM)
Then LA, first time we meet, I do expect your to roll over and offer yourself.

ehlovindom -> RE: my question (7/8/2006 10:20:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: iamsubmissive [:(] in discussion with dom i came across he pushed that first meet should be private i said no and that would be public was called rude and that im not slave or submissive ..and pushed for private meeting? How do i handle these .plus ones who make judgement calls because im no size 10 ..how do you not get offeneded ? tired in Calgary Why not go ahead and agree to meet him in private, perhaps a nice burning building somewhere, maybe that last step off the pier. Oh wait, they might be seen as public places. On second thought, why are you wasting your time on someone who is nothing more than a giant red flag? As for judging you and being offended? Look in the mirror my dear. If you allow yourself to be offended by such a "person", than that is your problem. Why should you care in the least what he might say? He has no right to judge you. If you look in the mirror and like what you see, then that is all that matters.

Thoradon -> RE: my question (7/8/2006 2:07:59 PM)
I would agree with everything that has been said. The only exception that I can think of though would be if you know someone that they did. I would meet a friend of a friend in private as I would trust my friends judgement.

agirl -> RE: my question (7/8/2006 6:11:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: iamsubmissive [:(] in discussion with dom i came across he pushed that first meet should be private i said no and that would be public was called rude and that im not slave or submissive ..and pushed for private meeting? How do i handle these .plus ones who make judgement calls because im no size 10 ..how do you not get offeneded ? tired in Calgary I would suppose you'd take as much care as you might when meeting ANYBODY, vanilla/dom/martian/clingon. It may seem crazy....but my sprogs could work some of these things out and they are not even of voting age. I would be afraid to let them make the short trip to school if they needed this much mentoring. If YOU'RE not happy about meeting in private then don't. It really is that simple. If you're called names rude etc because you don't comply with a simple personal safety measure at such a crucial time, then does this not speak for itself? Maybe ask yourself what advice you'd give a child if faced with similar. There are basic self-preservation steps.......nothing to DO with being submissive. If you're comfy with taking a risk or two, then fine........but you're not, so just don't. I think I probably would be offended if someone was particularly rude about my size, whatever it was. If they prefer fat females, there's little reason to tell me about it if I'm not one of them. Regards, agirl

JessieMe -> RE: my question (7/8/2006 9:43:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom Tell the guy that the worn out battery you just threw out of your vibrator had more power in it than he does. You really should write a book with all these little pithy phrases you know?? I bet it would make you rich.. <grins>

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