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Urmomma3 -> Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 10:28:36 AM)
I need help I need new use ideas???? How can my Master use me? Please help me

OsideGirl -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 10:36:42 AM)
He's your Master and he can't figure out how to use you? You're asking a bunch of complete strangers something that the two of you should be figuring out. Perhaps, you need to re-think what you're doing.

jlf1961 -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 10:40:37 AM)
If you and your master cant figure this out, you got a world of problems.

Level -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 10:45:54 AM)
Ask yourself (and him): how can I be of service? How can I make him happy? What pleases him?

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 11:30:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl He's your Master and he can't figure out how to use you? This was my first thought too. Seriously, if a so-called master can't figure out what to do with his "sub" and the sub needs to come up with the ideas, maybe they're in the wrong roles. Sounds like a masochist and her service top, but that's just me.

OsideGirl -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 11:50:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl He's your Master and he can't figure out how to use you? This was my first thought too. Seriously, if a so-called master can't figure out what to do with his "sub" and the sub needs to come up with the ideas, maybe they're in the wrong roles. Sounds like a masochist and her service top, but that's just me. It goes beyond even that. How can you be in a relationship that is committed enough to call him "Master" and yet you don't know each other well enough to figure out what each other likes?

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 11:53:32 AM)
How very sad. I assume your 'master,' and I use that term so loosely, is looking for new ways to humiliate you. Please ask yourself 'do I really enjoy this humiliation?' b/c if you don't, you don't have to do it. Yes even 'slaves' get choices. Is this man good at fulfilling your emotional needs? Does he do things that show he cares about you? If I've got this wrong, I apologize. But some people are willing to do anything to have a person in their life. Don't be one of those persons.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 12:12:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl It goes beyond even that. How can you be in a relationship that is committed enough to call him "Master" and yet you don't know each other well enough to figure out what each other likes? That too. To be honest, I can't imagine lacking sufficient creativity to fill years worth of play time. But I'm also one of those crazy people who loves checklists and questionnaires and who keeps everything in a file for reference. If my creativity needs a jump start, I turn to my trusty file. Problem solved.

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 5:10:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan That too. I'm also one of those crazy people who loves checklists and questionnaires and who keeps everything in a file for reference. If my creativity needs a jump start, I turn to my trusty file. Problem solved. Me too. That's one of the reasons I insist on a completed checklist before any play commences. I like to have the partner do the list with me in person so he can add any qualifiers or ask questions on particular items. OP, I read your journal entries. It sounds like you just recently met this man. I fear for your safety. He is operating a vehicle with you in it while goofing around. Please think enough of yourself to protect yourself better.

LadyPact -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 5:17:31 PM)
Fast reply...... Ideas are all around. I never understand people with no imagination or even can't steal imagination from others. People can't possibly think that I came up with everything that I do all by Myself? Hell, no! There were lots of kinky people who were doing these things long before I came along. Perhaps the Master in question should make an investment.

angelikaJ -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 5:40:35 PM)
If your master reads this might be helpful: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm If you master needs to learn new techniques then perhaps you should find out where your nearest group is: http://www.the-iron-gate.com/munches/5 If your master doesn't seem to know what to do with your anatomy, maybe this will help: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UvNSHVopA-U If your master has no imagination at all.... nope, got nothing.

OsideGirl -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/25/2013 5:43:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt I fear for your safety. He is operating a vehicle with you in it while goofing around. Please think enough of yourself to protect yourself better. Yeah, that whole concept of placing your head between a 200lb movable weight and a hard stationary object while doing 65 (+) miles an hour.....

xxblushesxx -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/26/2013 1:28:08 AM)
Tell him to make you put some clothes on when you're in the forums! (just a helpful little suggestion)

ResidentSadist -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/26/2013 1:49:25 AM)
In the words of Rosie O'Donnell in Exit to Eden . . . "go paint his house".

VideoAdminChi -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/26/2013 7:48:50 AM)
Perhaps those of you who use checklists and such could post links to them here?

VideoAdminGamma -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/26/2013 8:08:03 AM)
That is a very constructive and helpful idea Chi. This would likely help all the new members that are reading this, but not actually posting. quote: ORIGINAL: VideoAdminChi Perhaps those of you who use checklists and such could post links to them here?

littlewonder -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/26/2013 9:31:25 AM)
meh....wouldn't just talking and getting to know each other work even better? Always has for me. The only way I see checklists actually working is if it's a casual or business situation. Otherwise, I'd say there's a huge, huge, communication gap.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/26/2013 9:39:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Urmomma3 I need help I need new use ideas???? How can my Master use me? Please help me I am supposedly pretty creative, but you know what? 95% of my "creative ideas" are really things I have shamelessly ripped off from things I have read, or from porn I have watched. My personal contribution was just to modify what I read or saw to the situation and person I was with. My suggestion is that you start reading the classics of modern BDSM. Read a book or two together, as a couple. It will open up worlds for you that you didn't even realize were possible. Try these: The Loving Dominant, or The Topping Book. Have fun.[;)]

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/26/2013 9:48:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VideoAdminChi Perhaps those of you who use checklists and such could post links to them here? Actually, no. I use a modified checklist I put together based on the ones in Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns, Training With Miss Abernathy, and Master Fire's book. I also use most of the questionnaires and some of the writing exercises in the Miss Abernathy books. People will have to go to Amazon and order them. I think there are links in the BDSM book list sticky. quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder meh....wouldn't just talking and getting to know each other work even better? Always has for me. The only way I see checklists actually working is if it's a casual or business situation. Otherwise, I'd say there's a huge, huge, communication gap. snort You're assuming some of us can retain that much information and have perfect recall on command. I can barely remember what I ate for breakfast...or if I even ate breakfast. [:D] Seriously, though, I use these as a stepping stone to start conversations in the getting-to-know-you stage of a D/s relationship. I like to have something I can read and process over time. I want to be able to refer back to things, occasionally more than once. Sometimes I make notes in the file of ideas for play/scenes that occur to me while I'm reading. As a writer, it's as natural as breathing for me to keep a notebook of ideas. Conversation doesn't work for that.

DaddySatyr -> RE: Help I need ideas (12/26/2013 9:55:53 AM)
On those extremely rare occasions when a lady has decided that she's willing to let me be her F.D.S., I usually have one response: Her:"I've known since I met you that you are the one. I am so moved to serve you. I will do anything you want. I am yours to command and use as you will." Me: "That's very touching. Okay. Wait here until I get back."

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