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slavealfred -> Slave2lesbians (12/12/2013 3:29:50 AM)
Hi there, There have been a few times where I have been able to find a lesbian couple who wanted a make slave. Mostly, I was able to meet such lesbian couples at fetish clubs. Admittedly, this is very rare but is always a lot of fun for me. With a lesbian couple , it is always about "service". Traditional sex is out of the question. Is this a common fetish? How does one find such a couple on CollarMe? Thank you

LadyPact -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/12/2013 3:37:45 AM)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057130/tm.htm

mnottertail -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/12/2013 9:14:00 AM)
I want to be a Master to lesbian slaves, and I don't see that in the FAQ. Is that common? Am I the only one? Oh, garsh...I am just so..............unsure. (nearly outta there)

MasterCaneman -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/12/2013 10:14:39 AM)
Years ago I was working at a dive bar in Salt Lake. I had two regular customers who were a very committed lesbian couple. Nice folks, minded their own business, tipped me okay. As I said, it was a lower-end place. The ladies liked coming there because it was right around the corner from their home, and none of the other regulars screwed with them. However... There were always 'transients', folks who came in only once or once in awhile, and since they were usually guys, it was nearly-automatic they'd at least get the eye up and down. The girls were cool about it, occasionally even accepting drinks. Guys would make the moves, and they'd be very upfront about it. Most of the guys would be good about it, but there'd always be a jerk who couldn't get it through his head that a lesbian isn't attracted to a man. I don't know if either had been bi at any time, but they made it clear (in a nice way, at least at first) that they were just not interested. One guy in particular comes to mind. Three times he hit on them. First time, they just said no with no qualifiers, second time they revealed their orientation. The third time, he yells out, "Bullshit! Lesbians do guys all the goddamn time! I've seen it in the movies and shit! I'll even fucking pay!". One of the women gave him the best retort I ever heard to that. "Look, what you're asking us is the same as asking that guy or that guy if he wants to fuck. There's no difference." That's as close as I could get to what she said, because I was on my way out to eject him. Which brings me to the point here... ...I look at porn too. What you're seeing there isn't real. Maybe, somewhere, someone really does get to do a scene like that, but I'll bet they're paying for it in one form or another. I may be wrong, I'm not a full-time player anymore, so there's that. I count several people in the LGBT community among my friends, so I have a pretty good idea as to where their heads are at. For you, I'd recommend either attending a (non-kinky) event, like a fundraiser or something like that, maybe even volunteer for a support group and get to really know them as people, and not objects. Sounds cliche, but I don't think I'm too far off here. My niece is lesbian, I'm attending her wedding this July. I've already had to explain to an older relative how this works, and it took some doing because she couldn't wrap her head around the fact she (my niece) was wired to be that way and it wasn't just a "phase". She never was and never will be attracted to a man, other than in a platonic manner. That is the definition of a lesbian, period. Do yourself a favor and at least look into the 'real' lesbian community more before seeking out such an arrangement. You'll save yourself a lot of grief, frustration, and embarrassment, and gain a broader perspective on the people around you. I'm not trying to be an asshole here, just bluntly sincere. Good luck.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/12/2013 10:27:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavealfred Hi there, There have been a few times where I have been able to find a lesbian couple who wanted a make slave. Mostly, I was able to meet such lesbian couples at fetish clubs. Admittedly, this is very rare but is always a lot of fun for me. With a lesbian couple , it is always about "service". Traditional sex is out of the question. Is this a common fetish? How does one find such a couple on CollarMe? Thank you Speaking as an ex-lesbian, I would've hated this. Not because I would have had something against having a male service sub, but because it fetishizes people. I don't want to be desired as an object - a cardboard cut-out of a 'type' in order to fulfill someone's fantasy. I want to be wanted for who I am, and the specific qualities I have. So, my suggestion for finding such an arrangement would be to approach them and get to know them as people, first and foremost. Not just as a fantasy. If submission with no possibility of sex is a turn on, there are other ways to get it (many doms of both genders have service only subs) but ask yourself this- is the most important thing that they are a lesbian couple? Aside from the fetish-object issue, there are other reasons this might be difficult to find - many people do want some type of sexual interaction or romantic relationship with their subs, meaning lesbians will want female subs. You also need to find a couple where both are dominant, where there is an agreement to have other subs, and where they both agree they are interested in you over the other potentials.

MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/12/2013 10:48:04 AM)
Yes, why only "lesbian couples"? You can have a straight female Dominant and still have non-sexual Service involved. This is the set up I have with My boys. Are you married and the "lesbian couple" is to set your wife's mind at ease? You can do that while Serving any Domme by simply wearing a well-fitting Chastity cage and giving your wife the key (in My experience, the wives love this detail). Maybe you are seeking a lesbian couple so you can "watch". If that's the case then I definitely have to agree with AthenaSurrenders in that you'd be fetishizing that couple...they'd be serving YOUR desires, not the other way around.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/12/2013 11:03:02 PM)
FR I'm coming back to this thread because I just read your intros. You're looking for a lesbian, you say 'no sex allowed' but the first thing you mention in your intro is that you are 'good orally'. You go on to mention anal play and toilet play. All very sexual kinks. The technicality of you wearing a cock cage doesn't mean it isn't sex when you're going down on her or she's ramming something up your butt. A lesbian does NOT want to engage in those activities with a man. Are you straight? Would you consider it an appealing prospect to have a man suck you off and then ask you to play with his butthole? Or would that be awkward as hell. Your post in this thread was misleading - I thought you were offering service (like chores and errands) but you're just offering the opportunity for them to carry out your fetishes. You have confirmed my suspicion that you are looking for a sex-toy and not a woman - I don't see how it is serving her if she has to have sexual contact with someone she actively does not want sex with. If this is your big fantasy, mention to your local pro you have a thing for lesbians, I am sure one will accommodate you in session. Don't expect them to touch your genitals or vice-versa. Please don't go bothering actual lesbians with this. Lesbians get enough shit from guys who think that being gay means they just haven't met the right magic penis and/or their sex life is carried out for the arousal of male spectators. It can be hard enough getting comfortable with your own sexuality (both gay and kinky) without someone trying to use you as a fetish object.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/13/2013 12:33:42 AM)
edit - I made a mistake. It appears it wasn't the same poster, and therefore OP, I apologise for my previous post.

DarkSteven -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/13/2013 3:26:58 AM)
Same answer I gave this guy. Why are all the "I want to be a slave to lesbians" types popping up now?

MissKittyDeVine -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/13/2013 3:53:43 AM)
Is there a new company making lesbian-themed porn for straight guys?

FriendlyMuppet -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/13/2013 8:43:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissKittyDeVine Is there a new company making lesbian-themed porn for straight guys? Porn companies have been making this kind of porn for years. They probably don't need a "new" one to find what they're looking for. As one who has actually been the submissive to a lesbian couple in the past, I can add a bit of perspective to the "fantasy". In my case, it didn't happen because I was looking for a lesbian couple, as I am heterosexual and am basically a service submissive who generally seeks out a woman who is looking for that sort of thing. In this case, I happened to be friends with a woman who I thought was bisexual because she played with men, and I knew she played with women. What I didn't know at the time was that she was actually a lesbian and took male slaves as "clients" mostly. That we hit it off was only one of those weird situations of circumstances (where someone I once served was friends with her to where things just kind of hit off well). I got brought into their relationship as their submissive, with the outright understanding of what the limitations would be. And I was fine with that for most of the time, although it was sometimes awkward to be kicked out when things got "intimate". That quickly reminded you of where you stood in such a relationship. But the moral to this whole story is that it never would have worked out if the lot of us didn't get along as friends during this whole situation. Had I been some horny guy looking to serve just any random woman, I guarantee that this would have turned out badly, and we wouldn't have parted as close friends. There are so many different situations that can derail something like this that to this day I'm still amazed it didn't happen. Do I look for something like that these days? Not at all. Mainly because what I found was a result of me trying to become submissive to one woman with whom there was chemistry. That it led to something different is a testimony to how wonderful bdsm relationships can actually be. But if I went looking for that sort of thing today, I guarantee that my email would be blocked by so many women who would read one line and then think "Oh, god, not another one."

MasterCaneman -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/13/2013 9:19:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissKittyDeVine Is there a new company making lesbian-themed porn for straight guys? I would venture that's their target market.

Chrisp7135 -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/17/2013 5:28:19 AM)
I actually met a lesbian couple before that occasionally played with sub-males (it might have helped that I cross-dressed too). There was no sex, but it was a lot of fun; very genuine people. Although the dominant partner was not trans, she very much exuded a masculine energy, and it seemed that she enjoyed seeing a male catering to her commands. We lived far apart, so the relationship wasn't maintained. I've wondered where it would have gone had we all been local. Chris

wanderingkender -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/22/2013 7:34:39 PM)
Very bigoted of you to say Trans Women exude a "masculine energy". To OP: Fetishising people because of their gender and/or orientation is not ok. It will not end well for anyone involved.

njlauren -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/23/2013 10:51:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wanderingkender Very bigoted of you to say Trans Women exude a "masculine energy". To OP: Fetishising people because of their gender and/or orientation is not ok. It will not end well for anyone involved. I think you were mistaken, the poster said the dominant in the relationship, while not trans, definitely exuded masculine energy. I think the poster meant that the dominant partner was a butch/masculine personality type, not a F to M trans.....I don't think the poster meant that M to F's exuded masculine energy.

njlauren -> RE: Slave2lesbians (12/23/2013 11:00:39 PM)
OP- I think you may fetishize serving lesbian dominants (it is not an uncommon fantasy, there are a ton of stories of a male or CD/TG being the slave of dominant lesbian or lesbians, where they are fetishized), but I think you are going to find it tough sledding I have known some lesbian dominants, some of whom had male service slaves, I suspect they would at the very least reject you, because the last thing they would want to be is fetishized. When they had male subs (service subs mostly, knew one lesbian couple who both worked as pro dommes who had a male slave they used in sessions where a client wanted a man in the scene, for various reasons, as well as in service to them) it was strictly a D/s thing, service style slave, they had no interesting the the slaves sexuality, were not interested sexually, but rather simply it was good for them to have a male slave who could do things for them, and there also was a mutual respect there between the lesbian couple and the male slave, liking, friendship, whatever, they trusted one another. I would say if you have a fetish/get off sexually on serving a lesbian couple, it will be hard to find one wanting you as their sub. I suspect unless you are into serving a couple and happen to find that lesbian couples, for whatever reasons, are easier to work with as a service slave, rather than it being a fetish, it won't happen. The lesbian couples I knew that had male service slaves (and it wasn't a lot), were friends with the guy, had hit it off as friends/acquaintances and it kind of flowed from that.

garyFLR -> RE: Slave2lesbians (1/2/2014 4:38:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissKittyDeVine Is there a new company making lesbian-themed porn for straight guys? Hi Miss Kitty. Yes, I guess there must be. If I was to be a slave to a lesbian couple, I'd have to straighten them out first [:)]. Posted in expectation of loads of deserved abuse!

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