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dmarcus13 -> Keyholding Questions (12/26/2013 4:34:35 PM)
Hi All! I'm new to chastity - though I've only made it 1 day in my cage so far. I have 2 questions for all the dommes out there... 1. On a scale of 1 to 10 - how hot is it (10 being highest) to hold the key to a locked sub? 2. What is the longest stretch of locked up time you've ever held a sub? Thank you everyone in advance for your insights to what's out there in the world :)

RedMagic1 -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/26/2013 6:19:34 PM)
dmarcus, there are a gazillion men begging to be put into devices, and a bunch of dominant women wondering where the submissive men are with healthy libido and social skills. Because, well, a lot of dominant women love hard cock. So I think women are a bit leery of posting on your thread. Akasha wrote an essay called The Good Girl's Guide to Domination. In it, she advises male subs to cool it on the chastity, because devices can be bulky and difficult to implement. I'll share an experience though. I'm usually dom, but I had my orgasms controlled for a while by a femdom friend of mine. She's a health professional, and she helped me manage my life and achieve some goals. She really knew what she was doing, it was a big help, and the situation got her hot. But we really liked each other, and it was in the context of me making her life better, and her making my life better.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/26/2013 6:27:55 PM)
1. On a scale of 1-10, I'd say it's a zero. Devices aren't that much fun and holding the key to one is about as hot as holding my car keys. I don't even think about them unless I can't find them or they're in my way. 2. I don't do keys/devices. When I do chastity, I work on the honor system. It's much more fun to watch him struggle to fight his natural urges and suffer for it. [sm=evil.gif] Sometimes, I like to have him edge throughout the day and he can't do that as easily while wearing a device. I'm not quite sure what the longest time I've had someone go between orgasms was. Three or four months, maybe? I tend to put them in chastity and then forget about it until they do something to earn an orgasm.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/26/2013 7:47:47 PM)
I remember when I was switching, a sub I was with was really into chastity, or so he said. I had him in his CB6000 for all of two days and he took off on me, without the keys, saying he wanted out. I wrote to him and said he needed to come back then so I could let him out of it if that's how he felt. He said there wasn't a chastity device made that he couldn't get out of if he really wanted to. So much for him liking chastity. So much for me wanting to mess with it. Besides, if a guy's cock is in chastity, I can't use it. Where's the fun in that? NBMG

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/26/2013 9:38:31 PM)
Devices: zero on the hot scale for me. Sylvere's mention of car keys about sums it up. Now, orgasm control/denial, whole 'nother story. And I play that way without a device. If the boy needs a piece of plastic to keep him in line, I don't want him.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/26/2013 9:46:55 PM)
1) Unlike many here I actually like being a key holder. I wouldn't say the devices themselves are hot, but they are fun. Watching a boy roll around on the floor holding his nuts and crying because he got a hardon and can't make it go away.....that is hot. But I'm a sadist what do you expect me to say. 2) 3 years.

LadyPact -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/26/2013 10:25:14 PM)
Count Me as another who would say zero. I'm into keys for things such as an acknowledgment of a symbol but not in a sense that it turns Me on. Makes for a nice accessory on a bracelet. The actual chastity device? I don't have any interest in them. I prefer orgasm control without them.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/27/2013 4:45:28 AM)
fr 1.The devices themselves don't do much for me, though I can see the appeal in being in charge of someone's orgasms. Realistically, I'd be unlikely to make him go that long in between because I really like it when my partner gets off. In my house it'd be more likely that he'd only be forbidden when I wasn't around to enjoy it (which funnily enough, is the rule I live under now...) 2. I've never had a male sub, to date.

dmarcus13 -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/30/2013 8:53:22 PM)
Thank you everyone for your perspectives. I appreciate the input from these forums. It seems keyholding and devices are not really the cup of tea (aside from the rare gem I may find somewhere in the world). This really helps in understanding this in terms of interest levels. All the best!

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/31/2013 1:31:24 AM)
dmarcus - why don't you tell us the appeal from your perspective? I don't know about everyone else, but for me it's all about the mental connection. If I knew that my partner got a lot out of it, and I could understand exactly why, I could probably come to love it.

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/31/2013 2:16:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders dmarcus - why don't you tell us the appeal from your perspective? Yes please. I always like to know what drives people's desires even if they aren't my own.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/31/2013 5:39:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dmarcus13 Hi All! I'm new to chastity - though I've only made it 1 day in my cage so far. I have 2 questions for all the dommes out there... 1. On a scale of 1 to 10 - how hot is it (10 being highest) to hold the key to a locked sub? 2. What is the longest stretch of locked up time you've ever held a sub? Thank you everyone in advance for your insights to what's out there in the world :) Dmarcus13, can I just say for all the male subs out there that you have just won the "Veneer" trilogy of awards. That was so transparent that, even window washers are wondering how you thought you'd get away with that.

MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/31/2013 6:37:15 PM)
Hahaha, loving this part quote: ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain Watching a boy roll around on the floor holding his nuts and crying because he got a hardon and can't make it go away.....that is hot. But I'm a sadist what do you expect me to say.

MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/31/2013 6:50:12 PM)
To answer the OP's question, I happen to have a real thing for any sort of gizmo, especially if it clinks during movement. I also have a thing for self-correcting disciplinary devices (electric fences, etc). Chastity devices which cause pain upon arousal put a smile on My face. I like them because I don't have to keep REMINDING the male that he is to remain focused on Tasks I have assigned instead of his mind being on pleasing his cock. However, I'm not looking for romance or sex from My subs, so My interests run a different path than ones who are.

FieryOpal -> RE: Keyholding Questions (12/31/2013 8:46:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt Devices: zero on the hot scale for me. Sylvere's mention of car keys about sums it up. Now, orgasm control/denial, whole 'nother story. And I play that way without a device. If the boy needs a piece of plastic to keep him in line, I don't want him. I'll have to go into negative integers on this one. Not one iota of hotness. Nada. This is another one of those guy things, and mostly in their distorted imagination of what it takes to have their Mistress be in control of their c0cks. First off, if you as a male sub cannot control your d!ck, I don't want you. Like SylvereApLeanan, I also "work on the honor system." If I can't trust you, I don't want you. (3-4 months is brutal, however! As in blueballs, brutal. [:-]) Well put, NiceButMeanGirl: "Besides, if a guy's cock is in chastity, I can't use it. Where's the fun in that?" If I can't use it without that whole mess having to get disinfected first, [:'(] or it starting to atrophy, I definitely don't want it. [>:] The longest with orgasm control? I want to say 4-5 days, long enough for a guy's testicles to get heavy and swollen, where he's chomping at the bit. Then make him edge....

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Keyholding Questions (1/1/2014 9:09:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FieryOpal Like SylvereApLeanan, I also "work on the honor system." If I can't trust you, I don't want you. (3-4 months is brutal, however! As in blueballs, brutal. [:-]) Pfft. Ignoring his cock for 4 months wasn't brutal. The months I made him get himself hard several times over the course of each day and then do a little "worship ritual" at night where he had to edge but still wasn't allowed to have an orgasm...THAT was brutal. [:D]

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Keyholding Questions (1/1/2014 9:02:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan Pfft. Ignoring his cock for 4 months wasn't brutal. The months I made him get himself hard several times over the course of each day and then do a little "worship ritual" at night where he had to edge but still wasn't allowed to have an orgasm...THAT was brutal. [:D] OMG! [sm=rofl.gif]

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Keyholding Questions (1/2/2014 11:10:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan Pfft. Ignoring his cock for 4 months wasn't brutal. The months I made him get himself hard several times over the course of each day and then do a little "worship ritual" at night where he had to edge but still wasn't allowed to have an orgasm...THAT was brutal. [:D] OMG! [sm=rofl.gif] Glad you enjoyed that one. This is one of the reasons I'm not into devices. He couldn't have done any of that while wearing one and I'm too much of a sadist not to torture him. And what happened to the OP? Here I am, handing out free wank fodder, and he's nowhere to be found. Typical.

dmarcus13 -> RE: Keyholding Questions (1/2/2014 5:43:33 PM)
Hi there - yes, please let me explain things from my perspective. My drive is fairly high (like I'm sure it is for everyone on this site). Sometimes I think it's too high and it can get in the way of excelling in other areas of life (like work or health or something). The contraption is really kind of neat - it literally makes the cock feel nothing. The drive is there for moments and it is so intense - but it does take that intensity and channels it back into focus on other things (as personal things or service to others is almost immaterial). It's rather interesting - and escalating - i.e. I can go so long with self-discipline, I can only imagine what a partner in crime would bring. The interest level of the other is really multiplicative of the exercise in and of itself. :)

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Keyholding Questions (1/2/2014 7:27:35 PM)
Thank you ^^^ I use chastity/orgasm control in my partnerships to make someone focus on service, just as you described. It helps if you already have a partner to serve; then the whole process will have meaning. If you want to get very advanced with this concept, try doing it without the cage.

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