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DarkSteven -> RE: FFM (12/25/2013 11:10:10 AM)
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ORIGINAL: peppermint
I'd suggest you look locally in your BDSM community and maybe even the swingers groups.
Seconded. It is incredibly easy to search online, but you have a very low success rate.
I have been active in my local BDSM community for four or five years. That's where I met my sub just under three years ago. Shortly thereafter, we invited a young lady over for dinner and chat. She declined an offer to play afterward. We kept in touch, but drifted apart. She rejoined the local community tentatively, and I reached out to her. She's not being considered as a sub to the two of us.
We've got another friend that we reached out to two years ago, and met her along with her then-Dom. We've played nonsexually with her, sometimes with another male top, sometimes with just the two of us, off and on, for maybe a year.
I know three or four other women that would be interested in playing with us. For time or other reasons, we're not following up.
It took several years, but we are able to use the community to get friends, play partners, whatever.
Please note that we make a practice of giving to the community as well. I've tutored some folks, guided others safely into the groups and kept an eye out for them, etc. My sub even provided a bit of legal help to someone who needed it. It helps tremendously to have people who feel they've been helped by us.
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