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hispossession -> more than sub-drop? (7/4/2006 1:12:51 PM)
I've read several of the posts on sub-drop and I don't think that is what I am dealing with... but I could be wrong... it's been known to happen [;)] I spend most of my time since returning from 3 weeks at my Master's being my normal functioning self... but every now and again I get this deep melancholy that just overcomes me and all I can do is cry. We didn't 'play' much and that's okay... the time I spent there was rather like incredibly hectic everyday life. I just miss him, and being there, so much that it feels like my heart is breaking. His wife and I also really deepened our friendship and I'm totally in love with their little boy too... their friends are amazing and it was just a primarily wonderful time... there were things that came up (mostly my not communicating my needs and bottling them up rather than telling him about them... we're working on that and it's going well) that were hard but good... I feel weak. I don't like this feeling. I am generally able to just get on with my life here since I know it has to be that way for now. I've brought this up to Master and asked him why am I having such a hard time of it this time... he's not sure either but is very supportive in telling me that it will be okay and that the time will pass and then we will be together again... smiles and lowers her eyes and then he strokes his girls hair and tells me I'm a good girl.... which always gets me to smile... Have any other slaves/submissives experienced this? What did you do to deal with it? It's been 3 weeks since I've come back from Master's home and it's not getting any better...

reticence -> RE: more than sub-drop? (7/4/2006 1:25:58 PM)
I think what you are experiencing is a phenomenon of long distance relationships. Yes, I have experienced it, it is really an awful feeling. Things will get back to "normal" soon and you will be ok. At least that is how it was with me. I would feel that every time I visited him. The length of time would vary, as would the length of time between my return home and the onset of the "missing" him. I know how bad it can be and if I can be of any help to you, dont hesitate to email me on the other side. BTW : In my opinion this is not "sub drop" What I have experienced as sub drop is a biochemical "crash" following heavy sub space. Other's opinion may vary, but I make a differentiation between the two. Good luck to you reti

babysburnin -> RE: more than sub-drop? (7/4/2006 2:13:47 PM)
I don't think it's "subdrop", but rather something very common among all people - you miss being with someone you care for - which is even more difficult after spending time with them. I don't think there are any magical cures (like the eye of nute and a pinch of dried frog mixed with an eyelash of the loved one). Maybe it's not getting better because you are realizing the limitations of the relationship - and limitations are never fun (at least for me).

hispossession -> RE: more than sub-drop? (7/5/2006 12:42:43 AM)
smiles thank you for your words... I just can't wait until it gets better... I don't like the feeling of being sad like this and I would hate it if Master were to be adversely affected by my melancholy... giggles now if I can find my reciept for the eye of newt... I've already taken the frog out of the dehydrator... I'm looking for work that will bring me within in 2-3 hours of Master... it's slow and frustrating but it's going to be much better than 20+ hours!!

MistressOfGa -> RE: more than sub-drop? (7/5/2006 12:51:59 AM)
hispossession, I am not a sub, but it might help you to know that what you are experiencing can also be experienced by the dominant as well. You miss him, and it sounds like not just him, but his whole family and friends. It is perfectly natural to cry on occasion, when it becomes a problem is when all you do is cry. You are doing the right things, you are keeping busy. Have you asked your Master if perhaps you can journal and share with him your feelings as they are happening? Good luck to you. Long distance relationships are hard and heartbreaking at times. No matter which side of the fence you are on.

Sirandlittle1 -> RE: more than sub-drop? (7/5/2006 2:52:23 AM)
Im in a long distance relationship with my two eldest children. What you describe is exactly how i feel when we have recently parted. It takes us all some time to adjust once again, to the loss. My daughter particularly suffers bad with this. As she says, 'in some ways, i wish i didnt see you at all, then i wouldnt crash afterward so hard'. When they have just gone, what i tend to do, is cry a lot for a couple of days, then slap my arse and get back into gear. I write to them, share 'time' with them by 'thinking' of them. I send photo's. I keep mailing them, i openly discuss how i and they are coping with this together. We all use, distraction as a technique. Plan fun things to do, do it, then write and tell the other about it. Its easier to cope with missing a loved one, when you think they are having fun. If you want the best for someone, you want them to be happy. Soon, that ache dies down to tolerable level again. If this were my Sir i was missing, it would be the same. I dont see it as a subdrop issue. More a long distance relationship one. Any relationship. little1

srllile7 -> RE: more than sub-drop? (7/5/2006 3:19:54 AM)
Yes I call this my so in love it hurts feeling . You try and go about your day but all you can think of is that someone that is so far away. Whats helped me alot is having a set in stone date for the next visit then i set a goal to have met by then for myself. It may be something like workout everyday between now and then, or get pedicure and manicure once a week so i will be completly hot, other times its something as simple as going out and finding the perfect outfit and undies for the next visit. IT gives me a little something to do and still keeps that someone in the forefront of my mind with a little less pain.

hispossession -> RE: more than sub-drop? (7/5/2006 10:06:29 PM)
again... thank you all. I'm hoping that this will pass and pass quickly... it's just taking so much longer than last time. I'm sure that has to do with spending so much more time there this time as well as making such huge strides forward in the relationship aspect of things... I have to admit that while I'm kinda glad to know that I'm not alone in these feelings I do feel badly for anyone experiencing this kind of ache... ...

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