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tabooprincess -> after care (12/11/2013 6:03:35 PM)
After you play with your Dom/Domme do you need aftercare right away? Usually after Mistress and I do a scene I want a little bit of after care right away but then I need to get something to eat. after about 30 minutes or so then I feel a need for the aftercare. I want to be wrapped in a nice soft warm blanket and held close and snuggled. Is this normal? do others feel this way also or am i just weird?

kalikshama -> RE: after care (12/11/2013 6:11:29 PM)
I'm sure if you asked 100 people, you'd get 100 versions of aftercare, but yours has the elements that I like - cuddling and food :) Welcome!

littleone35 -> RE: after care (12/11/2013 7:04:27 PM)
I need the snuggling right away. Then something to drink (water) Food comes in a distant 3rd. Matt's littleone

DesFIP -> RE: after care (12/11/2013 7:11:35 PM)
I need the blanket first. But after play he's always sweating and I always am freezing. And I don't want him to cuddle me until he grabs a towel and dries off. I subscribe to: Don't pet the sweaty things.

LittleGirlHeart -> RE: after care (12/11/2013 7:29:38 PM)
usually yes. but if i need after care much later i get it.

littlewonder -> RE: after care (12/11/2013 7:59:55 PM)
It depends on how we played. If it was light and playful and just orgasms then no I don't really need aftercare...just a moment to catch my breath! If it's really rough and difficult then I usually like to be cuddled, a blanket put around me, some water and communication.

peppermint -> RE: after care (12/11/2013 8:34:52 PM)
Maybe I'm strange, but I have never liked or needed aftercare. I just hate to be fussed over.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: after care (12/11/2013 10:26:38 PM)
I enjoy being fussed over very much, but I don't usually need aftercare, just a rest. We don't play too hard, though.

kalikshama -> RE: after care (12/12/2013 5:49:00 AM)
Without play that results in a big endorphin dump, after care is just nice. If we play hard, it's a necessity for me, especially if I needed to drive afterwards, which is fortunately no longer the case.

lovethyself -> RE: after care (12/12/2013 6:06:52 AM)
I love cuddles, period. I'm not sure how much I really need for aftercare, but hey, I'm greedy and it was offered.[:D] I get much more from the conversation during the cuddles about what we did, but I'm still at the early stages of completely embracing my kinks. I think the cuddles help facilitate the conversation. And to answer the OP, I'm usually in a nice, happy, relaxed, state after and I just want to float for a bit in it before I do anything. Moving anywhere beyond short distances is pretty low on my list.

shadowborn61 -> RE: after care (12/12/2013 6:11:07 AM)
When my wife switches and lets Her sadistic side out to play it gets really intense and afterwards i need Her to hold me as much as She needs me to hold Her. It helps bring us both back down and lets us both feel loved.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: after care (12/12/2013 7:54:32 AM)
Snuggles, water, chocolate to even out those endorphins. All that is natural and normal.

tabooprincess -> RE: after care (12/12/2013 7:56:07 AM)
Thanks all for the comments. We do play hard most of the time. I have marks and bruises left on me. As there is a cross and a spanking bench in the house were We live. I love the cuddles and the fuss as well but just seems like i can not handle it right after the scene. It takes awhile for me to really want to be cuddled after one.Maybe it is because We do discuss what happened during the scene when We cuddle and I am not coherent enough to right away.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: after care (12/12/2013 7:58:04 AM)
I'm not coherent sometimes for a good half hour. I just like warmth (yes that one's important) and to be held until I come back to earth.

kalikshama -> RE: after care (12/12/2013 8:46:44 AM)
My man does not talk for a while after either - I've found I'm always the one to break the silence.

SweetAnise -> RE: after care (12/12/2013 8:54:31 AM)
To the OP you may not want to be cuddled right away because you need to come back to earth first or you could be triggered emotionally by the physical sensations, feelings & emotions, or something else...such as old material in your life... if old material is the issue that doesn't always make you feel cozy around your dom. I would suggest having a conversation about your experiences after the scene. Especially if you feel you are not getting that...it may make you feel better about what you are experiencing and cuddling may come thereafter.

kajirarainn -> RE: after care (12/12/2013 4:21:43 PM)
I like the cuddles I get for aftercare, the kisses and snuggles to let me know He loves me.

orgasmdenial12 -> RE: after care (12/14/2013 3:33:13 AM)
I don't do aftercare - it annoys me. I generally like to be left alone after playing - cuddles and talking irritate me.

LittleGirlHeart -> RE: after care (12/14/2013 4:33:01 AM)
We don't either any more hardly. but there was one time he made me orgasm 8 times and i orgasmed on own 2 and i am not used to that hard and that intense. and then one time he gave me 10 on his own, screaming hard ones an i normally can't O that hard or that many, And then i had 5 on my own then he gave me 5 sensation " orgasms" from just rubbing my skin, so literally when we were done i asked for my blankie cuz, one i was cold, and two my blankie is a huge source of comfort. He rubbed my back and I passed dead asleep and oblivious to the world out for an hour. That's my usual reaction to such intense O and pleasure i want a nap , or if it's late enough just to go strait to bed lol. quote: ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders I enjoy being fussed over very much, but I don't usually need aftercare, just a rest. We don't play too hard, though.

BouncyBoo -> RE: after care (12/19/2013 6:47:46 PM)
FR: I can go through random emotional drops after little things. Usually I need some alone time then open arms for cuddling. (Rarely talking, because I never know what sets me off.) On the rare occasion I engage in heavier play (harder spankings leading to longer-lasting bruises, generally) I usually need a long hug to cry out whatever is left and a little bit of soft touches to make sure I'm ok, and lots of water. In the past when I had more humiliation play, I usually needed a bit more talking with my cuddles, to put me back in a good mindset and keep me from taking some things to heart. But that's about the extent of my aftercare needs, I think.

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