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Not sure how to approach this - 12/6/2013 8:03:08 PM

cefm

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By nature I am very indecisive and shy and like others to choose for me. I want a relationship and want to serve but not used. What should I look for, or ask for?

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RE: Not sure how to approach this - 12/6/2013 9:47:13 PM

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Before anyone can answer you'll have to explain what you mean when you use the word "used." Do you mean sexually, monetarily, pain, or what?

For every type of relationship you can bet there is someone else interested in doing things that way too. You just have to be clear as to what you seek so you and that person can find each other. Clear communication is important.

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RE: Not sure how to approach this - 12/7/2013 2:34:54 AM

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peppermint, I viewed his profile and it says he's still a virgin. So I suspect he means he wants to serve but no sex.

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RE: Not sure how to approach this - 12/7/2013 3:08:43 AM

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Actually, if you were already in Maine, I would be very interested. However if I'm going to put in the effort of teaching you things (and "now to Easter" is a pretty short time to get some things down well), I'd want something more long-term. 24/7 Live-in isn't necessary but daily/weekly would be a good arrangement.

I recommend you list yourself as a Domestic Service Chastity slave (you've identified yourself as "slave"), or indentured servant, that sort of thing. I know a lot of other Dommes like Myself who are actually seeking a housemaid/footman/butler/gardener...even carpenters and mechanics, with no sex involved. In My case I'm also currently seeking a horse groom to keep the barn tidy and care for/groom My horses, clean horse tack, mend fences, etc. Experience is not necessary as I prefer to teach how I want things done. If you want to improve your knowledge to make yourself more attractive to Dommes, there are a lot of sites online that describe domestic duties in detail.

Good luck in your search.

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RE: Not sure how to approach this - 12/7/2013 4:25:57 AM

ChatteParfaitt

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Welcome to the discussion side.

I'm a bit confused about your profile. What does 'give in to a 24/7' mean?

And what happens after Easter?

Are you the Easter Bunny?

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RE: Not sure how to approach this - 12/7/2013 4:29:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS
I know a lot of other Dommes like Myself who are actually seeking a housemaid/footman/butler/gardener...even carpenters and mechanics, with no sex involved.

Which brings up a suggestion, OP - if you wanna serve, you should list what skills you have for that. Spreadsheets, accounting, playing an instrument, carpentry, what?

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RE: Not sure how to approach this - 12/7/2013 7:04:54 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

peppermint, I viewed his profile and it says he's still a virgin. So I suspect he means he wants to serve but no sex.

He also said something in his profile about letting his owner choosing when he loses that virginity. OP is just not clear about what he is seeking. He needs to write down what he wants in a concise way so other people know what he is talking about.

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RE: Not sure how to approach this - 12/7/2013 7:27:47 AM

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I have a feeling "not be used" means that he wants to be cherished and appreciated, not treated as a wallet or vehicle for kink. But that's just how I read it.

cefm, you should look for a decisive, assertive woman that you connect with on a personal level - someone you want to spend a lot of time with, whose company you enjoy, whose views your respect. And then you should have fun!

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RE: Not sure how to approach this - 12/7/2013 3:15:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cefm

By nature I am very indecisive and shy and like others to choose for me. I want a relationship and want to serve but not used. What should I look for, or ask for?

I'm thinking you should put together a list of pro's and con's and then, figure out after careful consideration which outweighs the other and then.....I'd give it some more thought before diving in.

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RE: Not sure how to approach this - 12/8/2013 7:27:51 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

Welcome to the discussion side.

I'm a bit confused about your profile. What does 'give in to a 24/7' mean?

And what happens after Easter?

Are you the Easter Bunny?

That's the real danger of this site. People don't realize but they're constantly revealing their true identities behind their superhero costumes. Like in this post, we discovered this guy is quite possibly the Easter Bunny. In another thread, I'm pretty sure they outed Santa. In a couple of previous posts over the last couple of months, I'm pretty sure I saw some people actually referring to themselves as "The Goddess" and some guys who appear to be revealing themselves as "gods".

We need to be a lot more careful with this outing stuff here.

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RE: Not sure how to approach this - 12/18/2013 4:05:36 PM

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try group therapy. learn to say what you are all about in a safe environment.

also, try writing down what you want. work on it. each time you write something, go back and re-read all that you have completed. You mood may be different, and some parts will remain.

And sure, there are abusers out there and users. Go back to your written material and stay focused. Try using alt.com and this sites extensive fetish lists and check off the categories so you get clear on the choices.

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