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how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining possibl... - 12/12/2013 7:39:35 PM   
LittleGirlHeart


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my ring just caught and tore fibers in brand new pillow cases an it pissed me off enough to give me the impedus to not put it off any longer an get it fixed. i was ignoring the fact the prongs were sharp and was damaging or possibly gonna, damage stuff. gonna take my ring off b4 it tears something else, something i love instead of just a pullow case but i gonna d i t when daddy gets home so we can maybe make it sacred or special instead of a negative.


And one month : i broke a light bulb an it made me mad cuz it was the third time this week my light fell an a bulb broke an instead of feeling like i was wasting a light bulb with these accidents, because I am a little and i take accidents hard, I asked daddy could we give it a special send off an i waved bye bye an called nice things to it as he carred it off

How about you? how do you make stressful accidents or things you'd normally over react to as if it was the end of the world a normal not stressful ok thing. even sacred or good.

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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/12/2013 9:42:49 PM   
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I just shrug and say no big deal. I don't really ever over react. I just don't see a reason for it. Nothing in this world is really all that important except making sure Master and my daughter are safe and cared for. Anything less than that is just not going to be something that makes me angry or upset....tiffed, aggravated? Sure....but angry? Nah. Not worth the energy.


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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/12/2013 10:09:33 PM   
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How about you? how do you make stressful accidents or things you'd normally over react to as if it was the end of the world a normal not stressful ok thing. even sacred or good.

Usually if I get uptight about things it's because there are bigger things going on in my world that I haven't figured out how to deal with yet. If I find myself feeling riled up, I start looking at bigger picture stuff. When there are bigger things going on, my capacity to shrug off the little things wane, and I'm more affected by them.

I'm glad you decided to make a positive event out of your ring.


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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 4:27:39 AM   
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I would wear the ring on a chain so it can be close to you and you can take it off when you go it bed.

Another personal question...are you losing more weight? I like the dress you are holding up and you look like you are getting skinnier.

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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 5:05:40 AM   
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You think you got it bad? Broken light bulbs, rings catching bed linens?

Try being bounced at 4:30 in the morning by a wolf hybrid doing the "Daddy love me" dance.

Or a 20 month old nephew grabbing your shoe when you have to go somewhere, running away with it yelling "MINE!"

Then there is the criminal pair of Kera and Blu who work together to steal your toast that you made to eat with your omelet, then coming back to try and steal the omelet!

Of course there is always the dog that just has to check out the Christmas tree... and getting tangled in the lights... how the hell can you tangle yourself up in a string of lights going around a freaking tree?

In all seriousness, what you are talking about is little stuff, and if you really want to cut down stress, dont sweat the little shit. I have a desk lamp that seems to fall when you least expect it, I put velcro tape on the bottom and on my desk, dont fall any more. Like someone said, wear the ring on a chain and take it off at night.

This time of year is hard on me for a some very personal reasons, and I am short tempered, easy to get mad at little things, but to deal with that, I volunteer at a SPCA shelter and with a group helping military families who have members overseas or wounded recovering in a military hospital. I donate plasma twice a week, and yes they pay you, but I take one donation pay and donate to the MS society.

I have found that getting out of myself and putting that energy into something else helps.

And dealing with 9 totally insane dogs doesnt hurt. Kera has a new game. Jump the fence, and when her humans go to get her back in the yard, jump the fence and grin at us. She spends her minutes of "freedom" barking at the emus my neighbor is raising...

What the hell do you use emus for?

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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 5:21:42 AM   
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What the hell do you use emus for?

Eggs for big-ass omelets of course! And the meat too.

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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 5:25:06 AM   
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I love emu burgers...


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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 7:05:06 AM   
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I love emu burgers...



You do NOT use a bird to make burgers!

Burgers are made from Beef, Buffalo, Venison, and elk.

A bird that big might be good for a large thanksgiving dinner, but what the hell would you cook it in?

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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 7:42:54 AM   
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A big-ass roasting pan!

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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 10:50:17 AM   
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I tend to worry about things before they happen, rather than freak out after they happen.

But here are some questions for putting things into perspective:
-On a scale of 1-100, how bad is this?
-Will this matter a year from now?
-What would a calm person say about this?

So for your pillow case example,
- How bad is this? About a three out of 100 - not bad at all
- Will it matter in a year? - not remotely, I probably won't even remember it
- What would a calm person say? 'Oops, oh well, better sew it back up'

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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 11:01:48 AM   
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Um, I have to wonder, what would she do if her dog ate a large portion of the pillow case? I mean if she gets weird over a small tear caused by a ring....

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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 11:20:52 AM   
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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 12:20:31 PM   
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two types of people in this world.

Suiciders, who say, hey, Im the problem so if I kill myself your world will be a better place.
Murderers, who say, I am gonna kill all you motherfuckers cuz you are the problem and my world will be a better place.

Me?  Butcher em like hogs, and giggle like a 9 year old schoolgirl.


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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 12:23:21 PM   
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Otter, there is a third type.

The guy who wants to take over the world and fuck with everyone that he thinks fucked with him....

But then I was recently given a book on how to fuck with your enemies and not break the law.

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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 3:05:39 PM   
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In all seriousness, what you are talking about is little stuff, and if you really want to cut down stress, dont sweat the little shit. I have a desk lamp that seems to fall when you least expect it, I put velcro tape on the bottom and on my desk, dont fall any more. Like someone said, wear the ring on a chain and take it off at night.


What he said

In the past I used to do huffing and puffing a lot (mainly behind closed doors towards myself, not so much towards other people). Since I am diagnosed with fibromyalgia it is rare that this happens anymore...cause I learned when understanding my condition that emotional distress can lead to aching muscles....and seriously, not many people or objects are worth it, that it affects me that much...

therefore, as long as it isn't life threatening....I either deal with it (like dragging my last employer through the court as he didn't bother to pay me my final salary) or shrug it off....cause whatever shit is thrown towards me....life goes on...and I prefer to make the best out of it....whatever the situation is like



On another note, I do remember that as a kid, it bugged me over weeks when I screwed up a test at school....whilst waiting for the result....and my karate coach from back then (he used to give me a lift to the training, so we spoke a lot with each other) taught me to stop bothering about it afterwards....as quite frankly, once the test is written....there is nothing you can do about that one.....and that was very helpful to stop me from getting annoyed about something like that, when as a matter of fact, there was nothing I could do about it anymore, in hindsight...

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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/13/2013 3:23:51 PM   
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There's always the 3 P's. People tend to be upset when they think a problem is:

1) Personal
2) Pervasive
3) Permanent.

Usually, it's not. So, asking yourself if the problem is personal, pervasive &/or permanent is a helpful start to gaining a proportional perspective. (LOL, yeah, that's a lot of P's)

If it is all three, then the Serenity Prayer may help.

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference.

If the wisdom part is challenging, then it's time to get some feedback from others whom you trust and respect.

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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/14/2013 4:14:48 AM   
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The prongs catch every day clothing too. so making it a necklace won't make it not catch and ruin things. the guy who made it for me , he was actually nice enough to send me the money it'd cost to fix it at a jewlery store, which was only 15. 00. So i am going to take it to the mall and have the store that gave me the price fix it:)

That was from when i first bought my purple an black dress but yes i am loosing more weight, thank you:)
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ORIGINAL: ShaharThorne

I would wear the ring on a chain so it can be close to you and you can take it off when you go it bed.

Another personal question...are you losing more weight? I like the dress you are holding up and you look like you are getting skinnier.



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RE: how I am going to turn negative emotion ruining pos... - 12/14/2013 4:22:30 AM   
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Oh, Calley may does her share of "mommy i love you, I wanna just snuggle into you even if you were sleeping an even if i am to heavy to treat you like a couch i will jump on you lol. Or ramming her head into your face doing her crazy and wild face itchy an i am so happy flail on her back in bed next to you.


or punching me in the face and splitting my lip. i taught her right quick not to jesture for love so wildly after she nearly poked my eye out. I just started making negative EH! No! noises an it only took her a day to stop. but it took me like a month to become tired of getting hit in the face, or the mouth or the teeth, when she did her MOMMY MOMMY MOMMY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! dances.


My cocker spaniel could manage to get himself tangled around a tree so bad he was trussed up like a holiday ham, on his tie out for the yard when we lived in a trailer and all dogs outside had to be on a tie out. I'd rescue him and he'd wind him self right back around the tree, or tangle himself right back up and then need mommy to rescue him lol.

Emus give huge giant eggs that are supposedly very tasty and very good for crafts and some of them are very valiable. dark green huge eggs are kinda hard to get. I hear.
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You think you got it bad? Broken light bulbs, rings catching bed linens?

Try being bounced at 4:30 in the morning by a wolf hybrid doing the "Daddy love me" dance.

Or a 20 month old nephew grabbing your shoe when you have to go somewhere, running away with it yelling "MINE!"

Then there is the criminal pair of Kera and Blu who work together to steal your toast that you made to eat with your omelet, then coming back to try and steal the omelet!

Of course there is always the dog that just has to check out the Christmas tree... and getting tangled in the lights... how the hell can you tangle yourself up in a string of lights going around a freaking tree?

In all seriousness, what you are talking about is little stuff, and if you really want to cut down stress, dont sweat the little shit. I have a desk lamp that seems to fall when you least expect it, I put velcro tape on the bottom and on my desk, dont fall any more. Like someone said, wear the ring on a chain and take it off at night.

This time of year is hard on me for a some very personal reasons, and I am short tempered, easy to get mad at little things, but to deal with that, I volunteer at a SPCA shelter and with a group helping military families who have members overseas or wounded recovering in a military hospital. I donate plasma twice a week, and yes they pay you, but I take one donation pay and donate to the MS society.

I have found that getting out of myself and putting that energy into something else helps.

And dealing with 9 totally insane dogs doesnt hurt. Kera has a new game. Jump the fence, and when her humans go to get her back in the yard, jump the fence and grin at us. She spends her minutes of "freedom" barking at the emus my neighbor is raising...

What the hell do you use emus for?



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